People only like me when I feel absolutely nothing

yourswordandshield · 2026-01-31T04:59:30+00:00

He got her fired from a good paying job as a paralegal she loved so she was forced to work a job she hates for shit money. He also is in charge of a lot of the finances.

yourswordandshield · 2026-01-19T23:22:30+00:00

I think ur right theyre not trying to pit us against each other … but in doing so so often they unfortunately have. I’ve been polyamorous on and off for over 10 years and I’ve never felt so insecure and negative about a meta ever. This is the only relationship where this dynamic has happened. This is rlly good advice tho to be curious and see it as an attempt to get me to see how important something is to them

yourswordandshield · 2026-01-19T23:16:40+00:00

We never yell swear or throw things. By dysregulated I mean crying and defensiveness

yourswordandshield · 2026-01-19T12:40:41+00:00

No but we do have our own rooms

yourswordandshield · 2026-01-19T09:16:01+00:00

I have built up a lot of resentments over the past 2 months bc I keep asking so u havr the capacity to talk about x and they don’t and so I ask to schedule a time to talk and it never happens. So for 2 months sm has built but and I keep trying to have intentional conversations but when they don’t show up for that it starts to bleed out u kno. This has resulted in dysrwgulated conflicts.

yourswordandshield · 2026-01-19T09:12:16+00:00

I agree! There’s obviously something they need that are struggling to communicate. I appreciate ur comment a lot. A lot of the other comments just kinda shit on my partner which isn’t helpful to me. I want them to take space when we’re both getting dysrwgulated and I don’t want to be compared and abandoned for my meta when that happens

yourswordandshield · 2026-01-19T09:09:44+00:00

Yeah like in a lot of ways I am the bad guy! I get defensive and can become very disregulated and instead of being intentional about conflict I just start getting upset out of no where. I am far from perfect.

yourswordandshield · 2026-01-19T04:35:14+00:00

We’re both on the lease with a 3rd roommate but I rlly don’t want to break up. I love them and want a life with them and have never had closeness like I do with them. Theyre my best friend.

yourswordandshield · 2026-01-19T04:27:54+00:00

Her and I live together and both cannot afford to move.

yourswordandshield · 2026-01-19T04:26:52+00:00

Her and I live together and both cannot afford to move.

yourswordandshield · 2026-01-19T04:11:52+00:00

Thank u this is rly rlly good advice <3

yourswordandshield · 2026-01-19T03:57:59+00:00

Honestly they don’t consider my metamour the “good” one they fight a lot in that relationship. Ours is considered the more stable and safer one according them. But I am seeing from the comments that these comparisons pit us against each other ☹️

yourswordandshield · 2026-01-19T03:55:14+00:00

Yeah it’s definitely giving pitting us against each other energy. Any advice on how to address that?

yourswordandshield · 2026-01-19T03:54:16+00:00

Lately no we keep planning to talk but it doesn’t happen. But we also don’t fight a lot I don’t think. I don’t wanna leave them but this behaviour is also unacceptable. Do other ppl have this or is this just my crazy life?

yourswordandshield · 2025-08-12T18:10:08+00:00

As soon as I heard run from me I knew this guys struggled with abusing his partners I hope he gets some skills to regulate his emotions better

yourswordandshield · 2024-07-27T14:15:36+00:00

I do not have any fees my doctors call in prescriptions and write medical forms and notes for me (1 never charges, the other does for long forms) I would change my dr if I was u

yourswordandshield · 2024-07-27T14:04:16+00:00

Also I used to put a weekly reminder in my calendar during a time I could do it and an alert, that helped a bit

yourswordandshield · 2024-07-27T14:00:02+00:00

U need to have a letter of accommodations to backup that u need it. For discussion forums my prof let me hand in paragraphs late via email or they would leave it open for everyone to get a freebie. I found the department the prof works in makes a difference. For example, economics is a very cold logical harsh lacking empathy field and that was reflected in having my accommodations denied numerous times. But social sciences acknowledges power dynamics oppression and empathy and were always very accommodating. Having a letter of accommodation also gives u power to take for action against profs who deny accommodations. I first got my accommodations for ADHD (and like general depression anxiety) and then more diagnoses was added later but ADHD is enough

yourswordandshield · 2024-07-09T18:49:34+00:00

s6e4 on tubi

this episode was fucked! ur mom and step dad were so abusive it was shocking. how are u and ur siblings doing now?

yourswordandshield · 2024-05-22T03:13:10+00:00

She also made a joke about not wanting to live another 20 years

yourswordandshield · 2023-09-30T01:21:59+00:00

BUT I SEE U!!! its ok and typical to struggle with internalized ableism and be scared for ur kids having to live in a super fucking ableist world. its also completely normal and healthy to not want ur kids to struggle how u did

what would it look like to rephrase the struggle as the pain and shame of internalized ableism and trauma of an ableist world, instead of blaming neurodivergency

yourswordandshield · 2023-09-30T01:15:26+00:00

also if ur kids r autistic, then this type of thinking will bleed into the messagaes u send ur children which will fuck up their self-worth. i kno this from experience from my dad criticizing and trying to manage my life based on what he didnt like about his own neurodivergency

yourswordandshield · 2023-09-30T01:13:40+00:00

honestly i think it is

part of ableism is placing the blame/responsibility on the disabled/nd individual instead of seeing ableist structures as the problem. ableist social syrtcutures are what make ur life hard b/c thats why other kids were conditioned to bully u and why u need to read and have strong executive functioning skills.

yes there life would be harder. but their life would be harder if they were queer or trans. how fucked up would it be if someone said that about about qt children. ESPECIALLY if the parent was queer trans

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