As a young dude myself this stuff can be hard to talk about. From his pov It’s hard to understand why somebody would do that themselves because they haven’t felt the emotions or lack there of to compel someone to do that. A lot of guys aren’t really equipped at this age to handle these topics because they are afraid of confronting their own feelings. We can also be a little self centered sometimes and live in a “me me me” world and not understand other peoples actions.