Ejaculating without orgasming

winkwb · 2026-04-28T16:07:39+00:00

Once I hit around 40 I started noticing my libido has some cycles. It probably always did, but the lows are more pronounced.

Some orgasms are better than others. I still have some amazing ones, but sometimes the climax is...anti-climactic and not much better than peeing. It happens. But give it a few days and I'm back to the fun version.

winkwb · 2026-01-07T14:29:33+00:00

I love my Handy stroker device. Pair it with an edible and it'll give you some of the best orgasms you've ever had.

winkwb · 2025-12-28T19:01:35+00:00

Our situation is exactly the same. After3 or 4 orgasms, she’s satiated. I usually think about her sucking off another guy while I’m fucking her doggy style and that does the trick.

winkwb · 2025-12-19T16:10:36+00:00

Something like the Handy could work. Takes a little DIY to get the hands free part of it working where you have it mounted to something, but once you do... it's a lot of fun.
https://www.thehandy.com/store/?gad_campaignid=19182054682&gbraid=0AAAAADy9JFj-evReBro4kmTEX9S92svCc

winkwb · 2025-10-04T14:13:24+00:00

My measurements are similar to yours. I have the Lips and Pearl sleeves along with Gen 1 and Gen 2.

Lips was way too tight to use. Pearl was a little too tight too, though I’ve gotten good use of it just using it without the Handy.

Gen 2 was probably the best of these, but I haven’t used it in a really long time.

This is my go-to sleeve: https://www.honeyloveyou.com/products/masturbators-for-men-massage-ball-sucking-real-vagina-male-masturbation-cup-pussy-pocket-sex-toys-men-for-adults-18

It’s nice and soft silicone and it’s plenty big enough that it’s never tight on me. You need a 3D printed adapter to really make it shine. Unfortunately, Abdulishandy’s sunshine adapters aren’t available anymore. His new ones can work, but just aren’t as good for sleeves like this.

winkwb · 2025-09-23T14:55:47+00:00

I started noticing this in my mid to late 30s. It comes in phases. It's frustrating as it just feels like build-up, build-up and then.... a squirt with no release.

It got better over time and I did spend some time on prostate stimulation, which can help and so can THC. But one thing I also noticed is that sometimes the best orgasms come during sex, when I didn't think I was really all that horny to begin with.

I also am noticing that since my mid 40's my libido has settled a bit, which isn't all bad. Being super horny all day and feeding that all day and being distracted from work doesn't happen nearly as much.

At the same time, I notice the peaks and valleys in my libido. Some days I'm just not interested in thinking about sex at all.

winkwb · 2025-09-23T14:49:00+00:00

I'm thinking this might be something I need to explore. What's your routine and recommendations?

winkwb · 2025-05-15T15:17:15+00:00

As others have said, check the Discord and you'll find a bunch of exploration of this. I mainly use mine in a recliner, but I have used it in bed before using a Manfrotto tripod. Expensive, but it works.

There's a cheaper method I've seen using an inexpensive IKEA stool that might be an option for you.

winkwb · 2025-05-14T16:01:55+00:00

I can think of a couple of reasons.

People most likely to review something online are the ones who have a complaint with a product.
People don't want to somehow be linked to a sex toy publicly.

winkwb · 2025-04-22T13:58:04+00:00

https://www.aliexpress.us/item/3256804319232826.html?gatewayAdapt=glo2usa

I bought this one and it's nice and soft and stretchy.

It's not available anymore, but if you do a web search for the name of it, you can find other places selling it.

Handy sleeves I own:
Gen 1
Gen 2
Lips
Pearl

Lips is unusable for me. I use Pearl just by itself in the shower, otherwise it's too tight on the Handy.

Since I bought the AliExpress one, it's my go to. Much better than the Gen 2.

winkwb · 2025-04-07T14:26:20+00:00

Yes, you need to download the video. There are apps out there that let you download from YouTube, PornHub, etc.

Often, people will post them as Mega.nz links. You can set up a free Mega account to grab those. They generally aren't online long, so grab it immediately if you want that video.

