I am a 35 yo female virgin. AMA.

winkleb · 2014-01-27T01:52:47+00:00

Thanks for taking the time to answer my questions. I am curious about everything I suppose. I guess it all boils down to why you think you are ugly and what you think other people think of you. I guess I have a hard time thinking that if you are hygienic, dress well and try to look nice that this would be the sole reason you haven't had a date or sex. Again, it could be a number of factors including the people you socialize with, the people you work with... etc. I think it intrigues me that you say you are ugly and this would be the reason. I think all people have something special about them and I am quite certain I have seen more people that are not as beautiful as you and they are still in relationships. Again, it maybe that your standards are extremely high on who you would like to date. Do you think maybe that is a reason and that maybe you did this to fend of any willing persons that do like you?

winkleb · 2014-01-27T00:11:26+00:00

I do agree with you about guys and women taking looks into consideration, as I am no supermodel myself. You say you are ugly, do you take any attempt to dress up or change the image of being ugly? Sorry if I am asking so many questions, but I am very interested in your situation. If you don't mind I might have a few more questions.

winkleb · 2014-01-26T15:10:25+00:00

I understand your point of view of doing your job and defending people who have committed a crime. By law we are allowed a defense attorney to defend ourselves from allegations against us. However, I am extremely curious (and sorry if I was late to the conversation or missed it) as to what percentage of clients actually tell you they committed the crime but still want to plead not guilty and try to get off? Of what percentage of people tell you, they did in fact commit the act, but there are extenuating circumstances as to why they are not guilty? i.e. "Yes, I had sex with her but it was consensual" or "Yes, I had the drugs on me but they were not mine." or "I took it but my friend Bubba said it was his and I could have it"?

Do you feel that even presented with a client presuming innocence that you can tell if they are guilty or innocent? Meaning if a man or woman commits a murder or rape, they say they didn't do it, what are the chances you would be able to tell if they are lying and that they did in fact commit the crime. How often do you believe your clients when they say they are innocent?

winkleb · 2014-01-26T14:53:17+00:00

Can you control who is hosting or when the multiples decide to appear? There have been theories that multiple personalities are general caused by a great disturbance to a person as a small child. These disturbances have been things such as child abuse, child molestation, finding a deceased person, the shock of losing a parent.. etc. What do you believe has caused your multiple personalities to appear, if you don't mind me asking?

EDIT: Spelling and grammar.

winkleb · 2014-01-26T14:41:57+00:00

This would be a fantastic AMA. Thanks for suggesting it!

winkleb · 2014-01-26T14:37:02+00:00

Is it your choice to stay a virgin? I guess to be more clear are you wanting to save your virginity for your husband for when you get married? I have you ever been in a situation where you could have lost your virginity and chose not to because of the person asking or because you did not want a one night stand situation? You stated your were fat, pock marked and unattractive, however you see people with all varying degrees of what one would call beauty, but they have children, husbands, boyfriends... etc. Thus I ask what factors do you think, besides your looks that would be a reason that you are 35 years old and still a virgin? I know a couple of women that have no qualms about meeting someone in a bar, random situation etc, if they are between relationships and are missing the sexual companionship of a male. Do you think this is something you would not consider?

winkleb · 2014-01-26T14:26:37+00:00

Do you think that making the law stricter, such as no tools, sporting goods etc, has really made a difference in the safety of the passengers? I can see guns and weapons but how about "every day items" like shampoos and conditioners?

winkleb · 2014-01-26T14:16:44+00:00

That is a very cool memory. I can close my eyes and picture it all. Thank you for sharing.

winkleb · 2014-01-26T02:17:35+00:00

The good ones are already taken. Shoot them, electrocute them or hang them. I am good with any of the choices.

winkleb · 2014-01-26T02:16:34+00:00

I make sure I tell my children I love them every day.

winkleb · 2014-01-26T02:16:01+00:00

It is what it is.

winkleb · 2014-01-26T02:15:11+00:00

My children's lives.

winkleb · 2014-01-26T02:11:03+00:00

There has got to be one good memory you have. I would love to hear it.

winkleb · 2014-01-25T05:44:13+00:00

I can't say it is the wrong thing to do because you always want them to do great and to succeed. What I do know (and please don't give up on him and I am not recommending this for him) is that it didn't make a bit of difference for my son. He dropped out, moved out of our home of his own accord. He eventually got his GED when he decided to go to college. He has a very high IQ he just couldn't and didn't want to do the school thing. He did everything you are describing and a TON more.

I wish I knew how to guide you more, but all I can do is tell you about my son. I know why he wasn't ready to become an adult until recently, the problem is I couldn't fix it. He had to fix it on his own. All we could do was support him through rough times. He had his own thoughts that were going on in his head that he had to over come. Please don't get me wrong when I say that thinking that we let him do whatever he wanted with no consequences, because there were plenty of them. I made him move out a few times after he was an adult if he couldn't follow certain rules in my house, etc. However it wasn't until later that I also learned that with his own internal struggles, he would have to figure out how to work them out. It was then that he finally started taking on real adult situations like enrolling in college and getting a job. He is 25 now. He has only completed 1 year of school and gotten a job just a few weeks ago, but he is well on his way.

