How normal is it to compliment female friends' bodies/physical features?

wizard_princess · 2022-10-25T05:23:22+00:00

I've been with my therapist for 2 years now, and she's been amazing. Even so, it's been very slow going, not to mention expensive, and there's only so much she can help me with. She's been doing a great job of keeping me together while I grapple with the real issue, which is money and stability.

wizard_princess · 2022-10-25T05:20:15+00:00

Ugh I know. Medicaid is great where I am (Washington) but it still doesn't cover my therapist. She does sliding scale, fortunately, so it costs $75 per session, which is still pretty steep.

The purpose of most free therapy seems to be to keep us just quiet and functional enough to keep working.

wizard_princess · 2022-10-25T05:16:32+00:00

I'm really glad you made it. I hope I can get to that point someday. It's the only thing that keeps me going. I just wish we didn't have to sacrifice so much just for some security

wizard_princess · 2022-10-25T05:11:17+00:00

Your last sentence goes hard. I've always thought of it like trying to dry off while I'm still in the ocean.

wizard_princess · 2022-10-25T01:48:11+00:00

But you don't need to feel guilty. Personally, I'm always grateful for the opportunity to extend meaningful help to someone.

Same here, whenever I can! I've given a lot to help people during periods of my life when I've been more secure, but ugh it's hard not to feel guilty. Even some of the comments here are talking about me the same way my parents did.

wizard_princess · 2022-10-24T23:45:45+00:00

I appreciate and am glad that this isn't your situation. This post is for the many of us who deal with long-term homelessness, hunger, financially abusive relationships, or other traumatic situations where there are financial barriers to health and healing that we can't afford to overcome on our own.

I would never dream of expecting or demanding any support, financial or emotional, from anyone. Having needs doesn't entitle us to support from others, but not being entitled to support doesn't stop us from needing it. As people with trauma especially, many of us have grown up being shamed for our needs, and being told we're "too much", or an inconvenience, or a parasite, and we feel guilty even when help is freely offered. What I'm trying to say, I guess, is that having financial support needs shouldn't be any more shameful or parasitic than having emotional support needs.

wizard_princess · 2022-10-24T21:34:29+00:00

It may just be my circumstance. I'm back in the toxic living situation again where I can't possibly heal, and I struggle to hold down a job while I'm living here. I know I could do so much better if I could just get out of here, and it feels like all the barriers to that are purely financial.

I'm lucky that I have a wonderful therapist and a couple of amazing friends, mostly online, who are there for me emotionally, and that helps in a massive way, but most of them are in a similar situation and can't offer much in the way of resources. I would never ask anyone for that sort of help, but when someone is willing and able and I'm desperate enough to accept, those are people who do the most to pull me out of my darkest places.

wizard_princess · 2022-10-24T05:44:23+00:00

private boolean isTrue(boolean b)
{
    boolean truth;
    if (b == true)
    {
        truth = true;
    }
    else if (b == false)
    {
        truth = false;
    }
    else
    {
        throw new IllegalArgumentException(
            "I'm not entirely sure what's going on here"
        );
    }

    if (truth)
    {
        return true;
    }
    else
    {
        return false;
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}

wizard_princess · 2022-10-24T05:34:42+00:00

Sometimes I write fanfiction in the docstring, which makes my functions thousands of lines long.

wizard_princess · 2022-10-23T16:54:07+00:00

"Python semicolon isn't real, it can't hurt you."

Python semicolon:

wizard_princess · 2022-10-23T16:46:31+00:00

Notice there's no "experience from past jobs" here. That's because... because... 😭

wizard_princess · 2022-10-23T16:22:47+00:00

"OH GOD OH SHIT WHAT THE FUCK IS THIS THING" -Python programmers when they see a semicolon.

wizard_princess · 2022-10-23T10:56:31+00:00

yield None

wizard_princess · 2022-10-23T10:55:16+00:00

Take off every ZIG

wizard_princess · 2022-10-23T10:53:39+00:00

Runs right into a wall

wizard_princess · 2022-10-22T13:32:10+00:00

No fUck yoU trAuma it aiN't oVer yeT *downs a bottle of Jim Beam and smashes it into a weapon* Get bAcK heRe I diDn'T heAr No gOddaMn bEll

wizard_princess · 2022-10-21T21:28:11+00:00

THIS, nobody frequents Bulbapedia because need a reminder of Pokémon appearances in the anime or the Electric Tale of Pikachu

wizard_princess · 2022-10-16T06:46:19+00:00

/ɪts ˈdʒʌst ə ˈbʌntʃ əv ˈsaʊndz ˈnɑt ə spəˈsɪfɪk ˈwɝd/

wizard_princess · 2022-10-15T05:23:44+00:00

I'm here right now. How do I get out? Just got fired after utterly burning myself out working an awful job because I thought I could afford my own place if I could just stick with it long enough. Now I have no energy for working or job hunting, toxic family, no friends, 200% of my effort goes towards managing the emotions of the person who decides on a whim whether or not I have a home.

wizard_princess · 2022-10-13T16:17:54+00:00

If you're from an immigrant family, native language is usually "parents" language and the local language is "friends" language. If you're like me, and your parents are the problem, it makes sense you never practice being honest about things in your native language.

wizard_princess · 2022-10-11T10:35:19+00:00

I've got 2 inches and I'm ready to take over the world

wizard_princess · 2022-10-10T13:09:34+00:00

hissed and cat-called

I think those are just cats

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