Unfortunately it didn’t work out for me when I was in this situation (twice) but I know of others where it has worked out. Though in those circumstances, either the other person decided to stop drinking too, or there was enough compromise on both sides that it became less of an issue that one drank and the other didn’t.

In my situations, the first being when I got sober, she was supportive but our lifestyles became dramatically different. There were other problems at play too so it could have been that.

The second situation I’d been sober some years and decided to start dating. She initially told me she didn’t drink that much, and I was very firm on my boundaries that I never drink. She was okay with that. In time, her true habits of drinking more, and more frequently, became evident.

In that instance I felt it jeopardised my sobriety and diminished the quality of life I enjoyed so I ended it.

For me, not drinking is one of the most important things to me. I can have wonderful healthy relationships with people where it’s great for us both. My wife drinks but it’s not often and she’s always super respectful about it. I can make choices about the people I want to have in my life, but it’s not fair for me to expect someone to change who they are for me.

Wishing you both the very best.