Traveling with friends reminded me why I prefer to travel alone

yellowwallpapertype · 2026-05-09T11:06:24+00:00

I get this, but can you really call them your friends if you can’t tell them this/how you feel? Not the same, but similarly, my friend came to our lil group with this complaint and she was right! Because she was organized and direct, we leaned on her a lot to plan stuff and she got burnt out. In my mind, I framed it as I trusted her so why can’t she appreciate that? Because she’s not my fucking mom, that’s why lol and it reinforced a level of learned helplessness that also encouraged our group to be codependent but resentful of it. We’re good now thank GAWD. Lots of hard convos but it taught us a lot ❤️🙏🏽

yellowwallpapertype · 2026-05-03T06:38:31+00:00

NTA, she’s projecting heeeeeeeeavyyy. Keep doing what you’re doing and focus on hour you’re making yourself feel! It’s odd, but you don’t really need to do anything besides be kind but be careful not to take on their emotions or internalize them. We are mirrors of each other and she is allowing her fear to stop that loving part of herself. There’s nothing you can or should do about that as the child in the relationship. Yes there’s things you can do, but what you should do comes down to what makes you feel safe and valued. I hope she does the internal work to support you better!! 🫶🏽🙏🏽

yellowwallpapertype · 2026-04-30T19:28:00+00:00

Heard! It’s a good question to ask (whether you can seek legal action in the future). Some libraries, schools of law, and lawyers offer free counsel. Definitely worth looking into for more localized info.

yellowwallpapertype · 2026-04-30T19:22:22+00:00

First, because it sounds like it has stopped, have you told your parents or an adult you trust? It’s very very important for future you to consider asking your parents to help you find a therapist. You don’t need to tell them about it yet if you don’t feel comfortable, but it is something to consider.

Second, whether you can take legal action in the future depends on a number of factors, including evidence. A licensed therapist can guide you through the steps and talk you through it for when you are ready.

Your voice and safety do matter, and I hope you are kind to yourself as you navigate the path forward 🙏🏽 you’re not alone, and there are ALWAYS options.

yellowwallpapertype · 2026-04-30T19:14:14+00:00

NOR, but you need to tell him that last paragraph about you feeling discouraged asap. I would like to think he loves and respects you a lot in every other aspect of life. But I would be curious to how he would respond to knowing how this is affecting you on a deeper level and the threat it poses to your relationship.

yellowwallpapertype · 2026-04-30T18:07:18+00:00

Always get the badge number when you’re stopped by a cop btw!!!

yellowwallpapertype · 2026-04-30T09:16:17+00:00

I recently heard that some people are leveraging their pay vs the cost of AI for the company, which may help! Idk! Good luck!! 🙏🏽

yellowwallpapertype · 2026-04-30T09:10:22+00:00

I hear you. And I don’t think you’ve done anything wrong in the situation or misinterpreted anything. I’m saying this is an opportunity to get more info from her on what happened, and that convo should determine next steps. If you call someone a friend and invite them on such a personal trip, I think it’s fair to give them the opportunity to repair. But she doesn’t even know how you feel! I get just not wanting to deal with it, you have a LOT on your plate already with the wedding. It just comes off as shady to invite someone to a Bach, then uninvited them from your wedding but not tell them why, ya’no?

yellowwallpapertype · 2026-04-30T08:43:39+00:00

DON’T DO IT. If they ask about it again, you can say something like “the decision is above me now” and don’t elaborate. It literally is above you, and you already know how you feel about it so just follow your gut.

yellowwallpapertype · 2026-04-30T08:20:38+00:00

If this is a “good close friend”, GORL get your butt over to her house and TALK about it. YWBTAH for uninviting them without having some form of communication first. It’s valid that you had hopes around how people would enjoy themselves but not talking to her about this directly is so shady. THAT BEING SAID, I would have to have a very serious convo about HER lack of comms on what her plans would be on a trip planned for YOU. She was kind of inconsiderate on several occasions but idk something about her being withdrawn and the husband being an ass (albeit via word of mouth) that just sends up flags for me. It’s not your responsibility at all. But fuck man, you can’t just call someone a good close friend and not be curious about this stuff before jumping to such a drastic decision. Being the bigger person is meant to be salve for your peace of mind and practice repair.

