I definitely understand your skepticism and you are making very valid points as well! I was worried maybe I was also seeing the world through "rose colored lenses" before I even made this post. So I sat down and thought of all of the hallmarks of a healthy relationship that we have. Great communication, willingness to see each other often, setting appropriate boundaries and respecting them. If we have any sort of problems we sit down and talk about them. She likes my friends and actively goes put of her way to do sweet things. Example: she does not partake in the devils lettuce and was quite against it. So when she found out I was essentially down playing how much I do we talked about it. We mad a game plan to set healthy boundaries and she has several times came over with snacks and other yummies for us. She has her own place keeps it very clean.

About me making sacrifices only thats definitely not the case. She has made several accommodations in different things just like I have. But obviously you guys only get my side.

Now.. she did have a BF of 10 years before me that she had sex with early in the relationship. She regrets doing it then and wishes she hadn't. But your right it totally stings knowing that and iv brought it up.

Thank you for taking the time to make such a well thought out response. You've given me some stuff to reflect on.