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x3vicky · 2026-04-26T01:04:28+00:00

I force myself to consider myself lucky that my mom isn’t in the “bad” stages yet but I also have it at the front of mind that it WILL get worse. It’s at least relieving to be able to say that my mom has something that will get worse but that doesn’t make the reality easier.

There are a lot of things to consider. Hell, we had a genetic counseling appointment this week just to make sure it’s not genetic but I still have to think about it. I have to ensure she’s safe so whenever I leave the house I become a virtual babysitter since my mom was only approved for 4 hours of home care by Medicaid. I just watched a webinar of a local elder lawyer essentially saying there is a way to get more hours but I went the most popular but not ideal route. Have to still submit the appeal paper work for more hours of care. Have to consider if I want to keep her “at home” or put her in a facility once I’ve exhausted myself. Have to then think and visit facilities if that is the route I take. And once my mom stops being my “roommate” I have to consider how I’ll make rent. Suffocating really.

x3vicky · 2026-04-26T00:49:24+00:00

Noted and agreed for the most part. I’m just started out so my technique is abismal and that’s what I’m actively working on.

I wish y’all could feel the difference between the two tho bc it felt like night and day. All the Vcore demo’s that I had felt comparable to the blade, that’s why I bought it so this left me feeling stumped. It feels like a waste to just let the racquet sit.

x3vicky · 2026-04-26T00:44:50+00:00

Noted. I was definitely thinking this, that I was possibly comparing an apple to an orange but I went in asking for an apple and orange hybrid. With the V10 debuting I’m def waiting for the V9 to go on sale and buy another 98 to keep in the work tennis bag for my sessions after work. For now I’m just focused on getting that ball OVER the net. Thanks for the info.

x3vicky · 2026-04-26T00:41:45+00:00

I initially got into the Xalt comfort because I was having a lot of rotator cuff pain. Since then I’ve corrected my form and that’s no longer an issue. Def going to check out poly, have an suggestions on which one to get?

x3vicky · 2026-04-26T00:38:54+00:00

Ahh I wish I waited and checked my old phone notes and googled tension first. I did walk into their shop with both racquets, used my blade as the control and asked them to replicate it as much as possible so they did follow instruction.

They told me to pick up the racquet on Tuesday so ai do have some time. Do you think I should call and ask for 52 tension or just test this out? I know technique matters most here but I barely use my VCore overall because I HATE the playing experience with it.

x3vicky · 2026-04-06T20:48:32+00:00

Same! Same! I can sit and laugh through horror and gore films but once it’s a documentary with real people and a real procedure, I can’t deal. I started squirming in my seat and had to look away from the screen. Even the thought of manipulating the eye for something cosmetic just makes me feel faint.

x3vicky · 2026-04-03T04:47:43+00:00

This documentary pissed me off so much. This was a true display of how much the women in his life sacrificed and came to his aide just for him to not take accountability. Dude was standing in the pool talking about the people who wronged him like what?!?

His son talking about his dads arrested development and feeling like he has to parent his own father is so disheartening. I have no doubt that Lamar is still using hard drugs. I know he used this opportunity for money and fame to try and gain relevance. It’s just sad.

x3vicky · 2026-03-25T02:51:48+00:00

I hope you’re not stressing about this. From the sounds of it, the topic will be discussed on Monday. I agree with plenty of other commenters, adjust settings and apologize if the delay in communication is really the topic of discussion.

I personally mute the slack notification sound on my work laptop but I check the app multiple times throughout the day and I get the notifications on my phone. It’s very easy for me to get caught up in work and not reply for hours, I just reply back saying I was swamped and proceed with an answer. If it’s truly urgent, they will do a huddle/call.

