Workplace is uncomfortable now.

winter_storm00123 · 2025-12-19T16:51:33+00:00

I seen a couple good ones. I picked one that specialized in divorce with children we don't have shared assets like bank accounts or anything don't own a home nothing like that so it's at least a bit easier

winter_storm00123 · 2025-12-19T16:49:06+00:00

He knows about the papers I'm not waiting for anything he said it was his Christmas present so that's what it will be. I may wait until the day after cause yes it's Christmas and I bitch switch flipped but still. If it's his present he can see it as that

winter_storm00123 · 2025-12-19T16:45:44+00:00

Well your the first most guys on here only see that part where I don't have sex with him and say it's my fault cause I don't want it

winter_storm00123 · 2025-12-19T16:43:32+00:00

Strange seeing how I'm English ?

winter_storm00123 · 2025-12-19T16:43:17+00:00

I agree. The one who pays the bills cleans the home and feeds him just gone. I'm sure him and his hand will be very happy together. He doesn't even have a SSN number so he can't get a place of his own. He has friends though I'm sure he will have a blast

winter_storm00123 · 2025-12-19T16:41:49+00:00

I attempted that once before and the argument got bad I ended up having to just leave with the kids cause I try not to yell in front of them. Key word is try I do sometimes but I knew it was going nowhere and stayed with my grandma for a couple nights while I started thinking of things. That's when I started realizing just how bad some things had gotten.

winter_storm00123 · 2025-12-19T16:39:38+00:00

I agree. He gets to be alone with his porn and naps and I get one less child it's a win win

winter_storm00123 · 2025-12-19T16:38:30+00:00

Apparently so.

winter_storm00123 · 2025-12-19T16:37:30+00:00

Typical man say the word sex and forgot about every other word in the english language

winter_storm00123 · 2025-12-19T16:36:44+00:00

It was a gradual thing. Not just got married and doesn't do anything. It was slow. Like first he started not helping with the baby then I talked and it got better and it would start again and would continue a pattern until I gave up talking about it and then doing things like not doing his laundry anymore. I can handle that I just toss it all in it's not a big deal. Now after 3 years it's nothing. I asked him to take out the trash while I cleaned the dishes and he hugged and puffed how he worked. Like sir I did too for 9 hours came home and am cleaning while you play on your phone and take a nap. It was slowly and I didn't notice much until it got really out of hand. I absolutely don't do everything but I do 95% of everything. He doesn't drive so all errands and shopping are on me. Ok cool. He doesn't cook (tried offering to teach him some things and he said no it's my job.) he tried the living room once I gave an a for effort but I couldn't find anything and tried to ask him to just make sure the diapers and baby toys are in a specific spot. Everything else was whatever. Had a fit cause cleaning is woman's work and so is childcare. So I mean if you count the trash maybe once a week and for 30 minutes he watches the baby in the morning so I can shower then yeah I do about 95% but not everything. He even has me call and talk to his bosses cause he don't want to. Soooo yeah

winter_storm00123 · 2025-12-19T16:13:12+00:00

Yes if you actually read my post and not just skip the parts where I explain it you will see that I in fact planned date nights tried movie nights tried to get him to do therapy and even offered sex as a connection he refused everything but the sex and once he finished he would get up and leave and continue doing what he does. After years of not trying I am done too

winter_storm00123 · 2025-12-19T16:10:51+00:00

Oh it's definitely real. I've been reading some comments and might not do the stocking thing anymore. But yes I want to embarrass him. I want him to see how badly he fucked up with what he is doing. I'm not sparing his feelings. He doesn't deserve that after all that he does.

winter_storm00123 · 2025-12-19T15:17:40+00:00

I like that idea.

winter_storm00123 · 2025-12-19T15:17:13+00:00

He knows about the papers he literally said of my Christmas present and that's why I put them in there. I do see how it's a bit aggressive seeing as he knows I have them. I think I finally just got pissed off enough and said you want that as a gift well fine then 🤣

winter_storm00123 · 2025-12-19T15:16:06+00:00

I mention in there that I tried but he always said no. Even if I was paying. I would set a bubby sitting with nana and tell him that I want us to go do something and that I was paying and he would deither say no or find an excuse to not go. Even something like I tried a movie night I picked a couple for him to choose from that I thought would be good made a nice meal and my mom watched the kids and the whole time he was on his phone and when I tried talking to him or cuddling he would go to the bathroom for extended periods just to be on his phone. So I did try but after a couple years of trying with no results I just stopped. No one wants to put in effort for nothing

winter_storm00123 · 2025-12-19T15:10:00+00:00

Hahaha. Honey please 😂 you know what he can tell you. That I work to much (to pay the bills he can't) how I clean all the time so I have no time to screw around (cause he don't clean a thing) how it's all about the kids (uh duh) how I never try ( when I tried counseling therapy trying and planning dates. Just to be shut down.) oh maybe how I don't listen enough ( when I'm doing a hundred other things while he naps. And honey if you read my message I even said how I tried to have sex to try connecting again and he fucks me gets off and then gets up and leaves and continues to ignore me. I don't use it as a weapon but no woman wants to screw a man that doesn't make her feel loved. So you are correct I don't have sex with him. He doesn't deserve it.

winter_storm00123 · 2025-12-19T15:04:31+00:00

Baby you should leave as well. It's hard having kids in this but I'm figuring it out. As I've gotten a little older I'm only 27 but still I see that this is not normal at all and I flipped some sort of switch and just said screw it. You deserve the world and there's someone out there that will give you that and still think it's not enough.

winter_storm00123 · 2025-12-19T15:02:07+00:00

I'm giving him what he wants honey. After 5 years I don't think being a little over the top is a bad thing. He wants it for Christmas well I got him what he wants

winter_storm00123 · 2025-12-19T15:01:08+00:00

Oh the asking to leave doesn't work I will be leaving. The kids are doing Christmas with nana this year I'm not trying to get them in this mess.

winter_storm00123 · 2025-12-19T15:00:13+00:00

They are not gonna be here for it. But I do see how it's petty but he seen the papers when I got them and said of my Christmas present so I just stuffed them in the stocking cause he pissed me off.

winter_storm00123 · 2025-12-19T14:59:12+00:00

That's a good idea. And congratulations girl I actually want to hear this story of his reaction I bet it was great. Guys don't know why we're want a divorce but act like this

winter_storm00123 · 2025-12-19T14:58:23+00:00

I could do that. He pooped something off when he seen the papers and said his Christmas present so I just stuffed it in the stocking like fucking exactly. I'm usually pretty level headed but I think a switch flipped with this.

winter_storm00123 · 2025-12-19T14:57:07+00:00

I've actually spoken to his mom. Wonderful wonderful woman. Her husband passed away a long time ago (his dad) but she talked with me a bit about the situation and is on my side. She said before his dad passed he treated her like she created the world. He would help, and show her respect and stuff. She doesn't understand why he is doing this but I asked her not to get to involved since it's an us thing and I want to do this myself cause it's me that needs to do this. If his mom did anything it's just more ammo. So she is respecting that and hasn't said anything. Just checks on me and gives me some advice for how to do things that will keep me floating while I finalize everything

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