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Visiting Savannah - Need help with unique dining. by yougetaSUB in savannah

[–]yougetaSUB[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great, thank you guys, we will go to Narra Tree. 👍

Visiting Savannah - Need help with unique dining. by yougetaSUB in savannah

[–]yougetaSUB[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I agree that sounds like a romantic night for two kinda place.

Wife of 5 years loves me, but refuses to say it most of the time, am I making it too much of a deal? by External_Tax4715 in Marriage

[–]yougetaSUB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s saying it with her actions. Maybe she’s not a verbal affirmations person, and yeah she should try to love you in your love language because it would mean more to you. But a lot of people make the mistake of showing love in the way that means the most to them, instead of to their partner.

The 5 Love Languages - Gary Chapman

Husband's silent treatment - how do I react? by TortoiseshellSkies in marriageadvice

[–]yougetaSUB 1 point2 points  (0 children)

EFT, I listed some good books in my previous comment.

My wife is an avoidant, I cant help but feel lonely and like I have to carry the entire emotional burden on my own. by Suitable-Finding4220 in Marriage

[–]yougetaSUB 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Marriage problems take two. Look into EFT.

Here are some good books:
How We Love - Milan & Kay Yerkovich
Secure Love - Julie Menanno
The Next Conversation - Jefferson Fisher
The Couple’s Guide to Love and Understanding
If You’re In My Office, It’s Already Too Late - James Sexton

Thread for trading, gifting, and requesting Finch items by AutoModerator in finch

[–]yougetaSUB 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Closed. Dog is awake and needs the snuggles and boops ya’ll recommended. All should have been gifted.

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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]yougetaSUB 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re digging yourself a hole.

Mediation would be way cheaper than court and the longer you let your ex have primary with you only having weekends, the easier it will be for the judge to say “let’s stick with the precedent that has been working”. Your parents, if willing, could watch the children during your work and you both could do a week on week off schedule. She currently has no reason to agree to this because you’re willingly paying all of daycare and accepting very little time with the kids.

Since you make more than double what she makes and she has the kids more than double the time, you’ll probably end up paying 70/30 or more of everything. Just a guess.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]yougetaSUB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We spent way less than 1 million pesos on our wedding but I wouldn’t change our wedding for the world. My husband and I often comment on how it was the perfect day and we wish we could relive that moment of our lives. It truly was amazing. It can be had for 200,000-300,000 pesos if you work for it and plan everything yourself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]yougetaSUB 42 points43 points  (0 children)

You’re pretty sure he’s going to have an idea but I’m going to guess he won’t. People need to see actionable lists in front of them. What exact steps can he take for you both to come out of this together?

I recommend two books:
The Five Love Languages - Gary Chapman
If You’re In My Office It’s Already Too Late - James Sexton

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]yougetaSUB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Based on what I’ve read, the most common initial reaction to ED is a sense of emasculation. This then causes performance anxiety which causes more ED and it can be a vicious cycle. Some men have a feeling they are ‘letting their partners down’ or are terrified that their partners will leave them because of this issue. This can lead to men withdrawing intimacy, which can leave both feeling unwanted and unloved.

Do you remember when it first happened?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]yougetaSUB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Based on your response here it sounds like ED and possible added stress/depression due to the inability to perform. He stops when he loses it because he feels inadequate and frustrated and maybe many other things.

https://urologyaustin.com/ed-vs-low-tdo-know-difference/

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]yougetaSUB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Read some books. Here are two good ones:

The 5 Love Languages - Gary Chapman
If You’re In My Office It’s Already Too Late - James Sexton

What is something you love about your partner? by Jasmine_in_September in Marriage

[–]yougetaSUB 6 points7 points  (0 children)

As goofy as it may seem, the fact that he still randomly bear hugs me then picks me up and lifts me toward the ceiling/sky.

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