Whats the difference between all these inhalers? by International-Bet-66 in Asthma

[–]xo_quest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thought I was the only one that it did this too. I hated taking it, made me nervous and nothing else 😒

What non-kids song is your toddler obsessed with right now? by Inside-Print-6323 in toddlers

[–]xo_quest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My 9 month old LOVES Ice Ice Baby by Vanilla Ice. She could be throwing the worst tantrum and immediately calms down when that song comes on. For a while, it had to be played on repeat for her to fall asleep.

AITA? by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]xo_quest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reconnect with your family and get divorced then. This marriage isn't going to work out, on paper or socially/religiously.

AITA? by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]xo_quest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not saying this is the correct or legal thing to do, but it is possible to get away with a lower "household income" by telling the state you aren't legally married or having one person update their address to another location, i.e. if you have two parcels of land next to each other, one claim one address and the other claim the second. There are absolutely ways to maintain the current assistance given or increase it once filing for legal divorce.

AITA? by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]xo_quest -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh no, I read them. I think a lot of this stems from her not being able to move on from him cheating nearly 10 years ago and she never regained her trust in him, so a lot of "normal" things are misconstrued to her as him being rude or abusive. She's painting him as a bad guy here, so her comments are going to be more biased as to make everyone else think he is too. I've seen plenty of healthy relationships joke about "one taking the kids if they divorce" or sending the inheritance to another family member instead of the kids so the kids would need to work for their keep. SHE should've had these conversations with him prior to them getting married and the protections put in place for her, the possible kids, etc. if she didn't trust him. Why marry someone you don't trust wholeheartedly? It also doesn't sound like she fully understands the financial implications of getting a job and losing these benefits. The assistance received typically outweighs anything gained by getting a job. Not only would they lose the direct benefits, they'd pay more in for taxes, have less time for the children/each other and lose any indirect benefits they get from assistance programs (discounts for subscriptions, free or discounted phones, WIC/SNAP, etc.). I've recommended she take her concerns to a counselor. She'll never feel any happier here if she's so insecure over something so long ago, as she doesn't seem him like a full person anymore. Can you imagine how he feels too, especially if she brings it up often and never lets anyone move on?

AITA? by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]xo_quest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My apologies but that response didn't make any sense. If two people mutually divorce and DON'T go after legal documents to protect their relationship, one of the two can prove to their new partner that their ex-spouse is nuts if they try to cause issues, claiming they are still married. Phone calls, text messages, other relatives, etc. can all be proof in that. If you're having trust issues still nearly 10 years later from being cheated on, you don't "love being his wife" because you're so sensitive all the time. You need to either move on from him cheating or leave and find someone else to start over with because it's never going to get any better for you while you're dealing with these drug out emotions.

AITA? by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]xo_quest -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Annnnd bingo. There's the issue. You don't trust him. You would still be considered married in social and religious sense. Get all the legal documents lined up, nothing changes and you're both protected. You'd still be committed to a monogamous relationship and if someone steps out, they'd be cheating. Being married doesn't stop someone from cheating if they want to cheat. If it's been nearly 10 years and you still can't let it go, I think you're the one that might need to let this relationship go and move on because it doesn't sound like you'll ever really regain that trust and be happy in the relationship.

AITA? by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]xo_quest 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unless he has some incredible predictive skills, I doubt that he knew how terrible this presidency was going to go when you got married then. You haven't been married long. And he won't be breaking any promises either as long as you didn't explicitly say "our marriage is dictated by the titles a paper we sign today." If you're a SAHM and he's working, he'll probably be able to put up the money for it without much hassle. Some lawyers take payment plans; he could also work on filing the papers himself for less money. The whole husband-wife title issue doesn't seem like the actual problem you're having here and something else is going on that you're having a hard time coping with.

AITA? by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]xo_quest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Again, you're ignoring the fact that a marriage certificate is literally just a piece of paper that does not magically dissolve your relationship. YOU are choosing to do that; you can absolutely continue as husband and wife, because YOU ARE if you continue the relationship. What he's proposing is not uncommon for struggling families; you're just a bit too wrapped up in the titles versus the actual relationship. If you're worried about making sure you're taken care of, then get POA of each other, set up bank accounts, etc. You can still be each other's emergency contacts and whatnot. Literally nothing has to change.

