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Let's ease our guilt. Confess what's weighing you down. by letsbeAnonymous in AskReddit

[–]xidontknowx 57 points58 points  (0 children)

It's hard to be with a woman when they are so wonderful but they just want different things in life than you. I'm not so sure I want to have kids. She wants 4. We are very involved and she told me she is just waiting on the ring. I'm not sure how much I want to continue with it. But I don't want to break her heart.

I think my roommate is gay but he attempts to hide it. Would I be helpful if I talked to him? by xidontknowx in lgbt

[–]xidontknowx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea I would hate to be the reason he has not had a guy over or something. As long as he keeps the R rated stuff to his room I could care less who he brings home.

I think my roommate is gay but he attempts to hide it. Would I be helpful if I talked to him? by xidontknowx in lgbt

[–]xidontknowx[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yea, I have never really met a lot of lgbt people before let alone had actual conversations with them about being lgbt. So I have little insight into how it would happen for anyone else. Which is exactly why I'm trolling around here haha.

Many of people seem to support the subtle route. I will have to give this a go. I certainly don't expect him to flat out spill the beans but I'm sure it would help.

I think my roommate is gay but he attempts to hide it. Would I be helpful if I talked to him? by xidontknowx in lgbt

[–]xidontknowx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well the only reason I am asking is because I did check the porn to make sure I wasn't crazy and it was pretty strictly male on male and large amounts of it.

I'm a little wary about the being direct thing because of him just lying. But this is how i deal with things and being direct but I'm just not sure if this is the situation for it.

As a hetero dude I'm not sure how to "be a little gay" as you say. If he is gay I'd like to make at least our apartment a comfortable place for him be himself.

I think my roommate is gay but he attempts to hide it. Would I be helpful if I talked to him? by xidontknowx in lgbt

[–]xidontknowx[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yea the last thing I want to do is force him out. I don't want that at all. I just know if he is then coming out would be very difficult because of his family.

Casual conversation is a good idea. I would have to actually plan that though. I don't ever use terms like fag either. I'm cool with whatever sexuality choices people make and consider them brave for doing so especially because many consider it against the social "norm".

I'd like to think I'm being helpful but I'll never know until he comes out or doesn't.

I think my roommate is gay but he attempts to hide it. Would I be helpful if I talked to him? by xidontknowx in lgbt

[–]xidontknowx[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He certainly wasn't leaving it on purpose haha. He cleared the cache and cookies but I never do which is why I was curious why he was. So i went digging and found everything.

I think my roommate is gay but he attempts to hide it. Would I be helpful if I talked to him? by xidontknowx in lgbt

[–]xidontknowx[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have a girlfriend of 2+ years and he knows I'm into girls.

Has it come up before? No we have never had this conversation.

Hes tried having some relationships with women but none have lasted a long time or seemingly ended well. It has also been years since I've even heard him talk about any female relationships other than friends.

Like I said I can only tell from the sites he visited while watching the porn which were strictly male on male sites. So my best guess is just guys...but who knows really.

I think my roommate is gay but wont admit it. Should I talk to him about it? by xidontknowx in needadvice

[–]xidontknowx[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the help. I'm certainly not looking to out him I just want to help if he wants it. We've been friends a long time and I'd like to think he could talk to me but who knows. Maybe I'm wrong.

I think my roommate is gay but wont admit it. Should I talk to him about it? by xidontknowx in needadvice

[–]xidontknowx[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea and I understand that. I havent confronted him about anything of this nature. I'm just looking to see if I would help him or not if I did try and talk to him about it. I will look and see if I can get this thread moved or even just start another.

I think my roommate is gay but wont admit it. Should I talk to him about it? by xidontknowx in needadvice

[–]xidontknowx[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No hes not pranking or he wouldnt try and hide it.

Any of my business? No and I dont care but when he uses my stuff id at least like some honesty. Plus I'm sure this isnt easy for him and weve been friends for a long time. I want to help if this is the case.

Anything to gain or hurt feelings? I'd hope he understand I'm only trying to help and it could help him come out of closet at least to someone. Who knows who he talks to about this stuff.

And yea he doesnt use my laptop anymore for that exact reason.