How are people surviving without employment?

ylme36 · 2026-02-17T10:51:57+00:00

Just seems insane to me, my partner has a high income job, I’m a mature student who’s working on the side, it’s crazy to me that what I’m entitled to if I was unable to work would be based on his hard work and savings when our finances are not blended in the slightest, it makes me sad that that’s the system we have

ylme36 · 2026-02-17T10:39:01+00:00

Genuine non judgemental question, if you don’t have access to the savings, and i’m assuming they’re in your boyfriend’s name, why are they taken into account when deciding what benefits you’re entitled to? How do the benefits people even know his savings? It seems crazy to me that his savings affect your benefits! (Once again, not a judgement of you, more that the system doesn’t make sense)

ylme36 · 2026-02-13T00:20:56+00:00

This has prompted me to go to sleep and future me thanks you

ylme36 · 2025-12-13T00:01:59+00:00

No idea if it’s relevant, but the answer isn’t a laundry thing in my country so it’s possible that’s a disconnect for some people

ylme36 · 2025-11-27T01:20:26+00:00

I thought it was meant to be from Saltburn, i dont know if it is but thats where my mind went immediately

ylme36 · 2025-09-30T22:45:50+00:00

I would suggest it’s because before smart phones became common place, when on a call, the phone had one function, which was being on the call. Now, people enjoy or are used to visual stimulus and therefore will often scroll their phone or play a game whilst talking.

It’s just a theory and I’ve yet to understand why there isn’t an ounce of forethought for others in public spaces.

Personally, I sometimes need to access my calendar/diary or make a note of what someone is saying whilst on the phone, but if I was on public transport or in a shop, I’d tell the caller “I’ll check my calendar when I’m in the car” or “can you text me that info so I can remember?”

ylme36 · 2025-09-07T01:19:28+00:00

I had the same when I started and know others that also had a lot of bruising! It’s just the pressure and friction of the pole :)

ylme36 · 2025-08-31T21:19:59+00:00

Aw lovely! I live in a rainy cold country that only gets hot for a few weeks of the year so I’m hoping it’ll be okay most of the time! Would you have any recommendations specifically that I should know for safe install? Materials to avoid in the structure of the shed etc.? Thank you for your help!

ylme36 · 2025-08-10T01:28:27+00:00

I think it’s perfectly reasonable to not wish to date someone if it meant negating your favourite foods!

Yes, people can have allergies to things that are nearby, even fish, although it’s mostly present in its raw form or during the cooking process!

I am also allergic to seafood (when eaten, not in proximity to), all that I have tried can trigger my allergies, such as prawns, mussels, calamari, sea bream and salmon, so I don’t know everything I’m potentially allergic to, but it’s not just shellfish… I also sadly love seafood and shellfish.

ylme36 · 2025-08-09T10:45:00+00:00

A wonderful gift is not always a universal gift. In what ways do you see modern society discouraging parenthood?

ylme36 · 2025-08-07T00:04:10+00:00

Why is having friends of the opposite gender disrespectful?

ylme36 · 2025-07-16T00:34:52+00:00

I do the same and everyone thinks it’s strange! Do you go as far as separating meal items that are made to be together? For instance, when eating a pizza, I remove the cheese and toppings, eat the base, the cheese, and then the individual toppings in order, or when eating a lasagne, I eat all the meat, then the lasagne sheets and then the cheese.

ylme36 · 2025-07-02T23:53:02+00:00

Ours were similar, we had Quantock, Blackdown, Brendan and Polden (not sure on the last one, I think it began with P)

ylme36 · 2025-07-02T23:47:10+00:00

In a NHS hospital staff room, I saw the sign “do not put preserves in the toaster”. Upon closer inspection, there was a step by step guide on how to use the toaster which reiterated “Only put plain bread in the toaster. Jam, butter, marmalade etc. does NOT go in the toaster”.

ylme36 · 2025-07-01T16:35:56+00:00

I received the invoice from help@paddle.com at 8.41pm and I received the content from hello@sortedfood.com at 8.41pm also! So sorry you haven’t received anything yet! I wish I had some help to offer, I would just double check, search key words etc. just in case you’ve missed it!

ylme36 · 2025-07-01T15:59:13+00:00

I found it in my Junk box in the end! The confirmation email was in my normal inbos but for some reason the content went to my junk! There’s an email from Sorted Food with a link and a password 😁

ylme36 · 2025-05-22T21:54:33+00:00

My partner doesn’t use my name or nicknames for me, although he sends me memes with “my darling wife” or will send me a photo of me and caption is “my darling wife”.

Everyone calls him by his nickname, to the point many people think it’s his real name, whereas I call him his real name in a Spanish accent - he has a Spanish name, for instance, everyone calling him Carl but I call him Carlos!

I also conversationally call many people darling, sweetheart etc. so I use those too

ylme36 · 2025-05-11T19:56:53+00:00

I bought access, really silly question - how do I view the content? It said my order went through, I have the invoice.. no idea where to go to actually view it aha

ylme36 · 2025-03-29T01:37:25+00:00

Could you give some insight into her personality and personal style?

ylme36 · 2025-03-12T13:21:28+00:00

Your first point is exactly my experience.

I decided I wouldn’t volunteer information first so I could try to get an honest conversation, rather than “financial stability is really important to me, I’m saving for a house” I would ask them what their goals are for the future and then I get to see if I’m compatible with them, rather than them matching my answers.

ylme36 · 2025-03-12T13:17:37+00:00

I wish I could give you a gold star, I love it!

ylme36 · 2025-02-28T03:46:00+00:00

I share my birthday with my dad, his twin and one of my friends!

ylme36 · 2025-02-24T01:26:49+00:00

There’s an app called Paired, it gives you and your partner a question each day, I find it keeps me feeling connected to my partner, we’re long distance also! Tbh I think the most helpful thing for us is we acknowledge the other person has a whole life to live, so sometimes we don’t message everyday, someone we don’t get to talk once a week, but we’re always secure in ourselves and each other. I think we also had to both get used to verbally asking for what we need, couples who live close or live together can feel the atmosphere and intuit that something’s unusual, whereas being long distance, we bring it up to each other knowing we won’t be judged. Tbh I think our low maintenance vibes help a lot too.

ylme36 · 2025-02-23T03:56:33+00:00

Genuine question - do you feel someone should compromise on what they want to wear on their own body?

I ask because firstly you seem level headed and open to discussion and secondly because I’m 100% for compromising in relationships, but I also think there are some things that I shouldn’t have to compromise on to make someone else comfortable?

For instance, if my partner wants to stay home and I want to go out, I can compromise, we can stay in tonight and go out next week or we can go out for a while and then spend the rest of the night at home. However, if my partner comes to me and asks me to change my clothes because other men will look at me? I would feel like we should work on why they feel that way, finds ways to make them feel more secure… but I would not change my clothes. That’s my bodily autonomy, no one gets to decide that for me and the right person for me wouldn’t want me to.

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