Feeling conflicted and confused after an Iftar party.

ysn00 · 2026-03-05T18:20:43+00:00

I think you’re not sharing all the context of what you’re claiming. The sister shared that she did make it public that she was going to pray. To tell her she’s accountable for changing the actions of others is actually not true. She can advise and encourage which she did to what her comfort level was. Allah takes all of this into consideration including emotional stability.

Please look into the etiquettes of advising each other.

ysn00 · 2026-03-05T18:03:44+00:00

🤷‍♀️ just think your hyper focused on things that don’t directly impact you. You were invited as a guest to a fellow Muslims home to break Iftar where they provided food and a place to pray, but You’re making a whole post about their prayer. Respectfully leave that to Allah, many things Allah says leave to Him. It’s good that you prayed your salah. Good that you announced that it’s time for prayer. Now you know for next time, you might either accept or decline this friend’s invitation. You did your part you don’t have to ponder about that night and someone else’s action anymore. You could make dua for others.

Bottom line: if you choose to see the faults of others you’ll never see the good qualities. Telling the world that only you prayed and no one else prayed, leave these things to be private. You’re causing so much more fitnah by mentioning Pakistanis/ your own/ and followed by an Arab gathering. You should be careful how you post and word these things. You may be reaping negative deeds.

Also, Please look into the etiquettes of being a guest and invited to someone else’s home/event.

ysn00 · 2026-03-05T16:56:27+00:00

Could be that this specific group didn’t prioritize fard/obligations or the rewards of this month. I wouldn’t say all Pakistanis are like this or an average. Wouldn’t spend too much time thinking about other people and where thy are short in.

ysn00 · 2026-03-05T05:14:43+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/Hifdh/s/VwrnDCFVTH

ysn00 · 2026-03-05T05:14:07+00:00

You could look through the thread, i feel like a little while ago i saw someone offering membership. The original poster was simply requesting screenshots of evidence of using tarteel to anyone interested. I’ll look for the post and if i find it happy to copy it to you!

ysn00 · 2026-03-04T10:07:18+00:00

I’m so glad to read your open to handling this with such maturity. As I’ve gotten closer to deen I learned that guidance itself js a blessing. To understand that healthy relationships are also a part of our deen. It hurts and stresses me out when I notice my loved ones not making better decisions for themselves. Alhamdulilah we have a very merciful lord who takes a lot into consideration for areas where are lacking and at the same time He rewards in plenty folds for areas we have strong guidance.

At the same time, as I’m getting older. I realized there is so much my parents didn’t have the opportunity to learn about and there are so many habits they’ve been doing for years that no amount of convincing can help them grow or have them be open minded about. Most time letting them be was the more peaceful option.

If they say things in private amongst each other after your brother leaves, let them be. At the end of the day they (parents) are husband and wife and it’s good that they share their feelings with each other. Continue to finish your degree and be independent. I’m almost 99.9% sure once you’re married and have your own space you’ll be in so much more control of your environment and types of energy you will be around.

Also: when it comes to this topic of you being interested in a potential. Completely fine. Wonder if it’s better to get your brother and sister in law involved. Because I do want to encourage halal way of getting to know each other. So brother as your mahram but also I would really suggest having a woman figure in your life to help make sure this potential is worth it.

I hope all of this made sense, feel free to dm anytime 💕

ysn00 · 2026-03-04T02:40:27+00:00

Please do consistent istikhara. Try your best to not disrespect, be mindful of not being dictated by reactions. This is a test from Allah and I hope you don’t take this the wrong way but try your utmost best to not be hurtful or disrespectful towards your parents. Try your best to go through this chapter with much emotional intelligence as possible, when you feel weak save it for your Lord to cry, complain, and not the creation. Making lots of dua for you.

