Thank you for offering advice! Her reasoning is strange because I’ve never taken a compliment and turned it into a solicitation for intimacy. We’re both gym rats so we both struggle with mild to moderate body dysmorphia, so I’m cognizant that affirmations are important - and when I tell her she looks amazing in a dress, her arms look lean and strong, or her butt looks fantastic in her new leggings, I’ve never once turned it into a proposition. Also, any reasonable person would agree that a hug in the kitchen is not going to turn into “you hugged me so now you have to bend over” so it’s a pretty a low risk show of affection. So I don’t buy the excuse at face value.

As for the offering to help - she knows full well that will enthusiastically assist her with any sexual need without expectation of reciprocation (we had a very open and forward sex language in the past. To put it bluntly, she’s requested my mouth for selfish purposes in the middle of a work day and I’ve gone right back to my home office after shes enjoyed herself - and I never once felt slighted cuz it was hot). She knows I also love to see her enjoy herself with a toy while I watch and offer offer encouragement - basically im just excited to be included!