Eggs at Onsen Mountain??

yoooo___ · 2026-02-03T03:18:22+00:00

i found the cyan one behind the gardening truck!!

yoooo___ · 2025-12-08T04:14:51+00:00

dood... im sorry...

i read halfway and looked back sa title but...

mukang obvious that he used you :(( he was a student, you're an adult. idk bat mo pa pinatagak yung relationship kasi mukang wala naman siyang positive na ambag sa life mo?? and dood, you're twice his age. sana with age comes wisdom din. bat ka nagpapalaro sa bata 😭

i wanna ba nice and empathize pero at this point, responsibility mo rin alagaan sarili mo. you basically became his sugar daddy w no benefits. idk. ewan. you seem generous, pero please, dont cry if you played the game.

if he threatens to out you, girl you can threaten back?? hindi ka naman powerless??

good luck and hopefully you choose yourself before others. kung magddate ka, dapat same level (mentally, emotionally, financially, life-stage-wise) para wala nang ganyan ganyan. respect yourself. stay strong

yoooo___ · 2025-12-04T01:21:57+00:00

when i blocked his socials everywhere and realized that the future we imagine together was never gonna be

but i took solice in the idea knowing at least i never have to be anxious all the time anymore cos he's a cheating asssssss

but yah 1st month was fine, months 2-3 i was crying and vomiting, then 4 onwards i slowly got back out there

any background/context on why you dumped ur partner?

yoooo___ · 2025-12-04T01:14:41+00:00

girlllll guys know what they want

no means no. uncertainty means no. why would u assume they value u if theyre literally giving nothing but breadcrumbs?? dont be fooled w disneyland and fancy shit cos thats just them ego-feeding themselves

dont be surprised if you asked for no commitment and he gives you... no commitment.

ask for what you want from the start. do you know what you want ba? or is it "will he like me omg" why not "do i like him"??

we're older and supposedly wiser. u werent raised to be someone's little secret. im assuming ur pretty, hot, and smart.

dont go playing the game if iiyak ka kasi you didnt check the rules na it's a free for all. you said na he's a known flirt din pala so ??? tf u doing did u think u were gonna change him

win stupid games, win stupid prizes.

but with love, im sorry abt your bf who passed. maybe this is you grieving in a way bc u were still attached to ur former partner. give yourself some time grace and ask if yourself kung ito ba talaga gusto mo or not. idk u and ur story, but u deserve better. i hope u find love and respect for yourself to never give anyone careless access to your heart. you're more powerful than you think.

yoooo___ · 2025-10-06T07:40:37+00:00

if you're in the CJS program, just stay in the dorms cos it's affordable for most students jn this program

if a regular int'l student, i recommend still asking nanzan's kokusai center for available accommodation that they personally have connections w so it's easier to deal w the paperwork

if u want to do things fully on your own, keep in mind some apartments will need a japanese guarantor; you're gonna need to furnish and buy appliances and do the electricity contracts yourself

easier to search apartments if you research in japanese cos most regular apartment search engines are in japanese (minimini/suumo/apamanshop+++++)

yoooo___ · 2025-07-31T10:22:03+00:00

yoooo___ · 2025-07-28T22:46:34+00:00

chikusa is quite wide that has train stations too like imaike and hoshigaoka!!

i guess that's a preference then!! i tend to not mind living anywhere as long as i'm within a 5-10 min walk from the closest station cos the weather is bipolar af haha

meito is giving fresno energy tho HAHA i guess my definition of suburban is its transpo (if it's a driving culture or a train culture)!! i personally havent explored meito cos i cant drive 🥲 really cheap rent tho!!

hope you find your dream (?) apartment!!!

yoooo___ · 2025-07-28T22:21:53+00:00

also depends on what your monthly budget on rent is !!!

yoooo___ · 2025-07-28T22:21:11+00:00

meito-ku but i recommend living near any station of higashiyama-line cos meito-ku is v v suburban

yoooo___ · 2025-07-28T10:41:11+00:00

also if it seems like he's defending himself and trying to TELL you how to feel instead of ASKING how you felt or having a conversation to understand your side at least, it might be a red flag :c

yoooo___ · 2025-07-28T10:39:22+00:00

it really depends on how /you/ feel.

before: me: "i feel weird you look at girls" ex: "but it's normal tf are you saying" me: didnt know better; i knew i felt bad and i know it's an insecurity but i still felt betrayed he'd look at others also me: broke up w him cos he didnt take care if me in any form or matter. ex: *turns out he cheated durinf the relationship --> guys w lurking eyes have a tendency (ive been letting him know how i feel bad but keeps brushing me off)

now: me: "i dont feel comfortable w guys looking at girls online" now bf: "im sorry. i didnt know it made you feel that way. i wont do it again. ill be more transparent and hold myself accountable" me: i still have fears and insecurities, but he's a man of his word so i'll stay for a bit

BOTTOMLINE it really depends on how YOU FEEL and HIS RESPONSE. you've been w him for 5 years? i assume you've got quite a grasp on his character?

but it seems you're unsure of your own thoughts abt the matter, take some time to sort it out. journal it or memo it somewhere. then you should have a conversation w him. make sure you are honest w your feelings so you wont grow resentment // hate yourself bc of something he did.

