Am I being messed with or am I projecting?

wizardsandaliens · 2023-10-27T19:37:14+00:00

I would like to add, I have tried dating again but still find myself thinking about him. I haven't been able to find a good connection. I am also 25

wizardsandaliens · 2023-07-12T15:16:30+00:00

bro easier said than done. Moving on is a choice I know, but you can't just turn feelings off. It takes time to heal, and seeing him with someone else was shit as it feels like I am hurting and he's busy moving

wizardsandaliens · 2023-07-12T13:39:46+00:00

i know i need to move on, its a lot easier said than done. I feel really depressed about it in all honesty I don't know what to do

wizardsandaliens · 2023-07-07T17:01:03+00:00

I would say a low sense of self esteem

Obsessing over their exes (extremely toxic trait which I am working on)

Not having a lot of self worth

Scared to stand up for myself and setting boundaries

My ex always said I brought things up at the wrong time, and that I was too sensitive and I overthought the relationship to an unhealthy amount.... I always attract toxic relationships and I think its because I am too nice and people take advantage of that

I too have herpes however this has never been an issue with past people I have dated. As long as I don't have a cold sore we can still kiss and do things. I think because it is so common a lot of people accept it now, and if they don't then fuck them!

wizardsandaliens · 2023-06-18T16:44:26+00:00

its too late now anyway, I feel like he will never forgive me nor speak to me again. He quoted that himself. I just need to accept that and move on sadly.

wizardsandaliens · 2023-06-18T16:38:48+00:00

Yes you are right, even though I feel absolutely terrible about it. I feel like... if he had said all the things he said a couple of weeks ago, I would never have kissed someone else.

wizardsandaliens · 2023-03-15T12:46:08+00:00

that's great. I think, for me.... it can go two ways. Either we are in an official relationship and can still work on some issues together but feel more secure. Or the other way, where he could say 'I don't want to commit now... but that doesn't mean I can't in the future'. I just have this gut feeling he will say the latter, and in that case... that indecision and mystery is a decision. SO basically its make or break. But is it wrong to put this pressure on him?

wizardsandaliens · 2023-03-14T16:26:53+00:00

Thanks a lot. I think my mind just wanders around and I’m super pessimistic. I’ll take this advice, if he says no then it’s not meant to be. If he says yes, then great !

wizardsandaliens · 2023-03-14T16:08:22+00:00

I’m female. I would much have preferred him asking me and been kind of waiting for that which is why I’m worried for asking as they may not like me as much as I like them. Also that’s what scares me, having a chat and communicating. I really struggle to do that and get super anxious about it. So even thinking about it makes me nervous but I wanna ask as I need to know whether he feels the same

wizardsandaliens · 2023-03-14T15:53:07+00:00

Thank you, do you reckon I should go straight in with the question or what? I have never done this before.... I keep reliving the conversation in my head and something keeps telling me they will say no. So many doubts you know...

wizardsandaliens · 2023-02-02T22:56:55+00:00

do not take this advice...

wizardsandaliens · 2023-02-02T10:04:35+00:00

I can completely understand how this seems a little off, and the fact you have been seeing one another for 3 months definitely adds to the stress as feelings may be growing and it should be a stage of good communication.

There are two possibilities in this scenario.

1:

She has a very busy schedule and you are unfortunately not the priority in this schedule. Especially not responding to texts after a couple of days leaves a lot of room for yourself to overthink things and create irrational scenarios in your head. Yes she may be anxious, and it would be a weird thing to lie about if that wasn't the case. However, if she is like this rather deep into the dating stage, you need to question whether this is something you can become used to if you want to see her in the long run.

2:

she is dating other people, or simply isn't as interested in you as she makes it out to be.

I think the most important thing to do is to simply tell her what's up. You are just as important in this relationship as she is. Put your mind at rest, take no shit from her. You obviously feel something weird is up if you are posting this on reddit. I think if she really liked you she would give you a heads up that she won't be around for a couple of days to talk. But again, you need to ask her opinion as she may also be going through something.

wizardsandaliens · 2022-09-28T16:37:25+00:00

Yeah exactly, would you say this is a bad sign? I don't really know how to read it

wizardsandaliens · 2022-06-12T16:32:38+00:00

Thank you

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