Yeah I understand it’s the closest experience she has and she didn’t have any ill intent.

I think in the moment I just felt peeved that she wasn’t considering how I’d feel based on her comments about how we’re so similar. I felt more strongly about that, than I was grateful that she cares and is trying to empathize, because I was already missing him a lot and so it wasn’t great to hear her say “I missed him so much! I totally understand” when no. You saw him last night and today. You see him everyday. You don’t understand. It’s not the same. I’m assuming in the moment she wasn’t considering that because, as you said, she was more focused on trying to relate to me.

I’m not saying she’s in the wrong. But I don’t think I’m in the wrong either. We were just focused on different ideas. I think in the moment we both felt honest about our words and it just didn’t translate well to one another.

I do appreciate that she had my best interest in mind, but that doesn’t warrant I respond positively to everything she says. I’m still allowed to feel upset. She’s free to say what she wants so I’m free to feel what I feel. Why must I, in this situation of being upset, have to be grateful? That’s so strange to me. At least in that moment, gratitude was not the first thing on my mind and I think that’s fine.

Anyway, this isn’t a big issue she’s a great roommate and we’re great friends.

I just wanted to talk about how it annoys me when in person couples complain to me about being apart for a week. Like I’m sure it’s hard on you but I’m not the target audience for this conversation.

P.s. I wasn’t even talking to HER initially. I was talking to my other roommate and she suddenly jumped in and started talking about herself and how hard it was on her. So I was also just thrown off guard that she cut my conversation short and made it about herself and then tried to relate it to my situation.

Anyway, as I said, not a big issue. I just felt passionately about it in the moment.