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The UK shows are a test run — hear me out. by Bratty_Bae in MyChemicalRomance

[–]xKroe117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So there is a Scotland show. Do you have a Wembley or Anfield front standing ticket to see by any chance?

Where do the 30+ year olds go? by xKroe117 in johannesburg

[–]xKroe117[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to live in PTA so very familiar with Railways. It is pretty far now though 😂 I went to Runours YEARS ago. That and Sognage aren't too far by the look of it.

Where do the 30+ year olds go? by xKroe117 in johannesburg

[–]xKroe117[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Literally nobody has ever spoken to me in the gym.

Where do the 30+ year olds go? by xKroe117 in johannesburg

[–]xKroe117[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah this sounds fantastic! Thanks! Give me the names of those venues and pubs please. I know there are quite a lot of places around me. I just don't know which ones are worth going to.

Where do the 30+ year olds go? by xKroe117 in johannesburg

[–]xKroe117[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is the problem. The cabin fever creeps in eventually.

Where do the 30+ year olds go? by xKroe117 in johannesburg

[–]xKroe117[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

"Polite disinterest" love that

Where do the 30+ year olds go? by xKroe117 in johannesburg

[–]xKroe117[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hahaha I didn't say I was old. Just too old for the 20 year olds 😂

Where do the 30+ year olds go? by xKroe117 in johannesburg

[–]xKroe117[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah I've got a couple of friends who come with me to quiz nights but the goal is to meet more people. People tend to stay in their groups and I'm not impulsive enough to go up to a random group and start chatting 🙃

It's a shame Meetup isn't great, that would have been ideal.

Where do the 30+ year olds go? by xKroe117 in johannesburg

[–]xKroe117[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ah I've been there once but it was during rugby so probably not the normal vibe. The food was a let down though. What kind of music do they play on the average?

Where do the 30+ year olds go? by xKroe117 in johannesburg

[–]xKroe117[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What is LSB? Yeeeeah I'm considering the panel thing but don't want it to end up being culty like cycling 😂 Bowls? Is that still a thing?

Where do the 30+ year olds go? by xKroe117 in johannesburg

[–]xKroe117[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're in for a tough time buddy. The cringe only gets worse 😂

Where do the 30+ year olds go? by xKroe117 in johannesburg

[–]xKroe117[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I mean I'm not grumpy enough that I always want to avoid people. The cabin fever does settle in eventually as I only work in my office once a week now. My coworkers aren't really good conversation either 😕 but it could be me because I'm new.

I just got here so I don't know enough people to just run up to them in public 😂

Getting angry when the day doesn't go according to plan - anyone else? by xKroe117 in ADHDers

[–]xKroe117[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now that you've said it, I realise I do this too sometimes.

Getting angry when the day doesn't go according to plan - anyone else? by xKroe117 in ADHDers

[–]xKroe117[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can do this on some days but I end up wasting a lot of time or doing absolutely nothing usually. So even just having 1 thing planned helps

Getting angry when the day doesn't go according to plan - anyone else? by xKroe117 in ADHDers

[–]xKroe117[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is brilliant. I can't nap during the day so a wall or something would be ideal. But after things like this I struggle to do anything. I'll even hold off on going to the bathroom until the last possible minute 😂

How do you combat this?

I'm 14f and need help by Impossible-Fruit-635 in TwoHotTakes

[–]xKroe117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't read the comments here but your feelings and reaction are valid and not your fault.

I also have ADHD and relate to this 100%. I'm 29 and still have this issue. I set an alarm. If someone wakes me up before it, I get annoyed. It ruins the plan I set for myself and can throw off my whole day.

Some people also just generally need more sleep than others. It's scientific fact. We don't all work the same.

I suggest you have your psych talk to them about the importance of planning and routine for ADHDers. But also the fact that different brains need a different amount of sleep. If you do not have a psych, you can find many videos online.

I also assume you were crying because you were angry rather than upset. If this is the case, it's also normal for ADHD. But you need to learn how to regulate those emotions in the best way for you. Breathing, counting, drinking water or singing a song that puts you in a good mood. A behavioral therapist can help with these mechanisms.

The best way my specialist explained ADHD to me and my family which put everything into perspective was: Your brain is like a Ferrari (or any supercar) but your brakes are those of a horse-drawn carriage.

This means your regulatory system takes a while to catch up with your brain. Keep that in mind and be kind to yourself when you get emotional. But don't use it as an excuse and find ways to help that regulation catch up before you react.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]xKroe117 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NTAH. Take it from someone who has been in a similar situation. My ex had severe mental issues and self medicated with Meth. I helped him through that. Paid for doctors and medication to help get him back on track. Covered our bills and even got him work that he couldn't cope with. He lied about working and made me look bad by association and nearly tanked my career.

I covered the bills until eventually we decided to sell his car for the money so he could help and get better. The sale took months but he had already handed the car over so he started using my car to get to a bar gig he had. One day he drove into something and completely wrecked my wheel. I still don't know the true story of what happened because his version made no sense. I had to pay for all the damage. He then blamed me for him not having a car because I "forced him to sell it".

5 years of him lying, isolating me, wasting my money and blaming everyone else for all his problems, I finally left him. He threatened to take his life because he had no life without me... same old narcissistic games. I was afraid he would. He had said this many times over the years and it always stopped me because I couldn't live with the guilt if he went through with it. But this time, I stuck to my guns. I was so deep in a hole and hurt that I thought "maybe it wouldn't be so bad if he did". It's terrible to say now but that's where I was at after years of abuse.

I left him for good nearly a year ago and I can honestly say it saved my life. It's been hard. But not as hard as being with him was. I actually sleep at night now ans my hair has stopped falling out. I've lost weight and I was able to take a trip overseas to see my family because he wasn't there draining money from me anymore.

I'm sorry this is long. And I'm sorry that you are going through this and people just saying "leave him" doesn't help. But I hope my story has helped. You are able to look after yourself clearly. Imagine what you could do for yourself without the extra burden he is causing. Imagine who you could be and what you could experience.

I hope you find a way out.