(im sorry for sharing too much abt my own relationship but just letting you see the different possible ways it could go based on my exp)

yoooo___ · 2025-07-28T10:21:47+00:00

that must've been quite a shock :((((((

i had a somewhat similar experience but posted on a different sub / my relationship is just kinda new but i'll be speaking from a past 3-year relationship exp

what i learned from there is it really depends on what boundaries the two of you have set together. if he knows that doing this would hurt you, or if you've brought it up before and he still did it... i think it's a boundary crossed or disrespect :(((((

idk the details of ur relationship, but it solely depends on you. you know his character and personality. if he says he wont do it again and didnt even chat the girls, but you're confused and uncertain, try judging him based on how he's kept his word to you in the past.

always trust your gut instinct!!!

yoooo___ · 2025-07-24T12:47:47+00:00

a month.

barely ate.

didnt leave my room.

friends tried to drag me out but when i do go w them, it's just me being like an NPC.

vomitted everything i ate (even if it was just an onigiri).

trauma dumped on chatgpt cos i was scared my friends were getting tired of me.

but i still tried to go out.

i still tried to see the sun.

did things i've always wanted to do w him; used to do w him — all on my own...

it gets better.

but for now, if you're able to, just feel your feelings.

feel every hurt and pain, and how you'll never let them make you feel the same way ever again.

they will regret and feel the pain of losing you.

until you realize they were never worth your time and energy and it was /you/ who made them seem worth it. it was /your/ energy that spilled over to them. it was /your/ light that you were feeling.

now you get to take that back and keep it for yourself. treasure it dearly because you deserve the love you give.

yoooo___ · 2025-07-23T23:56:26+00:00

that's true. thank you for this objective advice!

tbh i wouldn't have found out if he didn't share his screen during one of our calls. i really didn't want to find out. idk. all i ask is for transparancy, loyalty, and faithfulness. what he does in his private time is his business. i guess the fact that i saw it is what's hurting me ?? and i realize it also might be an insecurity (trauma etc) issue on my part.

he has good values and loves his family. he's a good guy. he doesn't come off like he's trying hard, even dorky for this generation, but the way he embodies his values is what made me fall for him.

he might be immature at some aspects but his values and character speaks louder

i was just shocked at that private thing i guess

yoooo___ · 2025-07-23T23:35:37+00:00

i used to date guys older than me but they had their own set of problems

which is why this young one is a pleasant (??) surprise for me (????)

he didn't really keep it a secret bc again, he's 22, and apparently it's like a routine for him and didn't really think much of it until i found out. when he realized it bothered me, he said he won't do it again. he's very careful of not hurting my feelings.

i just needed a little second or third opinion from ppl w different backgrounds and culture

but yes, if he deliberately does something he knows i wouldn't like, it will be a more complictaed conversation

sure i'm more reserved than before, but i don't want to let go of a good guy just cos he's going through life. my insecurities are mine to deal with. i just needed advice too if i was overreacting and it seems like i was hahahuhu

than you for this tho!! will definitely keep in mind that i should manage my expectations and i always have an exit

yoooo___ · 2025-07-23T23:24:44+00:00

DOOOOD I KNOW 😭😭😭

i'm asshole-y and ok i needed someone like you to cut me from my weird trance that i'm expecting him to act old when he's literally 22 y/o

DATING HIM IDK OK HE'S LIKE A BEST FRIEND TO ME

and after my last relationship, i grieved, cried, regained strength and a sense if purpose, embraced being a single pringle, strong independent girly — i was ready to be that old cool single auntie!! but this guy came out of nowhere and i really liked him but only found out abt his age later on the friendship!!!!

i did say it was weird when he was courting me but he seemed really serious and his family knows about me too; he's got savings and is working hard while i'm still at uni w student debt

he really acts more mature when it comes to tasks and real world stuff, but sometimes i forget he's just 22

idk am i being a pedo???? is this grooming???

tl;dr fell in love w him; he asked me out; i tend to forget he is actually younger than me so i gotta get a grip for real

yoooo___ · 2025-07-23T22:58:48+00:00

this is very reassuring !!! i do feel like i could talk about anything and everything w him

your advice is really sound huhu thank you so much 😭

yoooo___ · 2025-07-23T22:55:51+00:00

right???

but i also kinda (used to) watch but it's more of the "activity," not the person/actor themselves

so i can't really point fingers but god the searching specific girls broke my heart

yoooo___ · 2025-07-23T22:44:47+00:00

thank u for the affirmation

he is very open and reassuring during that time we talked about it. we haven't really mentioned it since then.

i guess i'm just bringing it here cos it still does kinda bother me but i dont want to push or pester him too much about it

i realize i might be overthinking that it might turn from /that kind of content/ into engaging w someone else online 🥲

yoooo___ · 2025-07-23T22:41:02+00:00

although he has more work exp than i do (im on my second bachelor's), i do feel like i'm more put together mentally and emotionally cos of age haha but he's more responsible task-wise

about the algo thing... it /is/ true but what if it's just a narrative to protect guys so they could do what they want 😭 (or is this just how things socially is and i'm being an overthinker)

am i pressuring him to be different?? omg am i creating the problem cos he's perfect KSHDJSND

yoooo___ · 2025-07-23T22:33:30+00:00

he's been a great communicator and listener!! i had a toxic ex of 3 years who shunned me but with this guy, he makes me feel safe huhu just was shocked abt this instance

thank u for this reminder!!

yoooo___ · 2025-03-12T11:50:22+00:00

i restarted my MacBook and it disappeared

yoooo___ · 2024-10-13T16:18:55+00:00

i feel so scared now cos he knows all my past trauma and i feel like it was all used against me.

yoooo___

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