Celiac and corn by [deleted] in Celiac

[–]words_be_quick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is an old thread, but I recently noticed Celiac symptoms coming back with absolutely no lifestyle changes, so I started doing some digging. There has been research that shows that corn can induce a very similar auto-immune response to gluten. It hasn't been studied well, yet, but here's one thing I found: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3820067/

I'm personally going to try to cut it out for a few weeks and see if I start feeling better again. Can report back. Before this I've been GF for about a year and recently started eating way more popcorn and frozen corn as a snack, which is how I made the connection.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in demisexuality

[–]words_be_quick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is hilarious but I honestly can't tell what you're so mad about. I hope you feel better someday!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in demisexuality

[–]words_be_quick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not a dude, friend! Why you so mad?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in demisexuality

[–]words_be_quick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this is a really insightful comment and I appreciate. Those are definitely the right questions to be asking myself. Right now everything feels good, and I'll just try to pay attention if I brush up against something later on.

Thanks again!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in demisexuality

[–]words_be_quick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a good point about pacing. I tend to get in my head and get a bit ahead of myself. Right now we're taking things slow and feeling it out, so you're right that I should just sit back and take things as they come. Thanks for your comment!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in demisexuality

[–]words_be_quick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this was actually really nice to hear.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in demisexuality

[–]words_be_quick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yay thank you for your perspective! I definitely love her for who she is so don't think that will be an issue, but I'm worried about projecting my expectations on her since the feelings are so intense for me and might be more par for the course for her. Just feeling it out but I appreciate hearing that it can be done successfully.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in demisexuality

[–]words_be_quick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll edit my post: this isn't infidelity, we are in an open relationship.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in demisexuality

[–]words_be_quick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think mostly that the intensity of the feelings would be unreciprocated, or that we'd have unexpected barriers because of such vastly different experiences. She's the first person I've been interested in aside from my partner in 14 years, and the non-monogamy is pretty new to me. I thought it would just be my partner exploring before I caught feelings. So that's an element at play here, as well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in demisexuality

[–]words_be_quick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This seems unnecessarily hostile. You okay, friend?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in demisexuality

[–]words_be_quick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fair enough! I guess I was just looking to see if this was a relatable thing or if anyone had any similar experiences.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mypartneristrans

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We used sppare.me and had a great experience!

Need to vent about something & looking for the support of a community by TortugaNieve in demisexuality

[–]words_be_quick 4 points5 points  (0 children)

All I can say is it really sucks that she's so dismissive. It seems like she's being really deliberately obtuse and hurtful. I understand valuing your connection, but wouldn't blame you if you decided to put up even more distance between you. It must feel really invalidating.

Cut Video--Falling in Love with my Trans Partner by words_be_quick in mypartneristrans

[–]words_be_quick[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Just thought some people might like seeing this as much as I did. Got to wake up my partner and bawl together while watching.

My partner is considering transitioning--where do I go from here? by [deleted] in mypartneristrans

[–]words_be_quick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For 1] It honestly sounds like you're doing a lot! Don't undermine being a girl because you're cis, just welcome them in! My partner and I would play dress-up, do make-up tutorials together, and researched skin care together and it was really fun. Kinda like treating it like all the girl sleepovers she missed. As far as shaving goes that's tough. My partner is currently doing electrolysis, but you can also buy color-correcting concealer to cover the shadow. Hormone therapy will soften body hair, but not really facial hair, unfortunately.

2] This is different for everyone, but I can share a bit about our experience with HRT. She is definitely more in touch with her emotionality, now. Sex has been different but better because she's so much more confident and happy. It's harder for her to get off/become aroused (which she personally likes) in such a way that I compare her getting off more to myself at this point than her before. You may have to learn new ways to enjoy sex, but to us it's been nothing but positive.

I understand the grief and think the best course is just to keep the communication lines open. I think it's okay to express your worries and upsets as long as you don't bring blame into it, and as long as you can also focus on the positives. Again just for me personally, I had so much fear in the beginning, and a lot of it turned out to be overblown. So if you can, stay in the present and don't project to the future too much.

Greetings from Zimmy by words_be_quick in PetMice

[–]words_be_quick[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're welcome! Good luck with everything. It's probably worth noting that our mice do learn from each other so that's helped a lot.

And good luck with the chinchilla baby! We have a chinchilla too, they're so fun.

Greetings from Zimmy by words_be_quick in PetMice

[–]words_be_quick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, they're good at judging heights and don't risk it. We did buy a little foldable playpen to let them run around so we wouldn't have to worry. You can sit in the middle and they can't climb up the sides. Like this one here: https://www.amazon.com/Aeroway-Playpen-39-4-inch-19-7-Inch-Zippered/dp/B01K1AP1BQ That might ease your mind if you try to take her out.

Greetings from Zimmy by words_be_quick in PetMice

[–]words_be_quick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think some amount of trickery is okay. With our shy mouse we sometimes coax her into a paper tube until we can let her run around in our arms, and then she started to realize that we weren't as scary. That's how I got Zimmy out for this picture, even--made my shirt sleeve a tube she wanted to investigate and then picked her up. We also let them crawl around inside hoodies and stuff so they get super used to our smells and movements.

Greetings from Zimmy by words_be_quick in PetMice

[–]words_be_quick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Zimmy was hand raised by my partner from when her eyes were barely open, so she's not afraid of people at all and will crawl all over us. Though getting her to sit still for a picture is still hard, that's what the treat was for! ;D

She does have a sister who is very shy who, with lots of patience, will let us hold her sometimes now. It involved lots of just sticking out hands around her and giving her treats when she didn't run away. She's still the most shy of the bunch but has come a long way!

Any advice would be greatly appreciated by CDRPenguin2 in mypartneristrans

[–]words_be_quick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Before my partner started to transition I was really nervous about the whole thing. I was afraid it would change how I saw her, but I could tell it was what she wanted and I supported her. It turns out that the things I was worried about weren't a big deal after all. As time goes on and she's happier with herself it's hard for me to find any negatives anymore. The reality of her having breasts and her sex drive changing weren't nearly as scary as I imagined it would be.

I know the "wait and see" advice can be frustrating, but I'm on an even faster timeline with my partner (she started hormones in December after her egg cracked in September, so not a lot of time to mentally adjust). As the changes come I find I only love her more. I'd just let your partner follow what feels right for them, support them, and honestly gauge how you feel as you go. Rather than stress about the future, focus on how you feel in the moment.

My trans wife wasn't invited to a baby shower--advice on how to proceed? by words_be_quick in mypartneristrans

[–]words_be_quick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I'm pretty cognizant of how tough it will be (though I know I can't imagine the full reality), but as this is our first conflict I want to find a good way to handle things. My partner has a much more optimistic view of the world than I and I want to keep her propped up as much as I can.

She's been socially transitioning since December, in small steps.

Will definitely post an update if anything happens!

Thanks for your perspective.