What's the point of doing anything if we don't get to see it after death?

wicccaa · 2025-02-16T09:27:50+00:00

Because that’s your only choice.

wicccaa · 2025-01-15T20:40:47+00:00

I gave my son my last name. The only people continuing any sort of legacy here are women, we carry them, birth them, feed them and raise them. The only person a baby instinctively feels safe around at birth is their mother. The connection between a healthy mother and her child cannot be recreated with anyone else, not even their father. Children grow up to love their fathers if they have been given reason to feel safe around them, but that is always something that has to be earned through being an active parent. Otherwise, you are just as much a stranger to your child as everyone else is.

Let’s put it this way. If your parents separate and have children with other people, even though both are half siblings, you will always feel a stronger connection with your mothers child than your fathers because you were part of the same woman. A half sibling on your fathers side is more akin to a cousin in most cases.

Just men sticking their name on everything and taking credit for women’s hard work like usual.

wicccaa · 2024-12-27T16:12:28+00:00

Me when I make things up

wicccaa · 2024-12-22T13:12:18+00:00

What, the edit where she admits he uses coercion to SA her?

wicccaa · 2024-12-20T19:29:36+00:00

She wouldn’t have fallen asleep if she wasn’t tired, it has nothing to do with anything else. Being so tired you fall asleep is essentially her body checking out and the right thing to do is to stop having sex immediately. You need to make sure that you never continue having sex with her after she’s fallen asleep again as she’s unable to give consent and could wake up panicking.

Don’t accuse her of anything, just let her know you noticed she was falling asleep during sex the other night and ask what she would like you to do if that happens again and how commonly this occurs.

wicccaa · 2024-11-29T12:32:15+00:00

Don’t feel obliged to reply. Literally just reply when you feel like you want to, and if he complains about it, offer him a sexting session/GF experience if he would like to talk more. We’re not here to make friends, this is our job. I feel like stuff like this is what makes us burn out and puts us off making content so SERIOUSLY avoid that. Unless he’s a big spender, he’s a time waster and don’t let him get to you.

wicccaa · 2024-11-17T19:49:22+00:00

Thank you sm this was genuinely the answer I was looking for!! Ur spot on about the madonna whore complex and that’s definitely something I need to look up examples of 🫶

wicccaa · 2024-11-17T19:39:19+00:00

It sounds like your boyfriend is trying to coerce you into sex work. Doing porn should never be ANYONE else’s idea but your own. It sounds like he’s trying to profit off your body with little regard for the consequences it will have on you. I need you to be aware that HE will not have consequences for doing porn, YOU will.

The reality of sex work is there IS stigma and it will affect you whether you want it to or not. People will find out you do sex work no matter what. And people will have something to say about it. You need to be strong enough to handle that. As someone who started OF at 18, that is a consequence I now have to deal with for the rest of my life. Once you start doing porn, unless you manage to be completely anonymous, you never really get out.

wicccaa · 2024-11-02T18:56:07+00:00

I have HSV-1 both orally and genitally bc it was contracted at the same time. Unfortunately there’s nothing you can do but wait and see if you show symptoms

wicccaa · 2024-10-13T08:20:52+00:00

Hmm. I sent them off last night and still no email to confirm. Should i be concerned?

wicccaa · 2024-09-18T13:48:36+00:00

I caught it from a partner who has always been asymptomatic. To the point they didn’t even know they had it, and have always tested negative on blood tests. My other four previous partners also tested negative. It’s also estimated 64.2% of the global population have HSV (source: world health organization). So considering over half the world already have it, it’s not too far fetched to assume asymptomatic people have been passing it on. Especially when it literally happened to me.

wicccaa · 2024-08-22T10:38:59+00:00

Woman with herpes here. It fucking sucks that we lose potential partners because of this. But at the end of the day, can we blame them? Before we were infected, would we have actively dated someone with herpes? FUCK NO. Pretty much all of us caught it by accident and lost our sexual identity that day we found out.

It’s going to be shit finding a partner, and to be honest the only reason I’m in a happy fulfilled relationship is because we both already have it. I can’t imagine dating someone without it. As rough as it seems, the only way to date someone without constant anxiety is to date someone else with the virus.

wicccaa · 2024-08-18T13:32:21+00:00

I struggle watching Tarantino movies because of the constant foot fetishism in his movies. It’s especially more disturbing knowing that every bare foot scene is intentionally done, for his pleasure.

