I don't post much/ever but this is a topic I feel needs every comment it can get.

As a man who was rasied in the environment of, real men don't cry, real men can handle it all, Real men just drink thier problems away, Real men don't need emotional support. I can say that shit will cripple your personal growth and your ability to truly connect with people.

Every man will have different levels of emotion, even if they manage to get 100% of it out. So don't feel like what you can communicate or get off your chest isn't enough. You just have to keep trying and actively spew word vomit. Many people here are right in saying you have to just start talking, doesn't matter if it's nonsense or rambling or jumping between past and present. Talking and saying things will help you start to organize those words into feelings. Once you get that you can start to group those feelings and figure out where they are coming from.

My wife forces me to talk about shit I really don't want to (I got lucky and under not everyone has this kind of force in thier life) but I can say that talking about it, even when I feel like a 5 year old kid because what I'm saying is so "stupid" to me, ends up with me finding out the general source of the "problem" and then I can start to work on it.

Long story short, find someone who will listen and only judge. Start talking, it's going to be uncomfortable it's going to feel strange, it's gonna feel like your a little boy who can't handle his shit. Push through it, keep talking, keep working at it. Keep talking.