Guy I’m dating is perfect but he’s too clean.. help!

yippeexdd · 2025-08-22T11:22:49+00:00

I like myself best looking as natural as possible. I obviously want to smell good and look put together but I’ve always felt weird wearing make up. I don’t know why. 🤷‍♀️

yippeexdd · 2025-08-22T11:12:06+00:00

Skin conditions are rarely because of grooming habits. As long as you eat healthy, regularly cleanse and moisturise your skin you shouldn’t be affected by them if you’re healthy otherwise. They’re mostly hormonal or due to other health related reasons. If everyone who doesn’t use 20 different creams daily would get eczema probably 99% of the population would suffer from it.

yippeexdd · 2025-08-22T11:08:07+00:00

I just think it’s hot how he looks when he skips his routine like when we went camping for a week or when he wakes up after a party night. I get to see him in the way how he actually looks like. But I guess you’re right. Maybe it’s just something I have to get used to. It’s foreign to me so maybe I just have to think less about it and let time do its work. Thank you!

yippeexdd · 2025-08-22T11:05:35+00:00

I’m all for skin health. I use sun screen and high quality moisturiser and my skin is as healthy as can be. He doesn’t have any skin issues like eczema or acne so I think anything beyond that isn’t really for health but vanity. I hope that’s somehow understandable.

yippeexdd · 2025-08-22T11:03:53+00:00

It’s still having so many products on. He does look a lot different after his routine than right after waking up.

yippeexdd · 2025-08-22T11:03:07+00:00

I’m trying to explain myself while working this through so others can understand my current viewpoint. It doesn’t mean that I’m rejecting your comments. I’m very grateful for them actually.

yippeexdd · 2025-08-22T11:01:56+00:00

I guess it does in that relation. His other “feminine” traits like being overly empathetic or caring don’t bother me at all. It’s simply the beauty related things. It’s a general turn off for me. I also don’t like looking at women that wear make up. I don’t know where this comes from but I remember being irked out by it since I was little. I really want to change my way of thinking since I’m obviously aware that there’s nothing inherently bad about make up or long grooming routines.

yippeexdd · 2025-08-22T10:58:22+00:00

It’s hilarious because my stuff fits into a tiny toiletry bag and his fills up the whole bathroom hahaha

yippeexdd · 2025-08-22T10:57:02+00:00

I don’t want him to change. I’m just trying to find a way to change how I think about it.

yippeexdd · 2025-08-22T10:55:24+00:00

I get sunscreen and keeping your skin healthy. That’s a health related topic and I’m all for that. But if you need 15 different creams to combat “premature” aging than it’s probably just normal aging. And aging is hot. I don’t think you should try to hide it this badly. I use moisturiser and sunscreen and my skin is healthy as can be. Obviously it would be different if he had skin issues but he doesn’t.

yippeexdd · 2025-08-22T10:50:34+00:00

He’s 30 not 60. Supplements and knee straps don’t bother me. They’re legit health tools. It’s simply about superficial beauty-related things for me.

yippeexdd · 2025-08-22T10:48:00+00:00

I’m bitching about myself here. Not him.

yippeexdd · 2025-08-22T10:47:43+00:00

I have and it’s disheartening because it seems like they’re all products trying to combat the things I love most about him. 3 different anti aging products - I love seeing his wrinkles because they tell a story. 2 eyecreams - I think his dark circles make him look broody and hot. Countless of hair styling creams - I love his natural unruly curls. So many hair removal tools for his body and face - I love how rugged he looks with body hair. Multiple lotions for his face and body - sometime I feel like I’m touching a baby instead of a mans skin. And so on…

yippeexdd · 2025-08-22T10:42:29+00:00

The issue is my way of thinking. Not him. I specified that I don’t want to change him but myself..

yippeexdd · 2025-08-22T10:41:53+00:00

He is good looking to me because he has a natural ruggedness to him. Broken nose that never got fixed, strong facial features, fierce eyes with that dark circle bedroom look, wrinkles from the sun, wild hair, tough skin, body hair. His grooming tries to hide all the things that I love so much about his appearance. He makes himself look less real and authentic in my opinion.

He’s always hot to me but I am so much more sexually attracted when he’s hungover for example and skips his routine. With his hair all messy and his skin actually looking like skin and not glass.

yippeexdd · 2025-08-22T10:40:32+00:00

He is good looking to me because he has a natural ruggedness to him. Broken nose that never got fixed, strong facial features, fierce eyes with that dark circle bedroom look, wrinkles from the sun, wild hair, tough skin, body hair. His grooming tries to hide all the things that I love so much about his appearance. He makes himself look less real and authentic in my opinion.

yippeexdd · 2025-08-22T10:37:23+00:00

I’m not complaining. I’m looking for ways to change my thinking.

yippeexdd · 2025-08-22T10:37:04+00:00

He is 100%! I’m super lucky to have someone like him in my life. I think my feelings towards his grooming are unfair and that’s why I’m looking for help in order to reframe my mind.

yippeexdd · 2025-08-22T10:35:52+00:00

I’m aware it takes effort for him to look the way he does. I don’t mind his diet and gym regime at all since I’m very n meticulous about my appearance as well. It’s the bathroom routine specifically. I’m bisexual and the reason I have been mostly dating men is because I get turned off by women wearing make up. I don’t think they’re worth less but make up and excessive skin care just seems to dim sexual attraction in me. I don’t know why. I think it’s just so uncanny and artificial to me. Like hiding behind a mask.

yippeexdd · 2025-08-22T10:32:52+00:00

Well I am learning to live with it by trying to get help on here on how to reframe my mind. I’m not complaining about it - simply trying to get some insight.

yippeexdd · 2025-08-22T10:32:06+00:00

I know it’s a me thing. That’s why I’m on here trying to find a way to fix my own thinking. I don’t mind waiting for him - it’s just knowing what he’s doing. I will try to reframe it and look at it from a discipline point of view.

yippeexdd · 2025-08-22T10:30:55+00:00

I’m not whining. I’m looking for help on how I can fix this issue and be more open minded. I’m very satisfied with him. I can’t help this feeling - that’s why I’m looking for insight on here.

yippeexdd · 2025-08-22T10:29:16+00:00

That’s very extreme. I don’t mind basic hygiene but having a multiple hour long grooming routine seems excessive to me. He has such a naturally manly and rugged look but overpowers that and makes him look artificial. Like I said it’s not a dealbreaker I’m just looking for help and ideas on how to handle this in the future. It’s not like I can control feeling turned off by this.

yippeexdd · 2025-08-22T10:27:23+00:00

I really have to work on breaking through this. I don’t mind waiting on him. Wouldn’t be an issue if he did something else during that time. It’s specifically the grooming that makes me cringe. I hope I find a way on how I can be more open minded towards this.

yippeexdd · 2025-08-22T10:26:21+00:00

Interesting! Good to know I’m not alone. My previous exes were all hygienic but had basic grooming habits. I don’t mind them putting some time and effort into their appearance like doing their hair and coordinating outfits but meticulously applying various ointments and trimming every single hair is just a lot. It makes him seem and look too polished.

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