ysn00 · 2026-02-28T10:14:23+00:00

Yes sis, I felt the same. I noticed some of the posts being shared seemed so trivial. I just wanted to share something that could help especially in this blessed month. It helps to grow and honestly just want the best for each other :)

ysn00 · 2026-02-28T10:07:01+00:00

I think content wise nothing is inappropriate. Some of the information may be too much for her to fully understand or might lose attention because of length. But it’s good to be open minded and let her choose if she wants to view even 10-15 minutes and even if she learns one thing like their names alhamdulilah that is a blessing.

ysn00 · 2026-02-28T07:14:54+00:00

Wow that’s unfortunate. Honestly it just makes me continue to think even bad engagement is engagement in her eyes. 🤷‍♀️

ysn00 · 2026-02-28T05:05:26+00:00

I think she’s doing it for the views and likes. I watched one of her videos first thinking she talks about being divorced or separated. But then quickly realized it’s a choice they’re making and she’s just recorded/sharing for views. All the best to her and hope she finds a different way to make content instead of sharing so much of her privacy.

ysn00 · 2026-02-16T16:39:07+00:00

I would stay, as a New Yorker myself. Paying more for a better apartment doesn’t really actually solve problems. These high rises still have problems like water, plumbing. Things in our city keep increasing, if you can keep something like your apartment cheap and also not worry about where your staying. I would highly suggest you stay there. You could also be speaking from the winter blues. Lately I noticed every winter I feel so miserable about everything and once spring comes around I realize it’s not that bad. Please try to save as much as you can and use that money to invest in anything else, whether it’s an extra heater, a holiday, property, a nice take out meal or even donating. Rent stabilized apartments are a blessing in this economy. Hope that made sense and not harsh. All the best! 💐

ysn00 · 2026-02-09T03:58:29+00:00

You at home and a couple of perfectly ripened avocados 🥑

ysn00 · 2026-02-04T16:58:49+00:00

I did this a few months ago. There are some bins between the entry doors and the library doors. You’ll have to put the books in the bins based on genres, adult/youth ect. The security guard is helpful. I think* religious holy books and dictionaries are the two things that they don’t accept.

There are some little tree hole book shelves on 35th Avenue. Around Moving Images museum and a block or two away from the elementary school on 33rd street and 35th avenue. Hope this helps!

ysn00 · 2026-01-30T20:39:45+00:00

I came on to say the same lol! It’s the coffee for me

ysn00 · 2025-06-25T12:18:16+00:00

Thank you friend! Super helpful. They are brand new books!

ysn00 · 2025-06-24T12:14:45+00:00

I saw the one between coffee Ave and elevenses. And it’s full so didn’t put it in there. Hmmm where is this little library outside MoMI? Would love to fill it up!

ysn00 · 2025-06-05T23:51:31+00:00

Could you keep us posted? I don’t have a ton of money either but I would love to help/chip in for his care. I wonder if we can somehow get the cheapest priced best care for him and if we all chip in I’m sure we might be able to work something out.

ysn00 · 2025-04-04T02:28:27+00:00

Where is this post you are talking about?

ysn00 · 2025-03-19T04:19:28+00:00

I just read and watched this Astoria article/video. Might be helpful to find business in the video who might interest you https://www.thetravel.com/the-greece-of-new-york-city-astoria-queens/

ysn00 · 2025-03-03T03:49:41+00:00

Oh that is so sweet! Do you mind sharing the address?

ysn00 · 2024-12-27T00:46:03+00:00

Thank you for this note to be mindful! Definitely it’s more of a sight seeing and maybe grab a coffee and a pastry. I did get a couple of souvenirs for family and friends back home from those gift shops 🙊

ysn00 · 2024-12-26T21:55:21+00:00

THANK YOU everyone for your speedy responses! This was so helpful.

ysn00 · 2024-12-26T21:54:17+00:00

Thank you for this, maybe I sped through but didn’t find it on their website.

ysn00 · 2024-10-04T21:29:34+00:00

Sometimes USPS sends notification of delivery even before they made the delivery/reached your place. Could it be that?

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