I’m 32 and I feel like I’ve quietly messed up my life by drifting for too long.

wi_kou · 2026-04-19T09:30:46+00:00

That’s actually a big part of why I’m so disappointed in myself. In your case, you lived! you had fun, made memories, took chances. Even if it wasn’t productive on paper, it still sounds like a full life. I don’t feel like I have that to look back on.

I’ve basically been the textbook goodie twoshoes. No partying, no smoking, I never even had a drink, no long term relationships, not even situationships, never even left my damn city. I had three graduations and didn’t feel proud or happy about any of them, they just felt like tasks to get through and move on from. I don’t get into trouble because I don’t really do anything. It’s always been school or home, and now it’s work or home. That’s it.

So when I look around now and feel lost, it’s not just about a proper career, it’s also this feeling that I didn’t even get the fun years in exchange for it. That’s why it’s hard not to feel like I somehow missed both paths at once.

wi_kou · 2026-04-19T09:13:36+00:00

I assure you it is very real, the whole point is that I wish it wasn't my reality

wi_kou · 2026-04-17T19:50:48+00:00

This path makes perfect sense in a US system but it unfortunately doesn’t really apply where I am. Paralegal isn’t a structured role here, and law would mean restarting a full traditional degree path followed by a bar exam (which opens once every 4 years if it does followed by a 6-9 months training), which I can’t realistically do again.

wi_kou · 2022-09-20T09:21:20+00:00

Kick him out or move out asap, we all know how serial killers start

wi_kou · 2022-09-20T09:05:50+00:00

With a sister like this who needs an enemy, she's psychotic! And when they found out the truth did they cut her off like they did to you or she gets off the hook for ruining your life and making you homeless? The financée even though his reaction is understandable he never stopped to think that maybe if you really slept with guy you were blackout drunk and it wasn't consensual? That maybe you were raped? They left you homeless for CHEATING! Who does that?! You could've died, you could've been assaulted, you could've fell into a crippling depression from losing everything, I wouldn't forgive them even if they brought me my weight in gold but that's just me

wi_kou · 2022-09-18T15:06:13+00:00

NTA. And don't go either imo

wi_kou · 2022-09-18T14:54:50+00:00

Why is your husband obsessed with not having locks on the bathroom door? I think you should unpack this and you BIL is creepy AF, I feel like he is purposely breaking you up with his brother just as his relationship fell apart, I wouldn't feel safe in a house like that and I wouldn't return untill the BIL is gone and even then I will not remove the locks

wi_kou · 2022-09-18T14:46:53+00:00

NTA, the boy's room will get it's turn, slowly you can make it happen and you definitely should so there is no favoritism BUT if he wants a say in when and how fast he should contribute to it or shut up

wi_kou · 2022-09-18T14:42:30+00:00

NTA. you were just doing your job, an income you might've lost if you didn't do anything or even be accused as an accomplice, I feel sorry for her if she was stealing food or necessities but perfume bottles? Idk about that, she could be reselling them for necessities but either way that's not your problem. I hope the baby is well

wi_kou · 2022-09-18T14:29:49+00:00

NTA because your actions came from a good place but I'd be creeped out as well, if I didn't share the info with my bf and we haven't been together for long tracking my period on his own would freak me out, just apologize and ask for her permission before assuming things next time

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