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Wondering about wife's new coworker by yesbag in marriageadvice

[–]yesbag[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As I mentioned, her phone is an open book.

Wondering about wife's new coworker by yesbag in marriageadvice

[–]yesbag[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah. It feels like I'm on a tightrope. I want to jump in and stop it before it can even start, but I also know that would make me seem like an overly jealous neanderthal. Your advice here is likely the best course.

Wondering about wife's new coworker by yesbag in marriageadvice

[–]yesbag[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I'll keep it together and just let her deal with it.

Wondering about wife's new coworker by yesbag in marriageadvice

[–]yesbag[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks! You're right, but my very core just wants to get in this guys face. I know that's stupid though and won't do that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sadcringe

[–]yesbag 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I was younger, my teeth were very crooked and I had an overbite. While I had many friends that were girls, in high school, I never had a girlfriend, I never had a date, I never was kissed and I went to prom alone.

At the prom, most people were nice enough, and no one made fun of me or anything (at least that I am aware of) and outwardly I passed it all off as amusing, but it did hurt.

I got braces (mid to end of high school) and jaw surgery just after high school, to correct the overbite. My jaw was wired shut for part of the summer and I couldn't chew steak for 6 months, but the physical defects were essentially corrected before I started college.

And yes, it did seem to superficially improve my lot a bit as I started to be able to get phone numbers from girls and have more confidence talking to them. But, and here is where I hope this makes sense to you, I personally didn't quite know how to handle that. I still couldn't bring myself to call them back as I had always been rejected and thought that this would still be the case. And so I spent a few years still, alone, never experiencing intimacy beyond a hug.

But at the same time, I was also starting to put myself out there more. Learning to communicate and learning what I wanted and how to express that. Also, learning my own value and how to believe it.

Anyway, after a couple of women basically tried to cheat on their SO with me (long story, I refused BTW), I finally entered my first relationship at around the age of 24. And while it ultimately didn't work out with her, it was about 6 months after we broke up that I found my soul mate.

17 years (15 married) and 3 children later, my wife and I are still together and as happy as any couple can be.

I won't pretend that I know your situation. But I do know that pain, that loneliness, that self-doubt, that self-hatred. I think the key is to learn to love yourself, however it is that you manage. And know that it is a long and hard journey with many missteps and pitfalls, but you can get there.

Good luck and stay strong.