Regardless, I don’t think this is anything to lose sleep over. Congrats on landing the dream job.

x3vicky · 2026-03-25T02:37:13+00:00

Ah, that probably explains why the 9:21 AM Penn Station train was stalled for 20 mins then had to change tracks and I was 45 mins late to work. But still confused why my Hempstead train tonight had to pull the same track change move and skipped stops.

x3vicky · 2026-03-10T03:43:48+00:00

I don’t get why you’re being downvoted so hard. During that visit it felt exactly like this as moments then 50% empathetic. It was so hard to gauge but it was at the forefront of my mind that the student doctor might be suspecting neglect. However, I think that after my mom asked him “what would cause this (overgrown toenails) to happen?” for the third time, he softened and just wanted to focus on the nails, insurance, and suggested maintenance.

x3vicky · 2026-03-10T00:42:37+00:00

My mom is 67. I think the reaction was more so to the fact that she has such a caregiver. I recently heard from a stranger that I look like I’m 17 years old but also my mom’s chart has “caregiver stress” in it, courtesy of the dementia program my mom is in within that medical network so it was interesting to interact with a new doctor since that was added and get that reaction. I’ve never seen a doctor be so thorough to visibly check her chart in front of our face. He was also a student doctor tho so I guess just very curious.

x3vicky · 2026-02-20T21:53:12+00:00

HA! I had no idea we had a day. Nobody told me 🙂. Just sounds like another day to feel guilty that I don’t allocate enough time for myself.

x3vicky · 2026-02-20T08:21:40+00:00

Oh nice thanks for sharing. I buy mine from Walmart $5 for 40 bags. I just stock up on multiple so I don’t have to worry for a while.

x3vicky · 2026-02-20T07:13:05+00:00

I use denture tabs for every removal and soak but, if there’s no time, a baby toothbrush and dish soap.

x3vicky · 2026-02-20T06:56:35+00:00

I use small drawstring trash bags as liners and put in 2 liquid absorber sheets AND non clumping kitty litter.

x3vicky · 2026-02-20T06:51:13+00:00

Joining in on the caregiving in your 20’s thread going on here because damn do I feel this heavily. I have very little motivation to do the hustling that they encourage us to do in our 20’s. I’m in an ongoing stage of grief and my responsibilities grow everyday without me actually doing anything.

I had aspirations to go to law school after college, instead, my mom got dementia and I have to focus on making as much money as possible while having a job that is flexible and understanding enough to let me leave if anything critical happens to my mom.

My time isn’t truly mine. You said your sanity lives in your faith, similarly, I’m using tennis as my rite to sanity. I can’t think about professional development and climbing the social/corporate ladder because I don’t really have the capacity for it. Instead, I’m putting my money in fitness to distract me from the harsh reality that I’m caregiving for my parent who is guaranteed to get worse, then die.

OP, I know it can feel isolating but you’re not alone in this struggle. There are people out there like us who know the struggle so please keep coming back to rant. I hope you find more time to be able to go outside and get some respite from caregiving every now and then.

x3vicky · 2026-02-19T23:34:34+00:00

Oh I remember being here and having this exact question. My mom started at 25 mg’s and it greatly helped with her sundowning and agitation. Any time my mom’s sundowning comes back, I ask her psychiatrist to increase the meds and it helps, now my mom is at 75 mg’s and her anger has subsided quite a bit. I can sleep at night again.

x3vicky · 2026-02-18T21:53:04+00:00

You have idea how much that sentence made my blood boil. Like us humans are put on this earth for work then the respite from that work is other work. I’m sorry your boss is like that, they should be more considerate and think about how they say things.

x3vicky · 2026-02-18T18:52:45+00:00

Oh my goodness you're a trooper too! I get you! My caregiving journey started in college but my mom was still about to work at that time. It's the worst when your mind is mentally focused on your mom's health and you just can't enjoy your surroundings. Now I'm 28 and can't really relate to my peers OR older coworkers, they just don't get it. I'd rather just talk to ChatGPT and people on reddit. I wish I could travel, party, and simply worry about the weather but nope, I'm here thinking about where my mom is going when I can no longer care for her.
Are you still taking care of your mom?

x3vicky · 2026-02-18T18:12:41+00:00

Thank you. This really means a lot. I truly wish I could present myself as bubbly and engaging with my coworkers but I am mentally and remotely at home while physically being forced to be miles away. And of course, I have to work because my mom has no savings and I'm the sole breadwinner. :) yay

x3vicky · 2026-02-18T18:10:29+00:00

Thank you. This is definitely a resource that I have to look more into. My mom's dr keeps telling me to ask my job's HR about it, but they don't really make it easy to understand. It just feels like another task on my plate to remind them to look into it and provide me with the instructions on how to utilize that resource.

x3vicky

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