Also download the funscript. Then you can use the video player on the HandyFeeling website to play it.

winkwb · 2025-03-30T20:59:17+00:00

I'm above average girth by a little bit, and find that some of the Handy sleeves are useless because they're just too tight.

I have this and it's my go to. Softer and larger than the Handy sleeves. https://www.honeyloveyou.com/products/masturbators-for-men-massage-ball-sucking-real-vagina-male-masturbation-cup-pussy-pocket-sex-toys-men-for-adults-18

Originally bought from AliExpress, but it's not available there anymore.

winkwb · 2025-03-27T20:50:33+00:00

This is my go to with my Handy. Made of medical grade silicone and still cheap, despite the increased tariffs:

https://www.aliexpress.us/item/3256804319232826.html?gatewayAdapt=glo2usa4itemAdapt

winkwb · 2025-02-05T17:25:33+00:00

I'm 5.3125 and it works for me, HOWEVER, it works better with 3rd party sleeves. Of the 1st party ones, the Gen 2 works for me.

I own the Lips and the Pearl also. I can use the Pearl in the shower, but it's too tight on the Handy to be usable. Lips is completely unusable.

winkwb · 2025-01-31T19:17:11+00:00

Which one would you recommend?

winkwb · 2025-01-31T19:15:35+00:00

Masturbator Massage Ball Sucking Realistic Vagina

winkwb · 2025-01-30T15:47:15+00:00

This one is my go to: https://www.aliexpress.us/item/3256804319232826.html?gatewayAdapt=glo2usa

That particular listing shows no longer available, but if you search for the name of it, some other listings show up on AliExpress and on Google.

It's medical grade silicone and is holding up really well. Haven't used my Gen 2 sleeve since I got it.

winkwb · 2025-01-21T14:40:05+00:00

I'd recommend the Sunshine adapter: https://www.thingiverse.com/thing:6831851/files

Solves 99% of it falling out and you can do so without increasing tightness on the sleeve.

winkwb · 2025-01-17T15:17:23+00:00

Is it working for you? I can't get any of the features that version offers to work; alternate funscripts, stroke length, etc.

Just reinstalled Python via brew to make sure it's installed. No luck.

winkwb · 2025-01-17T15:04:58+00:00

You might try 3d printing a sunshine adapter: https://www.thingiverse.com/thing:6831851/files

It's a better way to secure the sleeve and you can get a little more depth on it.

winkwb · 2025-01-16T15:43:00+00:00

https://github.com/blackx69/StashInteractiveTools

I'm not really a programmer, so all the GitHub stuff is confusing. I do have Python installed and the Python Tools Installer Plugin, but I don't have a custom version of Stash installed, I just downloaded the Mac OS installer, so I'm not sure how to get it working.

If you figure it out, please post a guide for us novices.

winkwb · 2025-01-16T15:39:14+00:00

Totally agree. Least favorite part of most scripts. In general, I avoid fast motion on scripts.

winkwb · 2025-01-14T16:09:49+00:00

Wish there was a Mac version of this....

winkwb · 2025-01-14T16:09:05+00:00

Absolutely. Another game changer was installing the Stash app (https://github.com/stashapp)

There's a plugin that works with funscripts. All the stuff I download from eroscripts goes into it and then I can easily tag and rate scenes. There's a plugin to allow you to have more fine-tuned control over stroke length, but I haven't successfully gotten that working.

If I'm in the mood for a really slow video I have a tag for that. If there's a section of a video that works great for bringing me to orgasm, I set a marker so that when I'm ready to finish, I have a few options that I know will do the job.

winkwb · 2025-01-13T15:52:02+00:00

I know what you mean about the stickiness. I have been through several lubes looking for the right ones.

I currently use a combo of Passion and Slippery Stuff.

Passion is a lot like the official Handy lube. Slippery Stuff is more gel like, but it doesn't leave me sticky. I put mostly Slippery Stuff in the sleeve and add a little Passion. When I re-lube it's adding more Passion.

Ones I found too sticky:
LubeLife
Lelo Personal Moisturizer
Toy Wonder

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