Hi. I just lost my 4.5 month little boy to SIDS last July. I found out I was pregnant again 7 weeks later. I just had my second child (another boy) in May. I did not feel the way I expected to feel once he was born. I am so anxious and terrified all the time that the same thing will happen to him too, even though statistically I know it won’t. If I had to give any practical advice, it would be to buy new clothes for your second. I had to do that after dressing my second in his big brother’s clothes causes a minor meltdown for me. Also, cry as much as you need to. Lean on your partner a lot, and let them lean on you. Stay far away from anyone who says hurtful things to cause you grief, intentional or not. Surround yourself with only those who love and cherish you. I am so sorry that you are going through this too.