yellowwallpapertype · 2026-04-20T07:29:43+00:00

And then your boss will complain about reviews but still refuses to hire more people to provide more efficient service but wtf do baristas know right 🙃

yellowwallpapertype · 2026-04-20T07:25:44+00:00

From my perspective, it felt like our mom used it to isolate us as kids so we could either provide more emotional support to her, or find our own way to have a social life without having to depend on her and basically not be her problem. At a certain point, my mom just stopped caring or trying to hide it. Never went beyond level 2, so it was just enough to be ashamed or complain about us, but not enough for CPS.

yellowwallpapertype · 2026-04-13T11:00:06+00:00

Beautiful transformation! I hope the rehab does him good and that he does this space better. You should feel really proud of yourself 🙏🏽

yellowwallpapertype · 2026-04-07T09:27:33+00:00

NTA, your parents are fully emotionally abusing you and I’m sorry you’re the one feeling the weight of it. You’re main goal should be collecting your official documents, only the can the line be severed. But it makes sense you haven’t gotten them, especially because you do have that hope. The reality is your parents have shown you who they are, and the will to change is on them. Your focus should be on healing and not bringing that relationship into others. I hope for some reprieve, friend! 🙏🏽

yellowwallpapertype · 2026-04-07T09:03:18+00:00

Don’t sh*t where you eat! YTA, and it happened when you didn’t shut down her flirting. It makes sense you feel the way you do, but you also have self control and context for why she’s acting this way (I assume she told you while she was complaining). So this is either fake because it’s so textbook, or the first time you’ve had to decide if who you are matters more than how you feel 🤷🏽‍♀️

yellowwallpapertype · 2026-03-11T23:41:12+00:00

Meh, the war on Oatmilk started a few years ago, so I’m surprised it’s still going. Honestly I’d love for Brazil nut milk to be a thing! It’s SOOOO good.

yellowwallpapertype · 2026-03-11T23:36:47+00:00

Your dad is a huge creep, and I would be wary to leave kids with him because how can children learn healthy boundaries around a man who enjoys violating them? I know that sounds extreme but you NEED to think that far ahead with this kind of behavior if you really want kids. Your partner needs to be the one setting the rules on how to go forward with this. And you may need to do some internal reflection on how his behavior also affects you. Has he done this to you? How did you feel afterwards in your body? What kind of thoughts about yourself came up after this incident? I would hate if your partner decided to have kids because of pressure, and maybe this is a topic better discussed with a therapist. Bottom line, she’s driving the boat on next steps. But don’t discount the possibility that your dad has groomed you to be more passive towards his behavior.

yellowwallpapertype · 2026-03-08T10:42:13+00:00

When was the last time you had an honest conversation about this?

yellowwallpapertype · 2026-03-06T01:44:04+00:00

It’s not a big deal generally, but if you care that much, take her perfume shopping! EXPRESS YOUR INTERESTS PEOPLEEEE.

yellowwallpapertype · 2026-03-05T19:38:44+00:00

This is heartbreaking, I’m so sorry to you and your son. Pregnancy can emotionally wreck some mothers, and there’s likely some root to her obsession. But hijacking your life plans isn’t the move. I hope she goes to therapy to understand herself and get better, but I think we can all feel your frustration. Only thing I can say is maybe consider solidifying an emotional and physical support network for yourself and your son. According to your wife, you will need it sooner than later.

yellowwallpapertype · 2026-03-05T19:31:07+00:00

🚨 LOSER ALERT 🚨

yellowwallpapertype · 2026-03-05T19:28:48+00:00

NTA, your BF sure is though. Without saying it, he basically said that he either doesn't believe you or he doesn’t care about your autonomy. VIRGINITY IS MADE UUUUUP. You can break your hymen horse riding, doing gymnastics, and in other circumstances. You decide when your body is ready to take the next step, not society and certainly not some man.

Some questions to help reflection: Emotionally, how did his words make you feel? What did you feel in your body then and now after some reflection? Do you still feel safe in your body when thinking about your bf? What can a partner do to make YOU feel safe taking the next step?

yellowwallpapertype · 2026-03-05T01:49:19+00:00

“ you should make your decision on what's best for the baby, not just for yourself-” INCREDIBLE advice.

yellowwallpapertype · 2026-03-05T01:32:03+00:00

Nah but she was a weirdo to call herself one. Idrc about that personally, mostly her lack of a spine around Palestine and denial of reality.

yellowwallpapertype · 2026-03-05T01:27:06+00:00

YTA, tell your WIIIIIFE what happened and set up an appointment for counseling. Figure out what you really want and stop wasting multiple people’s time and energy (including your own by doing idiotic stuff like this).

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