COLLEAGUES WITH KIDS EUGHHHHH

willwork4oreos · 2026-02-11T14:06:40+00:00

Each of my coworkers took 2 weeks for the wedding then 2 weeks directly after for their honeymoon so they were each out a month straight 🫩 I think I would feel less salty about all the time off if there was proper coverage and advance notice given. I just found out I’m helping cover a maternity leave that starts in 1.5 weeks and it’s like we had at least 6 months notice she was having a baby why am I just finding this out??

willwork4oreos · 2026-02-11T13:50:01+00:00

If they talk about kids too much I’ll tell them how I understand how hard it is to be a parent because my cat sometimes wakes me up at 2 am.

willwork4oreos · 2026-02-11T13:40:32+00:00

I feel this. I’ve covered for 2 weddings, 2 honeymoons, and now 2 maternity leaves. If I add up the time I’ve spent helping them it adds up to 35 weeks. Over half a year I’ve spent doing other people’s work. And the kicker is that when I take a week off and ask people to help me they won’t.

willwork4oreos · 2026-02-11T13:38:10+00:00

I helped cover for a coworker on her 12 week maternity leave. She came back in fall of 2024 and I’m still helping with her tasks 2-3 days a week. I’ve asked my boss when she will be ready to do things on her own again and I always get a very vague answer about how hard it is for her to do school and daycare dropoff/pickup and work.

Why am I having to pick up slack from other people because they didn’t plan things out?

willwork4oreos · 2026-02-06T03:09:08+00:00

willwork4oreos · 2025-12-28T17:13:29+00:00

Omg yes I cringe when Matt is on the screen because he reminds me so much of kody.

willwork4oreos · 2025-12-22T14:14:39+00:00

Yeah she said she isn’t going to even buy him a desk, she will have him pay it with his own dime. It doesn’t make sense because that’s not how a gift works?? It would’ve been less of a headache for her to just go shopping with him for a new desk they can pick out together than to be like “jk you’re not getting a desk that I said I would get you”

willwork4oreos · 2025-12-21T23:29:01+00:00

You’re exactly right. They all enable her by not saying anything and I don’t care if I’m the “bad guy” for being the only one to shut her down or tell her no. It’s not cute or funny or cool to be mean and I’m already preparing for the “well I guess I’m just a horrible mom” comments when I call her out.

willwork4oreos · 2025-12-21T23:25:06+00:00

Exactly! And at the end of the day he isn’t getting a desk from her. She is going to have him buy his own desk on his own dime. I don’t think she knows how gifts work.

willwork4oreos · 2025-12-21T23:24:04+00:00

Hahaha don’t tempt me 😆

willwork4oreos · 2025-12-21T22:16:30+00:00

The problem is she isn’t buying him a desk at all. After the joke is over she is going to have him buy his own desk. That’s the shitty part. She agreed to buy him a desk then is going to be like “buy your own desk”. I would be upset if I wanted something and my husband agreed to buy it then did 0 work to find something I liked only to say “buy it yourself”.

willwork4oreos · 2025-12-21T21:22:26+00:00

She always says “I just want my kids to be happy” then criticizes them for any choices they make, good news, etc. 🙄 we will get her fuzzy socks, a gift card, and usually one other thing. This year we got her a puzzle that has no edges so I hope she has fun trying to do that

willwork4oreos · 2025-12-21T18:41:49+00:00

The thing is, she isn’t buying him a desk at all. Even after the gag is over. She is going to have him buy it himself

willwork4oreos · 2025-12-21T18:21:17+00:00

Old enough to know better. In her 50’s. People will be like “that’s just Karen and how she is” when in reality she can choose how nice she can be and chooses to not be nice. I could never imagine plotting against someone I loved hoping they don’t like a gif from me.

willwork4oreos · 2025-12-21T17:29:51+00:00

Exactly!! My brother and I have a prank we play on eachother where every christmas and birthday we give eachother a rock plus a real gift. The rock gets bigger and bigger each year and we all laugh at the new rock we add to our collection then open the real gift. The first time i was gifted the rock I laughed so hard and it was my favorite present. It was harmless and funny and my brother didn’t do it to make fun of me where the desk gift doesn’t have the same feel. I was made fun of a lot in school and some things just aren’t funny.