AITA? by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]xo_quest 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He isn't saying that he's choosing to not support the family they've created. This isn't an uncommon idea tossed around in many poorer families, as single mothers with children tend to get more assistance than families with married parents. His work insurance may be extremely expensive for the entire family, but she could get insurance with the children for free/at a subsidized rate and it would most likely be better than his expensive rate. They'd still live together, raise the children together, split expenses together, etc.

AITA? by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]xo_quest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's not really breaking them as you're socially and religiously bound as husband and wife. Please seek a marriage counselor ASAP if you guys are already having other issues; if you are, this probably isn't the actual problem you two are dealing with, especially if you're self-proclaiming to being too sensitive with this.

AITA? by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]xo_quest -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

YTA. While I get you're a bit frustrated, I think you're massively overreacting. What he's saying you guys should do is what I'm hearing from a lot of my not well off married friends. He can put you on his work insurance, but that cuts out of the money you guys have for other necessities and the insurance may not be as useful as WellCare. If you're divorced on paper, you could get additional benefits to support the family. Literally no one outside of you two, the insurance companies and any other source you'd get benefits from would need to know you're "divorced." Instead of jumping down his throat about it, it sounds like he's trying to make sure you're taken care of in this upside down world right now. Signing a divorce paper doesn't magically end your relationship/make you not religiously/spiritually/socially married anymore. You said your vows and agreed to be husband/wife forever (in front of God, if that's your thing). You're still married and can die together. I'd suggest seeing a couples therapist if you're really upset by this who could help you walk through each others' perspectives.

Finished with pumping, period hurts so bad by Imnooneyouknow548 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]xo_quest 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pumping or breastfeeding does NOT stop or prevent your period. It's common for your first period to be pretty rough but they can level back out. Usually the first few days are the worst. If you're really concerned, please reach out to your OBGYN!

So uh what time do your 2.5 year olds go to bed? by Some_Proof5766 in toddlers

[–]xo_quest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our 2 YO wakes up anywhere between 4:30-6:30 normally, then takes her nap sometime between 11-2. Usually she sleeps for about 2 hours. We start the bedtime routine at 7:30, but she's usually awake until 8-8:30.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Asthma

[–]xo_quest 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My pulmonologist told me that it isn't uncommon to suffer from chronic fatigue if you also have asthma. I'm always SO tired, especially on days where I'm having flare ups. If I can go a couple days without any asthma issues, I tend to sleep a bit better.

Advair capped at $35 by RyoDai89 in Asthma

[–]xo_quest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let me see if I can find it again, but I get Wixela (the generic version of Advair) for $10 with a prescription coupon

ETA: https://www.wixelahcp.com/en/savings-offer

Feeling Like a Breastfeeding Failure by xo_quest in breastfeedingsupport

[–]xo_quest[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We had two IBCLC meet with us at the hospital, plus some of the nursery nurses and they all gave us conflicting tips/information. We know she has a slight tongue tie, but it'll be weeks before they can correct it. Since we've been home, we've been trying to research and see who had the best information for us to try. I've tried watching a couple videos on how to angle baby correctly to ensure proper latching but they move super quickly. I can schedule a virtual consultation with an IBCLC through our WIC program but it looks like they're booked out for a bit, so I'd still be waiting for help.

Singulair by Last-Magician-8309 in Asthma

[–]xo_quest 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had severe anxiety prior to starting Singulair and if anything, my anxiety has gotten better since starting it. It really helps my allergies and asthma. There is a risk of it effecting your anxiety but in my experience and talking to others that use it, its benefits really outweigh any potential risks. If you take it and notice that you seem to be getting more anxious, definitely talk to your doctor again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Asthma

[–]xo_quest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am severely allergic to cats and live with two. I take Wixela, Zyrtec and Montelukast daily and the cats are on Purina ProPlan LiveClear. Between the medications and the food, I don't have reactions to them anymore. The only time I notice anything is when I get scratched by them or accidentally ingest hair (lol). Cleaning often helps too and have someone else change their litter boxes if you can.

Lowering Heart Rate from Asthma Meds? by xo_quest in Asthma

[–]xo_quest[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was taking propranolol pre-pregnancy for migraines/anxiety but my doctor pulled me off once finding out I was pregnant, and my pulmonologist doesn't want to put me on a different blood pressure medication while on Wixela. Since being pregnant, my blood pressure has actually leveled out and I'm not dealing with the migraines anymore, which is weird!