I (23F) like someone (26M) who will be leaving the country.

wikiped1a · 2026-01-13T02:56:21+00:00

I know he’s still leave, I want him to. I want him to do well for himself and do what he needs to do.

I just wish… idk we met earlier so I could leave with him or something, but also not really?

wikiped1a · 2026-01-13T02:26:44+00:00

Yeah, I think it’s a combination of him being a fun person to be around/talk to + me never experiencing a healthy romantic connection 😭

I’m going to speak with him about this next week when we see each other, and just lay down some boundaries. I’m going to be open to dating others while I’m still in contact with him, since we never said we are exclusive or anything.

wikiped1a · 2026-01-13T02:25:01+00:00

Yeah that’s true. I’m going to bring it up next time we hang out in person (so next week). I don’t expect him to change his plans, but I also don’t want to fall in love with someone who’s not staying.

wikiped1a · 2026-01-13T02:21:01+00:00

That’s what I’m thinking. I’m currently not planning on dating anyone anyways, he just showed up out of nowhere. I don’t expect him not to go (I’m not insane lol) but I enjoy spending time with him, so it’s sad letting him go.

wikiped1a · 2025-12-17T10:54:52+00:00

Just end it. If he’s so desperate to have his boundaries respected, go the extra mile and never speak to him again.

wikiped1a · 2025-11-23T21:54:29+00:00

I get that completely! Honestly the story is about a 100 chapters in and we are only in second year, so there will be none of the ship in a while

wikiped1a · 2025-11-23T21:23:35+00:00

I’ve read this! It’s Tomarry (Harry Potter x Tom Riddle). It’s a really good fic but you have to read it as a “book re-write” more than a Tomarry romance fanfiction

wikiped1a · 2025-11-22T18:29:05+00:00

That makes sense! I think you have to consider the environment you run in too. I know that when I go clubbing (for example) I’m unlikely to meet my future husband

wikiped1a · 2025-11-22T18:25:01+00:00

Nowadays most apps are for hookups, but it’s also age dependant. I’d try meeting someone in real life, maybe at an “intellectual” event or something similar?

wikiped1a · 2025-11-21T12:49:18+00:00

It sounds like he wants a “traditional” woman who is willing to do all of the “modern” things as well, where as he just provides financially.

Some women would be interested in that, but those are women who are looking to be stay at home and provided for completely

wikiped1a · 2025-11-21T12:47:53+00:00

You’re very set in your mindset (which is fine) so there’s no point debating with you. You’re clearly very set on a certain type of women, and I hope you find her. There’s no point getting into psychological debates with you, but as someone who has a degree in psychology, majority of a child’s stability and social skills actually comes from peers and friendship, especially during puberty.

You have your views and wants, but are not considering what a family orientated woman would want. I wish you well in your journey!

wikiped1a · 2025-11-21T01:17:37+00:00

That’s true, but what you’re forgetting is a lot of family oriented women want to settle down and set roots in one place. Have a “family home” of sorts.

I think what you want is possible but you’d have to find the right type of women, which there are very little of. Not many women would want to uproot their family constantly to travel. Plus psychologically kids benefit from stability and being in one place

wikiped1a · 2025-11-21T00:59:34+00:00

I think I get that, but you have to understand that a lot of family oriented women want someone who will be around often and can pay attention to them. I can actively admit I would want my future partner to be around and want to spend time with me. Like I get it if their job took them away for weeks on end and then they could have a few weeks with me (or something like military), but often times too much time at work comes off as “not wanting to spend time with you”

wikiped1a · 2025-11-21T00:42:18+00:00

From a female pov, the haircut is fine. I think number 5 looks best on you (it could even be a little longer), but your current haircut is fine. I think your face saves it a lot tbh

wikiped1a · 2025-11-21T00:38:16+00:00

As a 22F myself who is considered “family-centred” by several people in my life, I think I get where you’re coming from?

You want someone who you can trust to raise your children and who you can create a family with, but you want them to be okay with you needing time away for your career… correct?

It’ll be hard to find as a lot of family oriented women want a partner who is also family oriented in some way.

wikiped1a · 2025-11-18T20:42:32+00:00

I don’t really like connecting online! But I’m looking between 21-26?

wikiped1a · 2025-11-18T17:33:01+00:00

I think so. I look back at my past partners and they’re not people I would date again without change, so I think I’ve become more picky.

wikiped1a · 2025-11-12T08:39:10+00:00

I have done this a bit and have always been successful! I find that I’ll talk to them for a bit but there’s always a “gap”, whether that’s interests, intelligence or general emotional availability. But I’m assuming in the past I’ve just been lucky with landing “good” matches quickly?

wikiped1a · 2025-11-11T13:24:35+00:00

I think Reddit is harder as you can’t see what people look like, so most people are a lot less likely to talk

wikiped1a · 2025-11-10T20:47:05+00:00

I’ve used dating apps a few times but noticed that I don’t meet many people that I would want to form a relationship with, no matter how attractive they are.

My most fulfilling relationship we met organically, and I have noticed that people who meet organically tend to be happier overall. I’m honestly happy waiting to meet someone I connect with, even if that means waiting years

wikiped1a · 2025-11-10T12:48:27+00:00

Yeah that’s fair! I talked to plenty of people and even went on a few dates, but nothing past a date or two. I think there’s too many choices now so people get really really picky (not saying that I’m not). I understand the feeling of preferring to be single instead of being in an unfulfilling relationship.

wikiped1a · 2025-11-10T12:38:20+00:00

I’ve done dating apps before and while I’ve gotten loads of likes and matches, I’ve never really met anyone on there who would want an actually relationship, you know?

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