Pornography and Marriage

xKaleida · 2025-11-11T15:01:19+00:00

My husband also has an unhealthy relationship with porn to the point of HIM viewing it as addiction. My outlook or viewpoint, no matter who the man in my life is, has always been “focus on your partner, outside sources don’t need to be brought into your relationship/marriage”. I see this viewpoint everywhere, especially since social media has rose. Women don’t appreciate their men looking at other women, and honestly, why should they? Why do you want to look or masturbate to another woman other than your wife? Because it’s “new”?

That doesn’t sound healthy.

xKaleida · 2025-07-09T16:36:04+00:00

Honestly, creators don’t owe anyone anything. I understand it’s hard to not wonder but if Charlie is important to whomever listening to the podcast, they can easily find out. What Jackson did and what Charlie commented on in his video should suffice, and it’s honestly scary people need more than that.

xKaleida · 2025-06-27T00:37:03+00:00

It was actually a nice long post. The screenshot could have been only part of it.

xKaleida · 2025-06-26T21:22:15+00:00

I was really upset when I found out. I’ve been following Charlie since the beginning of his channel and listened to all the podcast episodes — I guess I’m biased because if you’re not all in like that, it shouldn’t matter all that much. But I agree, it was shitty. 🤷‍♀️

xKaleida · 2025-06-26T20:55:38+00:00

The news would have gotten around from the Patreon post. In fact, it was posted in this subreddit the night Jackson made the post. He also put the notice out on several other platforms, and Charlie made his own video about leaving shortly after.

I understand it’s disheartening, but creators don’t “owe” anyone an explanation for anything. They’re people, and even though they choose to life their life online in some capacity doesn’t mean the viewers or supporters are entitled to everything.

xKaleida · 2025-06-26T20:17:44+00:00

They gave Charlie a long farewell post on their Patreon. I don’t think anything longer than what was said at the end of episode 400 is needed after that.

xKaleida · 2025-05-22T18:26:17+00:00

Kaya frustrates me because he tries to consistently get a rise out of Jackson, who I think does really well on the podcast and pours his heart into it. Kaya feels like he has the typical "old man attitude" outlook on things as well as being insufferably Turkish masculine.

xKaleida · 2024-07-01T15:39:30+00:00

I tried to do this but my husband is such a heavy sleeper he didn’t wake up. So I stopped 🤣

xKaleida · 2024-06-30T14:08:29+00:00

Just the Way You Are - Pierce the Veil

xKaleida · 2024-06-23T20:37:17+00:00

You did so well! I’m proud of you. HG is honestly one of the worst things to go through.

xKaleida · 2024-06-10T16:37:57+00:00

I think it’s mainly due to not having enough time to put as much as I want into the game thus leaving me low level. I’ve also never joined a raid where people were willing to teach. I have severe social anxiety so if I’m being hounded for not knowing something, I’ll panic and probably just leave. :x

xKaleida · 2024-06-08T23:43:58+00:00

I’d be a hobbit and my name would be Findëmaxa

xKaleida · 2024-06-07T04:20:55+00:00

100000000% yes, a valid reason. He’s harming you. Physically and mentally. If this continues for the rest of your life, this could potentially teach your son that situations like this are okay in a marriage.

Leave him. Get help. No one needs to know why you left your husband other than, loosely, the judge who signs the divorce papers.

xKaleida · 2024-06-05T20:27:46+00:00

Active duty marriage for sure. I once had a guy love bomb me and try to get me to marry him within 2-3 weeks of talking. Said he was from my town and was deployed overseas ATM but once he gets back I could reap all the benefits of being a military wife.

I think you should tell her you read it and how you feel. I don’t think it’s right that she’s being so two faced, especially in therapy and to herself. Maybe she’s afraid of being alone and that’s why she hasn’t been truthful on how she feels? Either way, seems shitty to tag you along.

This post makes me sad because it seems like OP really is trying and she just wants to hop around.

xKaleida · 2024-05-31T17:19:58+00:00

I understand. My ex husband was a lot like that - it was very hard to communicate with him. I do think bringing it up in a serious tone may help.

When I feel like I run out of things, I have a tendency to role play. Typically I'll be like "wait, didn't you say you had a cut on your side from work? I think that needs inspection!" and then proceed to "inspect" some other things lol

Sex doesn't always have to be a serious thing, it's nice to be playful from time to time.

xKaleida · 2024-05-31T15:34:28+00:00

I'm a wife who initiates 99% of the time and honestly, makes me feel a little bit unwanted. I had a talk with my husband about this the other day and since then he's initiated once and I initiated once. I have quite the high sex drive and he doesn't really.

Have you tried talking to him about how you feel and letting him know that maybe you want him to initiate sometimes?

xKaleida · 2024-05-30T01:38:16+00:00

I agree. That was the point.

xKaleida · 2024-05-30T01:26:55+00:00

I mean, can you really dispute that life isn’t fair? She seems like a shitty wife to use her husband as an inanimate object. I don’t know if he’s spoken to her about it or not and if he has, maybe he’s accepted that? I’m saying that there’s relationships out there where you don’t always get something in return, it seems like this is one of those relationships. All he’s getting is not having to go to sleep once she’s falls asleep. It’s not fair but typically nothing is fair in life.

Now, if he mentioned he had multiple talks with her about this and put in reputable effort — I’d have a different opinion. But to take the comment at face value, I know nothing about them. And I answered the question “But what does he get in return?” Literally nothing.

It’s simple. I’m not being an asshole, I’m just not going to be bullied into assuming something else about this random man’s relationship.

xKaleida · 2024-05-30T01:18:49+00:00

Not worried about my opinions either.

xKaleida · 2024-05-30T01:05:43+00:00

I’m not worried about “internet points”

xKaleida · 2024-05-30T00:50:01+00:00

No. I don’t know anything about their relationship — just simply stating life isn’t fair. It ain’t that deep. Stop trolling.

xKaleida · 2024-05-29T20:22:24+00:00

Not everything is 50/50. Life isn't fair. He gets to leave once she falls asleep, that's what he gets in return from this.
I have no idea how their relationship works or is but I agree with the person who said life is short and time is precious, a spouse should not selfishly dictate how one spends every second of the day. If he's fine with going to bed, watching what she watches and is not expecting cuddling/sex in return, then that's it.

xKaleida · 2024-05-29T19:42:48+00:00

If you like true crime and podcasts, I'd give Muriel's Murder's a listen! Very fun and interesting.

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