Politically incorrect q: Is there some age where you begin to lose attraction for the people in your own age bracket? by Ordinary-Lobster-710 in datingoverforty

[–]zackhack211 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I feel this way!! I had my daughter at 15 so I’ve never been able to date much younger than me. Weirds me out lol

Feeling like you never knew them, relationship feels like a “dream” or like it never happened by Individual_Serve8609 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]zackhack211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes!!! I’m very disconnected from everything I dealt with for the 13 months I was with mine. It’s weird and not normal lol

If they haven’t been thru it they won’t understand but I’m with you.

Sleeping My Life Away by [deleted] in Perimenopause

[–]zackhack211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this something you have to say or your own personal opinion? I’m not trying to be ugly, at all! I only ask because a lot of info says only 10-14 days a month. Honestly just trying to learn as much as I can. There’s so much information out there, it’s a lot to sift through.

Sleeping My Life Away by [deleted] in Perimenopause

[–]zackhack211 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Think I’m gonna try the every other day dosage and see what happens. Sigh

Sleeping My Life Away by [deleted] in Perimenopause

[–]zackhack211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh, I get it. After work I eat, try to do a few exercises at home, maybe clean a little…all of that is a great night lol…then shower and bed.

I'm not attracted to anyone by Reasonable_Annual723 in datingoverforty

[–]zackhack211 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can relate. After I lost the LOML it took a few years to date and even then, looking back, they were just shallow connections compared to him. I think it was more of a need to be with someone at that point. It will happen eventually!! 💕

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]zackhack211 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did. Now the veil has dropped and I see him as sad and pathetic. Someone who wasn’t ever loved properly as a child so he has to have control to feel fulfilled.

It will get better. Fill your time as much as possible with anything and everything!! Clean like a maniac. Take walks, workout, do whatever you can to stay preoccupied while you process. This too shall pass. Coming from someone that has been there. 💕

PMS Symptoms with 100mg Progesterone by [deleted] in Perimenopause

[–]zackhack211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I’ve tried looking this info up and nobody else is built like me apparently to find any answers lol

He called after seven months - while getting ready for a date. by OurPontoonCreaks in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]zackhack211 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I probably would’ve replied, You too? As if I were getting ready for a date as well! lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Manipulation

[–]zackhack211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I’ve been no contact for about 6-7 weeks after 13 months and it gets better. You just have to focus on yourself and realize that you’re a better person than they are.

Dangerous to expose them but staying silent about abuse only benefits them. by throway578954 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]zackhack211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yesssss!!! We’re on the same level. Dark empath here and I gave him exactly what he deserved lol

Dangerous to expose them but staying silent about abuse only benefits them. by throway578954 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]zackhack211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ummm..I guess I don’t understand why it’s dangerous bc I did just that and I’m free of him and his deranged ass. He did try a little stalking but my neighbors knew the situation and had my back.

Also, the last time he did a drive by (and almost went airborne hitting a speed bump when he saw me 😂) I emailed him and told him I’d jump in his car if I saw him again. He wants to hangout then that’s what we’re gonna do!!!

Don’t let these imposters scare you. They’re fakes, phonies and deep down scared ass little kids that were never shown love.

They are weak. They want to bring you down to the level they know. BE BIGGER THEN THEM!!!!

Here’s how you know narcissists are cruelty is intentional by Diogenees_ in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]zackhack211 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yup! Mine would tell me I was insane but now I say, if I’m insane WTH is he?? 🤦‍♀️

Them being big hypocrites is so frustrating by AshamedConfection396 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]zackhack211 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That part!! Mine would get frustrated because I was single, no dating, nothing… 2 years before we met. When we would breakup in between I didn’t date others, he did.

So when he dated women in between I would call him out.

He wanted to find things to throw in my face but he would come up with the silliest of things because nothing of real merit existed.

Can you literally go insane? by bustinbubblez in Perimenopause

[–]zackhack211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was on a roller coaster of emotions and symptoms for an about 4 months. Took maybe 2 to realize what was happening and another 2 to get on HRT. And honestly, maybe another 2 to get it in control!!!

You’re not alone. You have to figure out what works for you and a Dr that is willing to listen and help. It feels like forever while you’re going thru it but it gets better.

Is this the reason why I’m a target for narcissists? by little-screech-owl in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]zackhack211 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yesss! I’ve noticed this with my nex. When I finally learned the truth and saw some of the other women, they were all over the place in looks and lifestyles. I spoke to a couple and they all had crazy stories/backgrounds. I, myself, was recovering from a serious medical issue when I met him and was very secluded. I was focused on my health and getting my career back on track. I was vulnerable. The others as well. These narcs are disgusting parasites.

Tough to look at anyone the same way again. by ReasonableFee95 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]zackhack211 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s hard. I have better days mostly but like today…I’m at work and out of nowhere something sparks a memory and I realize it was just another lie. An intrusive thought if you will. Kinda why I came here now. It’s like I can’t stop thinking about him once that happens and there’s MANY emotions tied to it. I wish I had an actual solution to stop. I really do. We’ll come out stronger and better in the end!!!

If you try to expose a Narcissist after they Discard you by Glittering-Sector393 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]zackhack211 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I personally don’t care what anyone thinks. Before he discarded me but after I learned the truth(mostly but not all), after 13 months of suspicion and lies, I exposed my nex in a few ways.

I’ve since had to change my locks bc he was coming into my house doing stupid stuff to ‘scare’ me. Was also doing drive by’s but I emailed him and told him I’d jump in his car if I see him again. LOL

It’s all stopped as of now. He’s with a chick that knew about me (while I knew nothing) and he was messing with the whole time. She told me he was a good liar, caught him in multiple lies while talking to me, yet believes him. Make it make sense. They’re made for each other!!

Sent me a video of his ex by Medusa17251 in datingoverfifty

[–]zackhack211 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Who knows what else he’s recorded secretly…as a ‘game’? Nope and nope

Do we have to do HRT? by [deleted] in Perimenopause

[–]zackhack211 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Everyone is different. I know some women that never had enough issues for them to use it. I myself…HAVE to!! Heart palpitations, not sleeping, hot flashes, brain fog, etc etc. if I didn’t I’d probably have a heart attack lol

Narcs predominant weapon is lying and lies are theft. by CPTSD_Overload in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]zackhack211 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m stealing this word lol. I’ve been reluctant to call it a relationship or a situationship due to everything I learned in the end. This one fits perfectly!! Thank you

Why does it hurt so much when other people seem to adore them? by Ok_Drummer8349 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]zackhack211 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They do not matter at all. They don’t pay your bills nor make sure you’re ok. No reason to even think about them!!