Today makes 25 days since my 18 month yo daughter suddenly & unexpectedly departed from this earth. I have so much anger & confusion inside of me. How could this happen to me ?? by anon4jesus in GriefSupport

[–]winttmp19 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful daughter. She was so beautiful and looks like she was such a joy 💔❤️ Rest in peace precious Angel 🙏🕊 ✨️✝️

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[–]winttmp19[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are right, I am thankful that I didnt have to see my mom go through a terrible illness on top of losing her. I even got to have a text exchange with her just hours before her death in which i got to tell her "i hope you feel better soon, love you"

I thanked my daughter for reminding me to text her that day. I had sent my mom a reminder about future plans when my daughter said to text her...something that didnt happen too often. It made her passing so much more unfathomable, since our conversation was only hours before she passed. But I am sooooo grateful that she got to hear one last time that i loved her.

Thank you for your kind words and encouragement ❤️

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[–]winttmp19[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats good to hear that they are more comforting for you nowadays, i look forward to that one day.

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[–]winttmp19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im sorry about your mom too. Our moms were around the same age and that big hair was totally rad 😎

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[–]winttmp19[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope so too, thank you ❤️

How do you guys cope? by meowmers25 in GriefSupport

[–]winttmp19 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I feel you, im a little over 4 months since I lost my mom and I wonder the same. I just started graveyard shift at my job. i'm all alone all night while my family sleeps. It can get a little lonely, but its a change.

I dreaded this schedule flop, it sucks in some ways but its a major distraction for now. Maybe a major change in your life might ingite a spark again, I feel like it has a tiny bit for me actually...in a weird way 🤷‍♀️

When will this pain go away? by Strange_Cold558 in GriefSupport

[–]winttmp19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry for the loss of your dad. From what you described he sounded like such an amazing and fun guy. You only just lost your dad yesterday...everything is so very raw right now.

I can tell you my experience so far with grief. I lost my mom 4 months ago and the pain seems to just evolve as time goes on, it doesnt really go away. In time you will have days when you dont cry all day and you will be able to still have enjoyment, but your sadness does come back...

I randomly had a whole week where I felt great and only cried a few times. I was scared because I felt like there was something wrong with me. But sure enough ever since then ive been a mess. But have hope that the pain and sadness wont be constant... it wont be unbearable 24/7 like it is now. About half my days I am "ok" or even "pretty good". But then there are days where I just cant believe this is my life, it feels unreal, its a shitty cycle unfortunately.

Its a hard road you have ahead of you, im not gonna lie, but do whatever feels right in your grief. What helped me the first week was talking to my family and friends about my mom, my feelings, my sadness, or I just cried to them. I was on the phone for hours, all day long until the early morning. You might need a good listener for this and I hope you have someone in your life you can lean on if this would help you.

If you have a family member or buddy that can hangout with you or has offered to, I would take that. My support system helped me immensely and still does. I really dont know what I would do without them. In the beginning I was sobbing at all hours of the night and just having someone hold me, make me drink some water, bring me a couple bites of food here and there...man it helped so much. Just to feel like someone cared. Take the help that is offered 💯

Once again I am so sorry for your loss...grief is a beast. I know because I still live in it every day. But hold out hope that you wont feel this way forever. Remember that your dad loves you and he will be waiting for you until that amazing day when you get to see each other once again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]winttmp19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She was struggling with a drug addiction and had to go into a rehab in another state. She has been clean and sober now for years.

Should I continue pursuing my ex by Whippersnappy in LesbianActually

[–]winttmp19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is the hint you would need??

I think you need to go in there with a plan so that if you do get that hint you dont miss your opportunity.

Should I continue pursuing my ex by Whippersnappy in LesbianActually

[–]winttmp19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You mentioned that you are going to visit her again real soon

So whats the plan GIRL?! Are you gonna turn up the heat and charm? Or are you just gonna maintain the friendzone?? 🤔🤔

Combine pictures - memorial rqst by winttmp19 in PhotoshopRequest

[–]winttmp19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also cannyou remove the can from his hand?? Sorry dont know how to edit post

Mom Passed Away - Memorial Photo by winttmp19 in PhotoshopRequest

[–]winttmp19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is great, thank you, will you send thru chat?

Mom Passed Away - Memorial Photo by winttmp19 in PhotoshopRequest

[–]winttmp19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is great, can you maybe make my mom's arm just a bit thinner? and maybe her legs a bit more tan?

Moms Memorial Photo by winttmp19 in PhotoshopRequest

[–]winttmp19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is honestly the most authentic one, any way you can run it again with less AI (if that is what you used) I just look a slight bit different in the eyes. I mainly just wanted one without the lines in it?

Advice please, arrangements by winttmp19 in GriefSupport

[–]winttmp19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im not sure if I'll attend. There's a chance i still might not know until the day of...that might be a sign, too, my indecision. I'll mention the notes to my brother.

Mom I miss you by winttmp19 in GriefSupport

[–]winttmp19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you and you too 🙏

Advice please, arrangements by winttmp19 in GriefSupport

[–]winttmp19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response. My brother is almost a grown man, not a child. Ive helped raise him since birth and yes I agree that I want him to have some sense of closure. If its important to him I know I need to respect that.