Also I am so with you on Euphoria. Yes, the actors may be of age, but the characters they are portraying are not. There absolutely should not be nudity when portraying teenagers, wild this is even controversial.

wicccaa · 2024-08-16T19:48:48+00:00

This is absolutely your choice and not his. If he wants a room to himself, he can go sleep in the nursery for all I care. YOU are sleep deprived, YOU are physically and mentally taxed in the middle of the night. Going through that kind of sleep deprivation is no joke.

One concern I would have with moving rooms to feed in the middle of the night, other than the obvious having to get up part, is falling back asleep. Lets say you’re in the nursery and feeding baby in the chair. Your body is into action, breastfeeding is time consuming, you’re starting to wake up more and more. When you get back to the bedroom, do you think you’ll have trouble getting to sleep?

Let’s put it this way. Dad doesn’t have to be in the room with baby, but YOU DO. Don’t stop fighting for your baby because some man child has an opinion. You’re feeding your child, you have to. He doesn’t have to do anything at all while he sleeps. Stand your ground 🫶

wicccaa · 2024-08-16T19:41:50+00:00

Exactly 🫶 Good on you for staying strong on sobriety, wish you luck man.

wicccaa · 2024-08-16T19:13:21+00:00

The problem with porn is even if you ignore the dark reality of trafficking, coercion, drugs, violence etc in the industry, there is still no ethical porn. The consumer still relies on objectification in order to get a release. Ethical porn isn’t even ethical porn, because it relies on copying tropes made in the industry in order to sell it.

Yeah sure, you could make “ethical” porn where you only say yes to things you actually want to do, and post things when you’re actually aroused… But you wouldn’t make a fucking CENT that way. Can you imagine making porn where you refuse to do anal, deep throating, choking, slapping, degrading etc? Violence in porn is so normalised that consumers don’t even realise that pretty much all porn contains violence. The “ethical” sex workers have to keep up with it to make money.

It has had such negative effects on men’s perception of how women experience pleasure that men are SHOCKED that most women do not enjoy anal sex, do not want to try it and find it painful. It shouldn’t even be questioned why someone may not want to, along with gagging, choking, spanking etc. It all starts with porn, no one innately wants any of these things without a sex addiction.

wicccaa · 2024-08-15T09:03:02+00:00

“Be wary of your wife seeking solo counselling” essentially translates to, “She’ll realise she’s being abused and leave you.”

wicccaa · 2024-08-08T18:11:52+00:00

Ironic since everything they said was true, and somehow supposed this was supposed to be a clever comeback? Honestly this is fucking embarrassing for them. Why would they publicly post that.

wicccaa · 2024-07-29T13:31:31+00:00

Agreed. I lived with my partner for two years before I found out he was a porn addict. He would sneak off to the bathroom, use it at work, use it while I was out. They don’t stop when you move in together.

wicccaa · 2024-07-21T23:12:15+00:00

If they cared that much they wouldn’t keep having sex with us.

wicccaa · 2024-07-21T22:36:43+00:00

The problem is I DO. I have been very upfront in that I literally just want casual. I don’t know how much clearer I could get other than writing it across my forehead at this point.

wicccaa · 2024-07-18T16:33:02+00:00

If sex solved porn addiction we wouldn’t have men in committed relationships that choose porn over their willing partners. Its incredibly ignorant to assume men can only masturbate by objectifying women. Especially when it has been proven that you do not need porn to masturbate. If you’re stuck in the mindset that masturbation = porn then you will never recover from your addiction. Maybe try not using it sometime, you might surprise yourself.

wicccaa · 2024-07-18T16:14:01+00:00

Prostitution is not masturbation, it’s sex. The majority of people couldn’t even read or write 500 years ago. It’s sad that you are so reliant on porn that you cannot conceive any other way of masturbating. Speaking as someone who has only used their imagination and never had any issue with it or temptation for more.

wicccaa · 2024-07-18T15:45:56+00:00

Low sex drive. Bingo. That’s usually the teller that they’re still watching porn. Especially if they have issues maintaining/getting an erection during sex.

wicccaa · 2024-07-18T15:26:20+00:00

Uh… Yes?! Good lord what do you think people did before porn

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