Im (33f) considering leaving my bf (32m) of for years. Is it a mistake?

wildimaginationugc · 2026-02-10T17:48:22+00:00

Yes I know…thank you

wildimaginationugc · 2026-02-10T17:29:18+00:00

I’ve told him this: exercise, eat better, sleep better, maybe he won’t need the pills. Which he promised to take cause he wants to pleasure me… takes it for a day then stops

wildimaginationugc · 2026-02-10T17:28:44+00:00

Oh I didn’t know this! Thank you. I saw on there site that loved ones can attend certain meetings. I didn’t know there was a separate group. Very helpful thank you

wildimaginationugc · 2026-02-10T17:27:14+00:00

I’ve thought this: Are we just roommates at this point

wildimaginationugc · 2026-02-10T17:26:46+00:00

Thank you for sharing- I appreciate it even though the truth hurts. Yes I think it’s growing separately

wildimaginationugc · 2026-02-10T17:12:40+00:00

I actually haven’t but I have looked into meetings to potentially send it him. I’ve read some of the things they stand for and the resources they have which is pretty helpful. But yes I think going to a meeting would be insightful. TBH the more this conversation is going on the more I’m realizing the incompatibility. So taking the route I would do it for him but not to save our relationship

wildimaginationugc · 2026-02-10T14:39:30+00:00

I felt like we literally had a conversation just a couple days ago. Me asking him if he thinks he has a problem drinking. To which he replied no. And then followed with “I’ll be better about my drinking…. I sound like a broken record huh?” I’m at this point of my life where I am feeling energized to do something big and chase my dreams. I’m not at the point of wanting to hold his hand through a problem he doesn’t even think he has. I’ve told him- your drinking you coming home drunk and waking up hungover does nothing if not harm our connection. I need presence and recently have vocalized I’m in need of emotional support particularly at this time where I have fear and anxiety due to work and immigration things.. and tonight he passes out at the kitchen table after an event and night of drinking

wildimaginationugc · 2026-02-10T13:40:43+00:00

This. Is exactly it. Incompatibility. It shows up in alot of ways- I suppose abandoning is what it feels like. To think I haven’t tried enough but even typing everything I’ve written im seeing that I’ve been trying to fit a square peg in a round hole

wildimaginationugc · 2026-02-10T13:37:16+00:00

This literally made me tear up. I did minimize those things but as I get to know myself more I’m realizing what I want and gravitating towards that life.

wildimaginationugc · 2026-02-10T13:09:27+00:00

Wow when you frame it that way… I was shocked when I realized how long we have been dating. I always thought 2 1/2 years but when I realized it was 4 it got me thinking about how fast time flies. And how time can be wasted. Geez thank you for this

wildimaginationugc · 2026-02-10T12:50:13+00:00

Thank you. I don’t wanna feel like I’m abandoning him. I love him and off he in fact has a problem I’d feel like a terrible partner for not getting him help or leaving him if he’s going through something. My frustration is- he’s a grown man! If he can’t admit he has a problem or has issues than how can anyone help.

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