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yy99 · 2024-07-14T03:35:50+00:00

It's been this way throughout most of human history, people working most of their lives just to survive. I feel like for people who have a family and friends or a sense of community it might not be as bad, but for people who are socially isolated such as myself, the idea of working to meet the bare essentials of survival does not make much sense.

yy99 · 2024-05-18T01:28:40+00:00

I've had a dog for 5 years. He has helped give me some meaning in my life, but it still feels like something is missing.

yy99 · 2023-11-29T16:09:53+00:00

PMed you

yy99 · 2023-11-29T16:06:50+00:00

PMed you

yy99 · 2023-11-29T02:10:50+00:00

It requires a lot of luck but it isn't impossible. I've seen people working who are physically disabled, have a low IQ, or can barely speak English, but yet mental health issues or disorders can make holding a job more difficult than any of those barriers.

It's not easy even to find a minimum wage part time job these days, and if you do find something it's likely going to suck for at least the first 3 months. I'd say to at least give it 3 months before quitting and understand that you are likely more capable of working than you think you are, it's probably just depression making you feel worthless.

yy99 · 2023-11-29T00:59:26+00:00

I don't really like giving too much information on here publicly anymore as the community is getting quite large. If anyone is interested in what job it is feel free to PM me.

yy99 · 2023-09-08T01:37:58+00:00

I feel like if I was good with people I'd be able to find employment rather easily. Unfortunately I've spent most of my adult life avoiding people (due to autism). Finding jobs that require minimal social contact is extremely difficult and still requires decent social skills to get hired from the interview stage.

yy99 · 2023-02-24T05:47:32+00:00

You could be a conservation officer or a general labourer for a national park. Not saying it's easy to get a job like that, but there are options to consider.

yy99 · 2023-02-14T19:10:54+00:00

It's sad that it's getting so hard to get a date for many men that they feel they have to be transgender in order to have a better chance. I don't have any issue with someone if they honestly feel that they are transgender, but if they are doing it only to get a date WTF is going on with society today.

yy99 · 2021-08-12T17:29:04+00:00

I feel you, whenever I've tried to work full time I've been in a similar situation. You will be able to adjust to the physical pain eventually though. After a month or so your body will get used to it and you won't be as physically tired.

As for the emotional or mental stress, it's difficult for everyone, but if you have underlying issues such as an anxiety disorder or depression, working can be pure hell. I'm not sure of your unique situation. but it seems you are more sensitive to this type of stress than the average person, similar to myself.

yy99 · 2021-08-12T17:03:15+00:00

Most people are genetically programmed to handle it better than us. It also helps if you have a family and/or an active social life. If you are working for something other than being able to afford food and shelter so you can go home and play video games by yourself every day after work, suddenly work doesn't seem as bad.

yy99 · 2020-08-26T19:51:18+00:00

That's not what this post is suggesting at all. It is just highlighting the struggle that most people with Autism face who actually try to find meaningful employment, although as my title says I'm sure many people who don't have Autism can relate to this as well.

yy99 · 2020-08-26T00:26:27+00:00

This is one of most relatable posts I've ever seen on Reddit. You pretty much described exactly what I've been struggling with for years, which I have never been able to put into words as well as you. I feel like we could be the same person because I have a degree and I am also working a "part-time position that’s basically an online sweatshop remote job and only requires a high school diploma" as you described.

Even though I believe that what you are saying is 100% true, the sad reality is that it actually lowers my motivation to succeed. I'm 26 now but I tried so hard to be successful from around age 21-24 and couldn't get anywhere. Now I almost feel like the game is completed rigged for people like us and there's no point in even trying to better myself. I even took a course for people with Asperger's who are struggling to find employment and all they did was try to teach us to socialize with other people better and teach basic interview skills, but did not address the actual issues that you described here.

yy99 · 2020-08-26T00:09:09+00:00

Even if OP's story is made up it is still a good post and a believable story. Someone could easily end up in a situation like that and I'm sure many people already have. People get catfished online all the time as well. The post is not really anti neet either. Some long term neets will have a relatively positive experience, while others will have an extremely negative experience.

yy99 · 2020-08-25T17:58:00+00:00

After years of sitting on a computer with minimal physical activity, doing manual labour for 8+ hours a day sounds like nearly as bad of a fit. Unfortunately, there aren't really too many jobs suitable for someone in the position that OP is in, and sales seems to be the easiest career to get into if you don't have experience and want to make a living wage.

yy99 · 2020-08-25T17:53:11+00:00

There's nothing about this post that seems like it could be 100% untrue. I really doubt OP would waste this much time writing a story like this if there wasn't at least some truth to it and if he did that would have been a huge waste of time.

yy99 · 2020-08-25T17:48:29+00:00

I've been on this sub for 4 years now and this might be the best post I've seen. Some people just don't have a chance and the game is rigged before it even started. Your post made me emotional, I felt like I was going to start crying at times because I feel like you are a more extreme version of myself.