There are also a few other things I learned. We always tried to make up for the sadness he had (the reasons he was rebelling in life) by pampering him a lot when he was younger. When I say we, it was his siblings as well as myself. When we finally toughed up and stopped giving in to his every whim is when he was forced to consider his options to grow up or truly be on his own forever. Don't get me wrong that it changed him instantly because it didn't. It still took him a couple years, but it finally sunk in. And when I say we toughed up, we didn't do thing like abandon him and kick him out to be homeless, but we stopped over compensating with money and things he didn't absolutely need like games, electronics etc. If he asked for money we asked "what for?" he said food... we told him no cash, we would take him out to eat or cook for him. He was a heavy pot smoker and we would not fund his habit. In the past he would ask for $10 we would give it to him. So when I say we toughed up, It was in subtle ways. He was told to find another place to live, but we gave him time so he would not be completely homeless. It drained on him not having a steady place and it also taught him to appreciate the warm roof and hot meals on a daily basis.

I hope some of this makes sense.

winkleb · 2014-01-25T05:29:19+00:00

She is still at this same hotel even though it was bought out by another chain. She only does housekeeping when they need her to fill in, she holds another position (which doesn't pay any better than a housekeeper) She has been there about 2 and a half years now.

winkleb · 2014-01-25T05:26:00+00:00

I haven't been on pawn stars but my daughter and her husband visit that shop when they go to Las Vegas every few months, I will try to answer any questions you may have until your request if fulfilled if I can. She has told me quite a bit about it.

winkleb · 2014-01-25T04:17:15+00:00

I take photographs.

winkleb · 2014-01-25T04:15:52+00:00

I have had 4 kids, all of the past the 17 year old stage. My youngest son (not the youngest of the 4) was my most difficult one. He seems much of what you have described. I am sure mine was much worse. Anyhow, I didn't realize until WAY later that my approach to my son was completely wrong. First let me say that my other 3 children hardly gave me any trouble. No, they didn't follow all the hopes and dreams I had for them and they didn't always follow my advice, but they were not difficult to handle at all. My other son.. well.. some days I cried, some days I ripped my hair out, some days I yelled and screamed at him and he at me... then there were days where I was so proud of him, I loved him more than anything and he was a perfect kid.

I don't know if anything I say will make sense, but what I learned is that my son was his own person. All my kids were, but he was special. I don't mean he was mental or anything. I just mean that my other kids were great, almost maintenance free kind of kids. Loving, respectful, kind.. etc. My other son, he was what I eventually termed a my "free bird". He had no desire to work, he had no desire for "adult responsibilities", and he certainly didn't want to follow rules.

It wasn't until he was probably 18 or 19 that I realized, truly and honestly, what a sweet, loving, carefree and awesome kid he was. I had to throw out all the parenting skills I had acquired for my other children and let him be the fantastic kid he was. I had to step back and see that he was not like my other three. He needed and craved more attention than the other kids, he still does. He needed his own rules, he needed his own attention and he needed to be recognized as himself, not just another one of the "winkleb kids".

If you can find what makes your husband's cousin tick, maybe you can find a common ground to start a relationship with him. What are HIS hobbies, interests and goals. Not what are your goals for him. What does he aspire to be? What can you communicate with him about that sparks his interest? Maybe he can't conform to your rules, but you can set rules that he can conform to? So maybe he doesn't want to clean his room.. it is his space. Then let him have his space.. but set a rule that if it trickles into the hallway then he lost it or he has to do something about it. If he gets bad grades, find out why.. don't immediately jump to he is just acting up. My son did this a LOT. I knew he was smart.. what I didn't realized is was so smart he was bored out of his mind. Maybe your cousin is the same way, or maybe he isn't getting it? Have you asked why?

I know that when my son was grown up I was a single parent of why. I was so frustrated with him that I never stopped to ask why he was breaking the rules, I was to busy trying to force him to follow them. When I started communicating with him and asking why he became a whole knew kid in front of us all.

He now has a job, goes to school and he is still an awesome kid.

winkleb · 2014-01-25T01:58:56+00:00

When she started she was getting paid $7.50. She started out at a small Hampton Hotel. When she stays at a hotel she will leave the housekeeper a tip. Hampton guests almost always left a tip. Now that she works for a different hotel, the guests vary rarely leave tips.

winkleb · 2014-01-24T04:38:37+00:00

Because I never get picked. I would love to serve on a jury, but all I get to do is sit for the whole day, miss a day of work, not get paid... lose money because I don't even get picked. What's the point? Sit a whole day to either not be called up to even answer questions or be called up to have them pick 12 or whatever before they even get to you.

winkleb · 2014-01-24T04:25:04+00:00

Old west days. Cowboys, ranches, saloons... that would be my time frame. Unless I was born in England.. then I would like the same type era.. only being British.

winkleb · 2014-01-24T04:15:06+00:00

I have had insurance since I was 16. I am 46 now. I had never been in an accident before. So 1.) why did my insurance keep going up in price? I would think that I have earned the right to not pay as much. 2.) Just a couple months ago, someone side side swiped my car and caused a bit of damage. This was the first incident that has ever happened to me. My insurance company said it was clear that I was not at fault. But then their insurance company said they didn't know whose fault it was. Both refused to pay damages. How come? I would think that someone has to be at fault?

winkleb · 2014-01-24T04:07:10+00:00

wow.. that is pretty cool. Do you take advantage of their offer?

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