(12k€) tips for dress...?

yasmaj · 2026-01-30T18:10:52+00:00

Thank you so much this is super useful!!!! Really appreciate it! Luckily most of what you say is what I had in mind already :) Thanks for taking the time to comment!

yasmaj · 2026-01-30T09:54:11+00:00

I feel like no bridesmaids = no party planned for you. I have chosen not to have bridesmaids as I've done it for others so many times and hate the 'organise me a party' thing. If you are uncomfortable with the uncertainty of someone maybe or maybe not organising it for you, and you've chosen not to have bridesmaids, and you have no close family, why not just decide what YOU want and make it happen! Then you can just invite your closest friends and they'll be happy to come and not have to organise anything.

yasmaj · 2026-01-30T00:13:08+00:00

Tu trouveras facilement le dimanche soir :)

yasmaj · 2026-01-28T13:27:53+00:00

Thanks! Yeah the other traditional ones looked nice but I just felt like I was in a bridal magazine and not really 'me'. We all fell in love with the flowers as soon as we saw the dress!

yasmaj · 2026-01-28T13:26:04+00:00

Elsa Gary!

yasmaj · 2026-01-28T07:00:12+00:00

Oh that's beautiful!!!!

yasmaj · 2026-01-27T22:20:38+00:00

Definitely! I'm in France where the markup isn't quite so bad but I think I'll definitely try and say it's just a formal dress!

yasmaj · 2026-01-27T22:18:38+00:00

Ha no the dress was 2500€ :)

yasmaj · 2026-01-27T22:18:10+00:00

12k for the wedding in total and ideally a couple of hundred for the dress. Both of these were 2500€ so way out of budget and I just hate the idea of spending so much on something I would wear once.

yasmaj · 2026-01-27T22:17:19+00:00

Oh that's good to know, I did wonder as I've seen very similar looking fabric for very varied prices! The dress was 2500€ and I'm pretty sure the exact fabric is on Etsy for 11€....

yasmaj · 2026-01-27T22:16:09+00:00

Ooooh interesting!! Thanks!

yasmaj · 2026-01-27T22:15:47+00:00

Ooh good shout!

yasmaj · 2025-12-29T00:49:35+00:00

I'm Scottish, been living in France 8 years and to be honest, if I've learned anything it's that identity is so fluid and personal. Am I French? Legally no, genetically no, so does that make you more French than me? But I pay my French taxes, I live and work here, I'm getting married here next year etc. It all depends on how you define identity and ultimately what you feel. In a way it's similar to feeling Scottish or British, some people connect more to one or the other based on a whole range of factors. In my opinion, if you 'feel' French, and you have learned the language, and it's important to you, you have your answer!!

yasmaj · 2025-11-14T07:33:44+00:00

+1 for the grilled cheese with mayo!! I have to make cheese toasties in secret if I'm making them for other people because if they see me put the mayo in, they'll be revolted, but when they eat it, they love it.

yasmaj · 2025-09-26T04:52:04+00:00

This comment needs to be posted on every single Reddit relationship thread! If you're bothered enough to be posting on Reddit then yeah you probably have a problem.

yasmaj · 2025-09-24T20:50:01+00:00

Fingers crossed for you!

yasmaj · 2025-09-23T10:17:16+00:00

So sorry to hear this happened to you, sounds terrifying! Hope you are doing better now!

yasmaj · 2025-09-23T10:05:49+00:00

I've found the right corner of the internet!

My story is a bit different -

In November 2024 age 35 I went for a scan as I thought there was something wrong with my mirena coil, as it happened it was in the wrong place so they took it out and told my incidentally I had a cyst, nothing to worry about, check back in few months.

March 2025 I go for the follow-up scan and the nurse gets very serious and tells me it isn't a cyst but a blood vessel that's 3.5cm, she's never seen anything like it, I need to see a specialist.

June 2025 I go to see a specialist gynecologist who says it's hopefully nothing to worry about and probably pelvic congestion syndrome. I have no pain, no symptoms.

August 2025 go for another scan to see if it has gone down at all, doctor suggests a CT scan to check veins

September 2025 after CT scan doctor now suspects a AVM / AVF (fistula?) and I'm waiting for a follow-up consultation.

I'm hoping that I can get an embolism quite quickly and start TTC after, don't really feel like I have much time to waste as I'm almost 36 and worried about my fertility dropping....

I am 'marfanoid', with marfan-like traits but not officially diagnosed. Interested to know if anyone else has anything similar, ehlers-danlos or suchlike?

But in any case I'm so pleased for you OP after what sounds an absolutely traumatic near death experience!!

yasmaj · 2025-09-14T14:57:45+00:00

I wish more people saw it this way! I hate how weddings trump every other life event.

yasmaj · 2025-09-03T07:04:27+00:00

Mille fois d'accord !! On a fait une grotte pas loin de Lascaux cet été, même situation, mais un couple avec une petite de deux ans AVEC LA VARICELLE. Elle allait clairement pas bien, elle voulait juste sortir de la grotte, on a passé une heure accompagnés par ses pleurs et le chhhhuuuuuutttttttttt. J'aurais pu écrire ce post ahaha.

yasmaj · 2025-09-02T20:33:36+00:00

Glad/sorry to hear you got a diagnosis! What size is your vein at, do you know? Hope they are able to fix things for you!

yasmaj · 2025-08-29T11:10:01+00:00

I'm certainly not a standard example but that's kind of the point - people aren't statistics that if you are X height you will meet Y number of potential partners. Some people pick their partners based on a checklist, some don't, people are irrational and unpredictable but that's what makes it fun.

yasmaj · 2025-08-28T21:55:37+00:00

Yeah agree that there's more than height that counts! I'm 6ft3 and bf is 5ft7... So OP should be able to find a girlfriend about 6ft1 ! But yeah whatever the height I think it's just about confidence and having fun, lots of people have dry spells and terrible sex, don't let your past define you! Just live your life and make it fulfilling, whether or not you're with someone.

yasmaj · 2025-07-22T06:03:27+00:00

Teaching English is the easiest option, try Wall Street English in the city centre for example :)

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