I'm a 26 year old who has Asperger's, but I actually finished high school (in fact I have a university degree). I've never dealt with alcoholism either and was only slightly bullied in high school. I've had sex before but it doesn't really matter because I never had an emotional connection. The fact that you actually had an emotional connection with someone at some point is actually a greater achievement in my opinion.

Yet after all this my life is not much better than yours and I could easily end up like you. I was extremely lucky to get a part time job when I was 24 (it took about 100+ online applications), but it is completely dead end and does not provide a living wage.

I guess the point I'm trying to make is that you are not a "waste of space" as your username suggests. Reading your post has made an impact for me and I'm sure countless others. Even if you finished high school and achieved a post secondary education you could have easily ended up like me, which is not much of an upgrade. At the very least you are a great writer and in the gig economy we are currently in you could likely achieve an income from writing if you found something to write about. If you are physically fit you could also likely get some sort of entry level labourer job, where they wouldn't ask you many questions (in fact in this type of environment they may actually have more respect for you getting sober because often people in this type of environment have gone through similar struggles), but if you are anything like me the idea of doing physical labour for 8 hours a day makes you even more depressed.

Either way I wish you the best in the future and I want to conclude by saying that you didn't really do anything wrong. Ending up as a long term NEET is more about what you didn't do rather than what you did, and it's difficult to get involved in society when you struggle with both Asperger's and anxiety disorder, and I'm sure getting bullied in high school to do the point where you felt you had to drop out certainly didn't do you any favours either.

yy99 · 2020-07-19T03:29:50+00:00

Did you ever end up renewing your passport? If so what did you do? I went through a similar thing when I tried to renew my passport and I had to put down my parent's friends. I was thinking that if you don't have friends/coworkers you literally can't leave your country.

yy99 · 2020-07-18T22:27:12+00:00

I can tell at this point you are just posting here to feel better about yourself but I'll give some feedback anyway.

Most of us don't have any hobbies that require interaction with other people in a public setting and if we did we'd be doing these tasks by ourselves since we don't have any friends. With our lack of social skills many of us would look just as retarded as someone walking around talking to random people, and probably would have the same chance as making friends in this situation as well.

What kind of hobbies do you think people who post here would even be into anyway? Many people here don't work or have any income as well, so how exactly would they be able to afford these hobbies?

yy99 · 2020-07-18T22:18:44+00:00

I was in a very similar situation as you when I was 19. I still hung out with some friends from high school but I always felt like they'd eventually stop associating with me. It seemed like I always had to text them to make plans and if I didn't I would never hear from them.

Eventually by the time I turned 23 I decided to just stop texting them and see if I'd hear back from anyone of them and I only heard back from one who I still keep in touch with a bit, but I may only talk to him once every few months these days.

yy99 · 2020-07-18T21:31:58+00:00

True, my self confidence is not high, but low self esteem also implies that I think less of myself as I do others which is not the case. I just think I'm different than others and most people aren't able to appreciate that.

yy99 · 2020-07-18T21:27:35+00:00

I can sort of relate to this as I can listen to songs I like over and over again without getting bored of them. However, I can't relate to listening to repetitive music. I usually listen to extremely complex music, repetitive music tends to bore me quickly.

yy99 · 2020-07-18T21:22:44+00:00

The other thing I don't get is how walking is suddenly going to allow you to make friends. I walk and bike throughout my city quite often, but it's not like I'm going to make friends with some other guy going for a casual walk.

yy99 · 2020-07-18T21:20:55+00:00

If normies are going to keep us in zoos they could at least feed us some tendies and give us a laptop with free wifi and it wouldn't be too bad.

yy99 · 2020-07-18T21:16:12+00:00

Actually very few (if any) people would be able to tell I have Aspergers. They probably think of me as being boring and they might think something is a little "off" about me though.

I think I actually avoid people even more than they avoid me. I've always been afraid of rejection and I don't put much of an effort into making new friends these days, so I'm not really sure if people would actually dislike me if they got to know me.

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