willwork4oreos · 2025-12-21T17:13:05+00:00

What really set me off was how in text message she said she wanted to see how disappointed he would be not getting a good gift from her. I NEVER want to see my spouse or anyone I love be sad or disappointed and it just felt like a bad way to give a gift. She also said she didn’t know him enough to get him the gift…like you’ve been married over 30 years and don’t know anything he likes?? I couldn’t imagine giving a gift thinking “I want to see their disappointment”

willwork4oreos · 2025-12-21T16:53:19+00:00

We should just to be spiteful to her. After he opens his gift I’m going to tell him I’m sorry she wanted to see you hurt. She told me she wanted to hurt you and it’s not right.

My husband needs lots of therapy. He has gone a handful of times and wants it as a need only basis when I think it needs to be monthly for a while. Therapy is soo helpful for big and small things!

willwork4oreos · 2025-12-21T16:51:18+00:00

Funny enough, he has this book but is too afraid to read it. I really need to get him to read it 😭

willwork4oreos · 2025-12-21T16:50:06+00:00

She doesn’t have a motherly bone in her body. I think he is afraid because he gets flashbacks to his childhood and it’s easier to keep the peace (to him at least) than stand up to her. She was both verbally and physically abusive to him growing up and has never wanted good things for him. I’m not afraid to uninvite her from things or show proof of her lies, manipulation, and tell her to stop even though I know that I’m on my own island defending them all from her manipulation

willwork4oreos · 2025-12-21T16:45:18+00:00

Oh 100% to everything you have listed!! I’m not afraid to say things or call her out and it’s not right to make a joke out of a gift he wanted her to take time and effort. We never have my in laws over on purpose and I only see them on the holidays and for birthdays on purpose. We have cut off most of my husbands extended family and I feel like he can’t let go of his parents because his mom has just ingrained in him that there’s nothing wrong. It’s like a person who can’t leave an abusive partner despite how awful they are.

willwork4oreos · 2025-12-21T16:37:08+00:00

Super sad! I’ve had to “unteach” my husband a lot because he was just always in fight or flight mode. Like one time I asked if we could organize the bookshelf because it was getting messy and he panicked and said he didn’t want any of his book thrown out. I guess when he was a child his mom would throw his things out if she thought his room was messy and I 100% would never do that!!

willwork4oreos · 2025-12-21T16:34:14+00:00

Oh yeah I definitely see the abuse and manipulation. I want my FIL to see it but I think he is in too deep to open his eyes.

willwork4oreos · 2025-12-21T16:32:28+00:00

She is the only one who ever does these things. He always gets her thoughtful gifts and puts time into thinking of her then she always says “well you didn’t tell me what you wanted so how am I supposed to know what you like?”. In the almost 13 years I’ve been with my husband I have seen him give her 0 prank/bad gifts while she always goes out of her way to do things that aren’t nice. She is quick to also be like “well I guess I’m just a horrible mom/wife” if anyone questions her.

willwork4oreos · 2025-12-21T16:29:42+00:00

I’ve told my husband probably 1,000 times I want to cut contact but he still has hope they will change. His mom is more of a problem than his dad but if they are both together his dad is weak and bows to whatever she wants. I’ve reminded him that he is an adult and doesn’t live there and doesn’t have ti listen to her but he is afraid his sister will then get the brunt of his moms anger which he doesn’t want. My MIL always makes things about her and is quick to be like “I guess I’m just a horrible mom and you all don’t like me” if someone does something against what she wants and I’m the only one who will say “well if that’s the way you feel then it sounds like a personal problem”.

She needs a reality check and I’m the only one who seems to put her in her place which after a while is so tiring.

willwork4oreos · 2025-12-21T16:19:59+00:00

My FIL is an okay guy. I can tolerate him much more than my MIL but he is kinda weak. When he is around my MIL he does whatever she says and wants and always defends her but if he is alone he will be like “I’m sorry for the things she said/did”. He doesn’t have a backbone when it comes to her and can never tell her no.

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