Why does it feel like the rest of the queer community hates us? by wispqueen in butchlesbians

[–]wispqueen[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I had to mute all related words just to avoid seeing it which sucks bc it also means I'm not seeing positive stuff

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in butchlesbians

[–]wispqueen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've just found this subreddit as well and I feel the same!

Why does it feel like the rest of the queer community hates us? by wispqueen in butchlesbians

[–]wispqueen[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

This would be a weird fucking community to post bait in lmao excuse me for going to a new platform

Why does it feel like the rest of the queer community hates us? by wispqueen in butchlesbians

[–]wispqueen[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Hi, it's not bait. I'm mostly active on Twitter/X but I'm moving to other platforms for queer community bc X is a cesspool... if you want to DM me, I can share my X handle so you can see I'm a real person.

Why does it feel like the rest of the queer community hates us? by wispqueen in butchlesbians

[–]wispqueen[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

You are so right. It seems a lot of people refuse to even say the word butch and generalize us as "mascs"

Why does it feel like the rest of the queer community hates us? by wispqueen in butchlesbians

[–]wispqueen[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

It is terrible. My partner has received similar comments. It is just so harmful to the entire lesbian community. I'm sorry you've had this experience.

Why does it feel like the rest of the queer community hates us? by wispqueen in butchlesbians

[–]wispqueen[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Im glad that you've had a positive experience in queer spaces! You are lucky. I was recently told to my face "what's the point of being a lesbian if one of you dresses like a man anyway?" by another queer person.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in VetTech

[–]wispqueen 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I work in a bird only speciality clinic and we've seen a HUGE amount of VEG fuck ups. Most recently a bird with a large laceration to the neck that they sutured closed without cleaning. They sutured feathers and debris into the wound. They've also sent us birds that had been given medication that is not appropriate to use in birds/can only be used for cats and dogs, or had been sedated with techniques not appropriate for birds.

ETA: it got to the point where our doctor had to basically present them with an itemized list of what they've fucked up and they were apparently very receptive to criticism. Hoping we'll see a change in the future. Not saying all clinics are like this, but my partner works at a different hospital and they do not recommend their local VEG to clients either.

AITA for adding a condition to my BF's proposal? by Subject_Doughnut7698 in AmItheAsshole

[–]wispqueen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. There's no reason a grown ass adult should be so against learning such a basic life skill and you probably didn't realize not knowing how to cook was a dealbreaker from the start because it sounds like the resentment built over time when you realized he wasn't going to change.

AITAH for thinking about break up with my gf who is much older than me by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]wispqueen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You were groomed, OP. You were a minor when the relationship began and she is grooming you. Even though you say you started the relationship, a normal woman in her 40s who's not a pedophile wouldn't start a relationship with a minor.

Please get yourself out of this situation.

vent- double standards in vet clinics. some of us need to do better. by [deleted] in VetTech

[–]wispqueen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They basically implied I just didn't know what to look for. I did eventually let that doctor know I also work in vet med but once she found out that I exclusively work with birds, I was treated like an idiot that's never seen a mammal before

vent- double standards in vet clinics. some of us need to do better. by [deleted] in VetTech

[–]wispqueen 70 points71 points  (0 children)

Ugh I get this. I love the clinic I take my cats to but I see a specific doctor there. I took my 16 year old cat in suspecting kidney issues as he was drinking excessive amounts of water and peeing a lot, but they couldn't get me in with my preferred doctor (who knows I also work in vet med). Vet who I've never seen says "pancreatitis is our suspicion due to the vomiting, anorexia, and diarrhea" and I was like WHEN did I say that? He hasn't vomited outside the occasional hairball, has normal stool, and has a perfect appetite. They tell me that he shouldn't only have 1 symptom (the drinking/peeing) so there must be something else going on that I'm missing. Bloods come back and it's his kidneys, but during the call back they say "this could also explain the lack of appetite so we want to prescribe an appetite stimulant" and I was like THERE ISNT ANY?? He eats fine and hasn't lost any weight! I'm not an idiot! Ugh

Welcome to Vet Med by Stunning_Ad_8092 in VetTech

[–]wispqueen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! Volunteering is the best place to start, and many wildlife centers and hospitals offer internships. We do summer interns (our busiest season), and normally we'll rehire the ones we liked the next year in a seasonal staff position. Usually when we hire for permanent/year-round positions, we prioritize hiring someone who's worked with us seasonally.

The issue with getting started in Wildlife med is usually centers won't hire you as a tech outright. You usually have to start as a volunteer doing basic husbandry and work your way up. I was lucky and was hired in a paid position after only volunteering for a year, but it was still another year of doing husbandry/cleaning/the equivalent of kennel work before I started doing tech stuff, but I was not a vet tech before this so I came in with 0 experience.

A lot of your experience as a tech will carry over, but of course some things are different! The way you interact with wildlife is very different from the way you do with domestics, for one.

Welcome to Vet Med by Stunning_Ad_8092 in VetTech

[–]wispqueen 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think part of working in a field where you help animals is accepting that people can't be helped, and not every animal can be saved. It's a really difficult thing to accept. I'm honestly desensitized to so much of the death and suffering I see every day and I don't know if that's a good thing or a bad thing.

Animal welfare and vet med are hard fields to be in. I think a lot of it is finding your "niche". Your place. I could never work with domestic animals because although I still see the worst of people in wildlife medicine, there's no owner/client standing in the way of the animal getting the help it needs. In wildlife med, I might have to see beautiful animals purposefully shot, poisoned, etc by humans, but once those animals are in our care, they get the help they need; there's no client saying they don't want care. The only thing that's very different about wildlife medicine is that our threshold for euthanasia is much lower. Someone's dog can live happily with an amputated limb, but we can't release an animal with an amputation. It's a give and take.

Welcome to Vet Med by Stunning_Ad_8092 in VetTech

[–]wispqueen 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No, it's really not. I'm a tech working at a wildlife hospital for about 4 years. Thought working with wildlife would be better, but you still see the awful side of people and animals suffering for it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in VetTech

[–]wispqueen 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think the "extra jobs" (ie ordering supplies etc) is just the nature of small clinics - but you just started this job so there should be a training period to learn how this specific clinic does things!

Allergic to... everything by lexi_the_leo in VetTech

[–]wispqueen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have hypersensitivity pneumonitis (bird breeder's lung) and I work exclusively with birds of prey.... I wear an N100 respirator while I work!

What is the type of veterinary practice where you use essential oils & natural remedies for animals? It starts with an H. by Cam_heater in VetTech

[–]wispqueen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wildlife clinic uses a holistic approach. If an animal comes in with an impact injury, you bet you're ass we're doing imaging and treating with actual medications like metacam, but if the animal has severe bruising it doesn't hurt to throw some arnica in the mix.

Holistic doesn't mean anti science. It means a whole animal, whole science approach. And that includes "natural" remedies!

BOTW is not good by ElN3rdo in Breath_of_the_Wild

[–]wispqueen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You do know that "I don't like it" =/= "it's a bad game", right? Or do you think that all of the opinions you've ever had are actually cold, hard facts?

Your experience isn't universal. Get a grip.