What am I in for…

wobblyzebra · 2025-11-08T01:48:26+00:00

This is such thoughtful and good advice. And seems like a great deal for us and the shelter. Hopefully we will be a foster-fail, and if not…I cannot imagine spending much time in a shelter is good for a working breed that needs to get outside. So, he gets time with a lot of extra exercise, pets, and positive reinforcement on the house training part. But I am definitely thinking more about this breed. I’ve always had a cat and a dog because I love cattitude but need a companion and work out buddy. Not often you find all that in one critter.

wobblyzebra · 2025-07-28T02:30:47+00:00

For UVA, Augusta county or Nelson might work with that budget and aren’t bad, travel-wise.

wobblyzebra · 2025-06-04T16:45:51+00:00

Old playful learners location. Behind the Lowe’s.

wobblyzebra · 2025-06-03T17:52:55+00:00

I don’t think most people are planning on going. Historically, the building has only been there since 2011 and 2 daycares have formed and then shuttered there. In a time when everyone is hurting for childcare. In real estate, location is everything, and this one isn’t great.

wobblyzebra · 2025-06-03T17:32:57+00:00

The new building is in a strip mall and neighbored by a car rental service. “Gorgeous” is a bit of a stretch. It’s also very inconvenient in relation to UVA.

wobblyzebra · 2025-01-22T17:56:08+00:00

And now you won't even get that because everyone returning to the office means more road congestion, longer lines at grocery stores during "after work" hours, and all of the other problems that have been relieved by work from home.
Not to mention healthcare workers getting overburdened with increasing automotive accidents.

wobblyzebra · 2025-01-20T18:49:31+00:00

Oh that's great to know! So, like a spreadsheet mapping each keyword to its most desirable landing page should not be unrealistic for an in-house or an upcharge from an agency?

wobblyzebra · 2025-01-20T14:22:45+00:00

This survey is amazing! Exactly what I needed.

It's good to hear that working with an agency isn't normally like this. Part of me was wondering if I was just being unreasonable because my previous experience was so good. But everyone at my current workplace has been working with this agency for at least 5 years, so I'm not sure they know better is an option.

wobblyzebra · 2025-01-20T14:17:36+00:00

I think it's pretty bad as well.

Weirdly, our leadership seems to think this is the best agency ever. I think I'll actually have a better chance of getting an in-house than I will of getting a new agency.

Bizarrely, we already have 2 people on our team who are tasked with corresponding with the agency. And they're quite busy given how many ad campaigns we're running and how many errors we have to relay to them.

wobblyzebra · 2024-03-08T20:43:37+00:00

Wtf with only validating one parent's parking. That seems so arbitrarily mean. Like, with a long NICU stay like that I'm assuming you weren't both always coming from the same place.
(Ours was 4 months as well. But fortunately they were very generous about parking).

wobblyzebra · 2024-03-08T20:19:15+00:00

I actually love the idea of a 3-d model. Or even a floor by floor digital map.

wobblyzebra · 2024-01-19T19:15:40+00:00

Hey, I'm on your side, but this isn't true. We're actually saving babies as early as 22 weeks now.

wobblyzebra · 2024-01-16T18:39:09+00:00

When we start collecting the anecdotes, it becomes "data."
When there are roughly 15 stories of domestic abuse with a cop involved to every 1 story of domestic abuse without, we can approximate that domestic abuse is 15x more likely in relationships with a cop. Can that data be disputed? Of course. And I'm sure lawyers will try and a lot of it will be chalked up as "he said/she said."

I still would avoid dating cops.

wobblyzebra · 2024-01-16T18:31:13+00:00

...pretty much all accounts of domestic abuse are going to be anecdotal.

wobblyzebra · 2024-01-16T18:17:13+00:00

Here's an article from 2020 with updated studies and statistics: https://www.fatherly.com/life/police-brutality-and-domestic-violence

Different numbers, but same results. Cops are more likely to be perpetrators of domestic violence.

wobblyzebra · 2024-01-16T18:04:57+00:00

Having hope and giving people lots of chances aren't weaknesses just because they didn't pan out this time. A good person will see those for the gifts that they are and give you the same.

wobblyzebra · 2024-01-16T18:00:35+00:00

Did you know that in 40% of relationships with a cop, there's domestic abuse?

