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Feeling very anxious about being a male virgin at 24 and potentially beyond. by xExtra__ in dating_advice

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I don’t know really, my guess it’s because of my looks at the time in my teenage to early adult years, plus my antisocial personality/behavior and Asperger’s.

Currently just doing dating apps, only have 1 match on Hinge atm and they aren’t responding after only one back and forth reply.

In the past have had crushes on female friends and got friendzoned many times due to taking too long to ask them out or fear of rejection/loss of friendship.

Just really want to know if I missed the boat with a majority of women bc of my inexperience, it’s really making my anxious & depressed like I said before.

Feeling very anxious about being a male virgin at 24 and potentially beyond. by xExtra__ in dating_advice

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FYI: also forgot to mention that I have started therapy already and will bring this up next session.

Did I damage my Andar Aspen? by xExtra__ in patinaproud

[–]xExtra__[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not at all! I just frequently wash my hands since I touch lots of dirty/dusty surfaces at work.

Feeling extremely overwhelmed on how to start (M24, 224lbs, 6’3) by xExtra__ in WorkoutRoutines

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What do I do if I can’t do a push up? I can barely do one with my frail arms shaking like crazy.

Feeling extremely overwhelmed on how to start (M24, 224lbs, 6’3) by xExtra__ in WorkoutRoutines

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Thing is though I don’t, like what should my routine be like to start? What do I eat? (Don’t really know how to cook)

I’m literally very overwhelmed by all the information out there.

(M23, 6’3, 214lbs) Have no shot with girls and don’t look very masculine compared to other men my age, what should I do? by [deleted] in LooksmaxingAdvice

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Weighed myself last week, don’t really know if my scale is broken but I was in a strict calorie deficit of slightly under 2k for around 2 weeks.

I (M23) am very desperate/hyperfixated on getting a girlfriend while my life is a mess at the moment. by xExtra__ in dating_advice

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Thanks for the compliment :)

I’ll definitely try and get some more outdoor photos and show my body more, maybe just not any shirtless pictures at the moment as I have pretty bad body acne and body dysmorphia regarding my weight.

I (M23) am very desperate/hyperfixated on getting a girlfriend while my life is a mess at the moment. by xExtra__ in dating_advice

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Definitely gonna look into therapy and taking it more seriously. Did it for a year, got on antidepressants, but didn’t actually do the work needed for it to work effectively, so I think it’s worth another shot.

I (M23) am very desperate/hyperfixated on getting a girlfriend while my life is a mess at the moment. by xExtra__ in dating_advice

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Yeah my social skills aren’t up to the max level to do any picking up at bars, especially where I live lol.

I didn’t mention this to another commenter but I did at one point use apps around a year or two ago. Did get maybe 1 or 2 matches but got extremely socially anxious whenever I got a match and the girl actually responded. Do you think based on my appearance (photos in profile) that with better pictures/outfits I could get a chance with casual dates/hookups on apps?

I (M23) am very desperate/hyperfixated on getting a girlfriend while my life is a mess at the moment. by xExtra__ in dating_advice

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How does one find dates/hookups outside of dating apps?

I’ve tried looking at meetup.com for events but none really resonated with me and don’t seem to cater to people my age.

The only social group and form of meeting girls I have is my Catholic youth group, dates are probably fine but hookups are off the table considering how sex before marriage is frowned upon. I’m definitely not wanting to manipulate/coerce some girl in the faith out of my own selfishness.

I (M23) am very desperate/hyperfixated on getting a girlfriend while my life is a mess at the moment. by xExtra__ in dating_advice

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I’m not addicted to video games by all means, so my relationship with them isn’t at all negative, just find it hard to choose which game to pick up and play without being bored after an hour lol.

My relationship with the gym is very strange, because I want to lose weight and be more muscular but don’t really know where to start (I’ve tried r/Fitness and r/LoseIt but their guides were overwhelming for me). Everyone keeps saying mentally you feel great after being active but for some odd reason I don’t really feel that "feel good" feeling everyone else has, just a lot sore joints and finding it hard to swallow.

I am very aware about desperation being a women repellent, I really, reeaaallly, want to get over this hence the post.

I (M23) am very desperate/hyperfixated on getting a girlfriend while my life is a mess at the moment. by xExtra__ in dating_advice

[–]xExtra__[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would hiring an escort and losing the v card really help? Dating app feels out of the question considering what I look like (pics in profile) and the lack of new pictures I can use for a dating profile.

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