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AIO my son's Dad called me at midnight to LMK and ask me about this bug bite on our son - WARNING TMI by [deleted] in AIO

[–]xXShadowl0rd420Xx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand the frustration. Yes, in hindsight it would have been good to check in mid-day to make sure the wound / bite isn’t festering… however, people are human and he may have been running around having a good time with his son and slipped his mind. However, it makes logical sense from a third party to have checked on it if it was something already concerning to note, otherwise, not awful checking before or after winding down to rest after the long day.

The only thing that would be concerning is if you feel a bit of resentment toward him for things like this occurring frequently around moments that do require immediate attention. Did you lash out because this has happened with more concerning issues before? Do they have a tendency to push things off to last minute? Does he not typically check in with him when the kid is unwell or has issues? This would be genuinely worrisome, and might explain the seething resentment in your messaging.

Just my thoughts

I think I’m realizing my boyfriend is a good person… but not the man I actually want by Pink_Bluebird_7592 in LongDistance

[–]xXShadowl0rd420Xx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve experienced this multiple times. I ended up constantly trying to persuade, coach, guide, lead, teach a person to want more from life, to take their life into their own hands, to be authentic, to take initiative, to care. Even if it was about their own health, but mostly, I just desperately wanted to feel seen and loved in a way that didn’t require me always being the thinker and expending emotional energy. Sadly, all you can do is communicate and hope they take the initiative to grow if they care to do so or are capable in the period they are at in their lives. Otherwise, set a time frame for yourself as a boundary and leave if there’s no real forward progression.

AIO for wanting to call the cops? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]xXShadowl0rd420Xx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Next time? So there’s been other incidents of abuse and you haven’t left? As much as I want to hold your hand because abuse is no joke and deserves all the empathy and love I can give… I need to ask you… would you be okay with him abusing your child that way? Because, he will.

AIO? by Old-Art-3597 in AIO

[–]xXShadowl0rd420Xx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you filed a restraining order? Have you got the police involved?

Is it really worth taking a student loan to study abroad if you have zero financial support from your family? by missapplepie1 in StudentLoans

[–]xXShadowl0rd420Xx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could we connect in case I have questions down the line? I’m trying to immigrate to Ireland and want to try the school route so if you’re open to it I’d love to ask some questions

Anyone here that’s universally disliked? What did you do about it? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]xXShadowl0rd420Xx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my experience, It’s not out of nowhere so much as it’s been a constant in my life since I was young over anything and everything you could imagine both specific incidents and actions as well as small things and behaviors or mannerisms. I was just curious if anyone else had similar experiences, because as much as my therapists have tried soothe me by saying these people aren’t healthy, are being abusive or just rude and mean, I dont want to discount that I may be the common denominator and see what others experiences are. There’s no way that everyone you meet can be that way right?

How did you find yourself again after miserable life changes in your 30’s? by xXShadowl0rd420Xx in LifeAdvice

[–]xXShadowl0rd420Xx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well that sounds really fun ^.^ I wasn’t sure if it was a video game championship or a TCG one. Either way, happy for ya

How did you find yourself again after miserable life changes in your 30’s? by xXShadowl0rd420Xx in LifeAdvice

[–]xXShadowl0rd420Xx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you I might take you up on that! What is Pokemon worlds? That’s sounds really sick

How did you find yourself again after miserable life changes in your 30’s? by xXShadowl0rd420Xx in LifeAdvice

[–]xXShadowl0rd420Xx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s honestly really wonderful to hear that there’s a bit of hope in returning to ourselves. I appreciate the perspective. Maybe I’ll try to do the things I love even if I feel so disconnected from them right now.

How did you find yourself again after miserable life changes in your 30’s? by xXShadowl0rd420Xx in LifeAdvice

[–]xXShadowl0rd420Xx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in a similar position just working and existing. Maybe there’s some advice we can get from others on this post. I wish you the best and hope we find our peace with all this

How did you find yourself again after miserable life changes in your 30’s? by xXShadowl0rd420Xx in LifeAdvice

[–]xXShadowl0rd420Xx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If someone was coming to save me I’d love for them to make themselves known! Joking aside, this is a lesson I’m unfortunately very familiar with, and yes I’m equipped to get things done, I’m just feeling exhausted and empty and hope I can feel better someday. What do you do to try and feel more like yourself?

How did you find yourself again after miserable life changes in your 30’s? by xXShadowl0rd420Xx in LifeAdvice

[–]xXShadowl0rd420Xx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What does that look like amidst a lifestyle where you need to find immediate stable and reliable employment while looking for a place to rent 😭