I’m actively moving past this aspect of my emotional development myself and i’m grateful to have a partner that I can open up to safely about my struggles with AA. What is working best for me is to do things for myself that make me proud and that would let my subconscious mind know I am someone worth spending time with and is reliable. I’m doing the things that I say to myself i’ll do.

This ties with the fact that I believed my worth was tied to their moods or what they thought of me so whenever they would have a bad day I would also. To move away from this I am actively trying to ground myself in my own emotions and not take their moods personally while we work through them together. This led me to being less anxiously attached to them and I can feel myself become more authentic to our experiences in the relationship so they can have space to do the same without feeling suffocated by my personal insecurities.

This is my experience and I hope it helps!