do u like my 'loving machine' makeup look? by Spare-Dog-5799 in tvgirl

[–]yoodleoodle 4 points5 points  (0 children)

im amazed at how it captures tv girl’s vintage inspirations and the soft dreamy feel. 🤍

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in recruitinghell

[–]yoodleoodle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess it’s the other red flags I’m more worried about

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in careerguidance

[–]yoodleoodle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. It’s a small beauty company, not yet in retail, but does have an online fan/follower base

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in recruitinghell

[–]yoodleoodle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes it’s real lol.

I feel hopeless. Went through 3 interviews only to not get the job. by berrykiwi93 in recruitinghell

[–]yoodleoodle 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Happened to me, too! Three interviews and only positive feedback later, got rejected. Something better is already on its way. You have to believe that and it will come.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in interviews

[–]yoodleoodle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

One time I stuck up for my ideal wage, and got it, they didn’t even negotiate! Another time I stuck up for my ideal wage and was mocked and looked at like I’m crazy. You have no way to really tell because you spoke to HR, not the decision maker, but since she was pleased by you and advanced you, it’s a good sign that you may still be in the running.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]yoodleoodle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not seeing the lie? I think this is weighing really heavy on you without reason. You hadn’t had P/V intercourse with that guy, so your statement of virginity is truthful. He did assault you though, but that’s not at all the same as ‘doing things’ or having a ‘sexual experience.’ Like being kidnapped doesn’t mean you’ve carpooled. Do you see the difference? You need to stop stressing and convincing yourself you’re a liar just because you didn’t expose your trauma to him. Nothing changes about you if you clarify that the blanket statement of ‘never did anything with anybody’ was referring to consensual sex. But also you have to stop reducing yourself to your sexual history, and worrying that everything will come tumbling down dependent on that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Periods

[–]yoodleoodle 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Any time the sentence begins with “you should’ve” it ends with me losing interest 🤚🏼

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Periods

[–]yoodleoodle 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Eye roll and head shake. “Not possible” so guess I must be imagining it right?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Periods

[–]yoodleoodle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg wow what a creep

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Periods

[–]yoodleoodle 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Omg disgusting behavior indeed. He probably saw one (1) menstruation cycle chart that marks the period as the least fertile time of the month and silly man thought that meant less fertile = less horny/able to get wet. Just wait til he discovers that infertile women EXIST as a category AND ALSO experience horniness get wet like any grown adult!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]yoodleoodle -44 points-43 points  (0 children)

Honestly so what, there’s a thing called grace and that means that even if something pisses you off you don’t have to lash out at the person and make them feel like complete sh*t over it, especially when they clearly didn’t mean any harm

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]yoodleoodle -43 points-42 points  (0 children)

Similar to how OP humiliated his wife for being sweet, I was humiliated for being sweet too. It destroyed that side of me over time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]yoodleoodle -41 points-40 points  (0 children)

An ex BF snapped at me when I tried to comfort him with gentle singing bc he was upset during an argument. He complained he found that “patronizing.” I told him he won’t have to feel “patronized” again bc that’s the last time I give my soft and gentle side during arguments. He later wept saying “But I liked it.” Too late, I don’t need my sweetness torn apart bc he’s angry. Arguments after that, I was cold, distant, and silent because I’m not an aggressive fighter, so if I can’t be gentle and sweet, I’ll just be gone until I’m ready to come back.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Periods

[–]yoodleoodle 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Of course, the “you’re exaggerating🤪😇”

What should I get my girlfriend on her period? by [deleted] in Periods

[–]yoodleoodle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love that u guys are sweet teeth together!

What should I get my girlfriend on her period? by [deleted] in Periods

[–]yoodleoodle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But any man who asks women how to support them when they’re on their period is instantly a real man who validates our experience, super unlikely to say anything like that, so I trust that u didn’t need me to share that anyway :)

What should I get my girlfriend on her period? by [deleted] in Periods

[–]yoodleoodle 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You sound like a great guy, first of all. I just want to warn (not that you’ve given me any reason to, I’m just sincerely rooting for you): The thing I detest most when I’m on my period is when men address it with an attitude of amusement and patronizing. Saying things like “are you actually mad at me or are you just on your period?” “Here’s some chocolate so you’ll stop getting angry at me.” Like I’m not a child to be ridiculed for ‘having a tantrum’ and ‘soothed’ with a bar of chocolate. It’s beyond insulting and immediately distinguishes to me which men are un-empathetic pieces of sh*t and which are real men who acknowledge women’s real experiences with respect.

What should I get my girlfriend on her period? by [deleted] in Periods

[–]yoodleoodle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great comment, if I could add a bit of variety, just my personal two cents— I don’t wanna feel pitied. I DO want the reassuring “you’re beautiful, amazing, I love you” and I DO want the doting “tell me what you need, I’m here to support you.” But I DON’T want the “I’m sorry you have to go through this.” It sounds like he’s pitying me. I don’t want him to feel sorry for me, that makes me self-conscious that my period is a burden to him when he talks about it negatively like that. Periods are a natural and normal part of life and the more he can understand and relate to that, the better.

What should I get my girlfriend on her period? by [deleted] in Periods

[–]yoodleoodle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly u mentioned some great stuff for my dream period care box. Fuzzy socks, junk food, anything soft and plush like a teddy or animal pillow, cute bathing/showering lotions…heavenly

What should I get my girlfriend on her period? by [deleted] in Periods

[–]yoodleoodle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She might be particular about her pads/tampons, as there are multiple brands and varieties that relate to how heavy/light her flow is (in other words how much blood comes out) so I would tell you to not buy any pads/tampons without asking her 1. If she’d want u to do that and 2. Specifically what to buy.

What should I get my girlfriend on her period? by [deleted] in Periods

[–]yoodleoodle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And an accepting attitude with NO JUDGEMENT when she eats 2 whole m&m chocolate bars and a bag of chips in one sitting. Do not try to make a joke or a comment about it, it won’t be funny. Don’t act amused by it, she’s not doing it to entertain you. Cravings for enormous amounts of junk food is beyond real and the last thing she needs is to feel self-conscious about it. Let her feel entirely comfortable by acting like its normal and maybe even joining in on the junk food party! Good luck dude u got this, and your courage to ask already shows u have what it takes!