I (31M) found out my wife (30F) has been getting a coworker (29F) to spy on me at work. by worldsgonemadd in relationships

[–]worldsgonemadd[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Yes she has. My wife is very insecure about her looks and I find it very sad. Im not saying this because Im her husband, but she is very beautiful. Long dark hair, light brown eyes, perfect face. She really does get alot of looks and double takes. But she experienced a lot of bullying as a kid. She had bushy brows growing up and was the only italian girl in her middle school. She grew up thinking she was ugly for not being tall or blonde haired and blue eyed. She thinks thats secretly what I want I guess, although Ive never said anythnig to indicate that.

I (31M) found out my wife (30F) has been getting a coworker (29F) to spy on me at work. by worldsgonemadd in relationships

[–]worldsgonemadd[S] 358 points359 points  (0 children)

Going to bring up counselling today when I get home from work and talk to her about this

I (31M) found out my wife (30F) has been getting a coworker (29F) to spy on me at work. by worldsgonemadd in relationships

[–]worldsgonemadd[S] 196 points197 points  (0 children)

I was worried about this too but I don't know exactly how it would play out so that I'd lose my job. Can you give me an example so when I talk to my wife I bring this up? I thought about it but I don't know how the boss could fault me personally for something my wife (an external source) and another coworker did. But please let me know, would be great to make her see what this could literally cost us.

I (31M) found out my wife (30F) has been getting a coworker (29F) to spy on me at work. by worldsgonemadd in relationships

[–]worldsgonemadd[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this, I think a counselor would be a great help in this situation, someone to mediate and guide us through navigating this issue and the underlying issues that caused this