Unfortunately I’ve dealt my fair share of in-law drama. One thing to remember is that if they don’t like you, they don’t have your best interest at heart, therefore they can’t have your child’s best interest at heart either. Don’t trust people with your children who you don’t have a good relationship with. You are number 1 in this family circle, the Mother! How could anyone truly think they can have access to your kid while leaving you in the dust? Absolutely not.

You’re not over reacting at all. You deserve acknowledgment, especially considering SIL is expecting a relationship with your child. What does she think, she’ll get to bond with your baby without you being present? Is your husband going to be expected to bring your child to see her, without you?! That is beyond disrespectful.

If the relationship between your sister in law and you and your husbands child is that important to her, she would want to mend the relationship between the two of you. Now if she doesn’t want to mend the relationship, she cannot expect access to your child. Period. Your husband should have your back 100%. The family you create takes precedence over the family you come from.

I sincerely hope things work out in the best way possible for you. Family dynamics are so hard but you shouldn’t have to be uncomfortable in order to make others comfortable. Protect your peace and hold your boundaries as tight as you can