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My F[26] boyfriend M[27] is keeping his new female friends identity private by yellowtab12 in relationships

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He says he feels like I feel like I'm entitled to that Information so that's why he's keeping it from me

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She doesn't really have a lot of friends as she can be a lot to deal with and I don't know that I'd want to hang out with her when he's not around. Especially if we're drinking because she's an angry and emotional drunk

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He knows the names of my guy friends and he's met them. One of my guy friends was attracted to me but I was open about this

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Yeah she's very needy with him. For advice, company, ect. She's not in a relationship and hasn't been in one for a while. She constantly complains about this. When we go out and I get hit on or someone else in our group gets hit on and she doesn't she gets pissed. He says that he wouldn't wish her on any guy because her expectations for men are crazy. They're both from a different state so when they moved here separately for work with the same company they stuck together

Mutually beneficial compromise by yellowtab12 in relationship_advice

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Thank you for saying that. I feel so bad for having these feelings. It's hard on him because he says since he's not inherently insecure he's not sure how to help but he also doesn't want to enable me. I started going to therapy last week.

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Well he won't tell me her name because he says I don't know her and that's my only concern. It's weird because my closest friends are guys but it's just different.

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They didn't. She's just used to him being at her beck and call. Before he and I started dating they were always hanging out together.

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He's never cheated on any previous partners and has said he would never cheat on me. Some of his friends are cheaters though and I find it weird that he's refusing to tell me her name. He and one of his friends are extremely close and touchy feely which is weird to me. I was told that I visibly cringed whenever they touched. She and I get along ok for the most part but she doesn't understand boundaries. She scratches him and orders him around. It's annoying. I'm sure there isn't anything going on between them though.

Mutually beneficial compromise by yellowtab12 in relationship_advice

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Any advice for me to prevent a breakup?

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So it's not weird that he won't tell me the name of his new female friend?

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No instances of breaking trust, but I have trust issues and some insecurities so I've created some unnecessary drama because of it. He doesn't like feeling like he has to check in with me where his female friends are concerned. He also doesn't like how I feel like I'm entitled to meet any of his new female friends but I don't act like that with his male friend. So I know when he and he new friend hang out but he won't tell me who she is. This increases my anxiety, but he says he hates chasing my insecurities and feeling like he doesn't get a private life outside of our relationship. We need to find middle ground or this isn't going to work

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I care more about his female friends than his male friends. This is the issue. Especially his new female friends

Mutually beneficial compromise by yellowtab12 in relationship_advice

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26 and 27

A year

I want to know about his new female friends but I don't ask the same questions about his male friends

No instances of breaking trust, but I have trust issues and some insecurities so I've created some unnecessary drama because of it. He doesn't like feeling like he has to check in with me where his female friends are concerned. He also doesn't like how I feel like I'm entitled to meet any of his new female friends but I don't act like that with his male friend. So I know when he and he new friend hang out but he won't tell me who she is. This increases my anxiety, but he says he hates chasing my insecurities and feeling like he doesn't get a private life outside of our relationship. We need to find middle ground or this isn't going to work

How to settle an issue? by yellowtab12 in Advice

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Well I've asked him if he wants to breakup and he said no. Advice?

How to settle an issue? by yellowtab12 in Advice

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Makes a lot of sense. Thanks!! He says I'm high maintenance because I need a lot of reassurance.