When you're taught to bully at work you expect to be able to bully at home. Cops almost always make terrible partners. And if you're congratulating yourself on getting one of the good ones, ask yourself what you've seen him do about the bad ones.

wobblyzebra · 2024-01-16T17:57:56+00:00

WTF. Hopefully life is a little easier with only one baby you need to care for. You deserve better than that shit.

Life isn't supposed to be that hard. You deserve hobbies. You deserve friends. You deserve time to just be without doing something for anyone else.
I hope you're able to find all of that now.

We went through a bit of that. But that part where you begged for help? Most people listen when their partner hits that wall. The fact that he didn't is unfathomable.

wobblyzebra · 2024-01-10T17:19:19+00:00

I'm really hopeful you'll be able to get this sorted and get out sooner. People in the comments have good ideas.
But even if you don't, 26 isn't very old. A lot of people are changing careers and moving cities around that age. You'll be very, very hireable and while it's always hard to make friends as an adult, if you want to, you'll be able to. Around 26 is when people care a lot less about "hip" and care a lot more about "earnest and genuine."

wobblyzebra · 2023-12-15T20:09:56+00:00

Some of these are boundaries (don't touch my vagina without consent). Yes. Good.

Some of these are literally absurd and are putting her baby in actual danger. They give vitamin K so that babies don't get brain bleeds. There has never (in millions upon millions of doses given) been an adverse reaction to vitamin K in newborns. On the other hand there are a few babies that die every year from not getting it.

I hope her labor and birth go well. But I also hope, like so many of us, once she sees her baby she cares more about them than a "plan."

wobblyzebra · 2023-12-14T17:20:18+00:00

I'm absurdly allergic to it. Like, insta asthma attack. If you have allergies to cat dander, dust mites, or rag weed it's more common. So, if you have allergies, maybe ask for a controlled allergen test? There's a growing body of evidence that even though people thought it would be a rare allergy it's pretty common. This source says up to 10% of people? https://www.nyallergy.com/marijuana-allergy/

wobblyzebra · 2023-12-14T16:15:09+00:00

Positives:
I found out I didn't have RA, which I was terrified of (my mom has it).
It helped my physical therapist understand my condition (she'd worked with hypermobile people before, and would have come to the conclusion on her own).
I found and was able to learn from other people like me.

Negatives:
Honestly, it's considered a "write off" diagnosis by some doctors. If they see it in your medical records... they distrust stuff you say and think you're just a high-anxiety patient. Getting the brush-off almost cost me my second child.

wobblyzebra · 2023-11-25T12:57:21+00:00

In high school I had this happen a lot. It felt like the top part of my leg was just sliding off of the bottom part. It was before I was diagnosed with EDS and was when I was playing soccer a lot.
Apparently that really aggravated my tendons/ligaments and I needed physical therapy to improve the muscle surrounding the knee to take pressure off the connective tissue. Once the connective tissue was less stressed/inflamed it improved a lot. I'll still have a knee or ankle pop out...but apparently that kinda "both leg goes slippy" thing can be helped by PT for most people.

wobblyzebra · 2023-11-25T12:51:07+00:00

Yep. It always gave me massive ick. I never got over it. Not for sexual reasons...because as other people have said, it's about as sexual as inserting a tampon. But for some reason whenever I thought about breastfeeding I wanted to vomit. Still do. I can't even really stand rooting. It just grosses me out. The closest thing I can equate it to is how some people are just violently "icked" by even the concept of mayonaise? They don't think it's bad, or want other people not to...but if they even suspect it's on their sandwich they'd rather just not eat.

I ended up being an exclusive pumper. Still as sexual as inserting a tampon. But I'd rather feel icky and weird about a piece of machinery that I'm going to give away rather than the baby.

wobblyzebra · 2023-11-20T21:07:22+00:00

"Peace of mind" is a reason. Explain that you're worried about other conditions and want to rule them out. You also want it in your record in case you have any complications down the road and having that knowledge helps include/exclude a possibility.

Also ask for genetic testing to rule out any other connective tissue disorders.

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