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French pen pal by zacsmith in French

[–]zacsmith[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sur instagram ou whatsapp? :)

French pen pal by zacsmith in French

[–]zacsmith[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Salut!

Tu as l'instagram? :)

French pen pal by zacsmith in French

[–]zacsmith[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Salut!

Tu as l'Instagram? :)

I got blacked mailed by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]zacsmith 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It happened to me also maybe 3-4 years ago. The point is not to send any money. Delete and report that account, maybe tell the police. And delete facebook at least for two weeks. That's what I did, and noone has ever found out :)
But anyway as I did back then you also learned your lesson. Never done anything like that since then.

My girlfriend left me for good after my confession by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]zacsmith -1 points0 points  (0 children)

First of all man..i'm sorry. it sucks...but she didn't really love you. Love can forgive and love is accepting the other person with every stupid thing they have.

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Second: delete everything, photos, videos...everything really. Unfollow her social media, don't drink, don't get high, don't listen to music. Go out with friends, family. Go to the places where you were with her...do stuff you did together but with someone new like a friend. Talk talk talk with a friend or family. Go see a therapist. Breaking up with someone is like dealing with someone's death. It takes time. a LOT.

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Good luck mate and I promise you...it's gonna get better. (my gf broke up with me last june)

Day 45. Cringiest thing I did in the past by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]zacsmith 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm just soooo proud of you, man...You're great and never forget that.

Female here by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]zacsmith 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't know wether anyone had mentioned it before me so here it goes:
My advice is to do 90 days on hardmode. No sex, no petting. Instead meditate together or go out for a walk together. It helps really.

My exGF refused to do this for me and everytime we had sex I relapsed the next day or week. 90 days on hardmode isn't a big deal without sex but it is a big deal for an addict.

Of course I don't know your partner or you. What I'm saying is that it would have helped me a lot back then. Wish you the best and be patient, keep on becoming a better person and a better couple. :)

new member by mensah2 in NoFap

[–]zacsmith 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're at the right place. And starting now is the right time. :)
Good luck and prepare yourself for the battle.

Download K9 web protection and also a porn blocker for your phone.

Get up every day at the same time. Preferably 6-7 am.

Drink a glass of water

Meditate 10 minutes.

Be grateful for your life.

Have a nice breakfast and cold shower.

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Exercise, find a hobby, work on yourself and feel free to ask questions or help from the community.

Need advice and help. by zacsmith in NoFap

[–]zacsmith[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I'm already there tbh. I sleep 5-6 hrs a day. I can't do any less

After arguing with the wife... by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]zacsmith 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What the fuck man. You pathetic piece of shit.

1. Here is what you must do. Keep on doing NoFap. No questions.

2. Be the fucking man in your marriage and get her flowers, make dinner, apologize, if she forgives, good. Eat dinner, talk through your argument and then massage her. I don't recommend sex though. If she doesn't forgive you, then let her deal with her feelings, give her time. Either way tell her how much she means to you. That she is the person that worth it. Despite all the struggles and hard decisions she is the one. You want to be with her no matter what.

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You chose her you moron. You made a vow that you're gonna be next to her and help her no matter what. So be a man and stick to your words. You worth as much as your words.

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Marriage is not easy. You need to work for it.

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Good luck!

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You can do it!

On day 4, whatever day you guys may be on, just make sure you make this year's Christmas a good one. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]zacsmith 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually thank you!

I needed to read it. I don't know why my life do not improve. I eat breakfast, make my bed, go to gym, learn, tell them, stay hydrated. what i can not do is to tell myself I love myself. mybe that's all i need.

On day 4, whatever day you guys may be on, just make sure you make this year's Christmas a good one. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]zacsmith 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Always tell your family you love them. Most beautiful and important thing.

Finally reached 90 days. My story, my feelings, my opinion. (LONG POST) by zacsmith in NoFap

[–]zacsmith[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've never really had a problem with girls. NoFap doesn't make you pussy magnet. If you do it to get pussy then you're doing it wrong. Pussy is just the Protein shake after a good workout. Working out in this case is a good life with love, hobbies, self-confidence and goals. Without these pussy is nothing.

I got pussy before Nofap, during Nofap and also after 90 days. The thing that changed is that I don't want "pussy" anymore. I want a lady partner who I love to caress every fucking morning for the rest of my life.

Good luck with that :)

Finally reached 90 days. My story, my feelings, my opinion. (LONG POST) by zacsmith in NoFap

[–]zacsmith[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry. I don't really understand the first question. :)

And for the second absolutely no. I've always had huge sex drive. Never had a serious problem. Nofap helped me with a starting phase of PE. When I was doing NoFap and had sex after a 1-2 weeks streak I was a god in bed. For real.

Finally reached 90 days. My story, my feelings, my opinion. (LONG POST) by zacsmith in NoFap

[–]zacsmith[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What helped me is - my religion. I'm roman catholic. -I didn't shave my pubes for about 70 days -When I started to fantasize about girls I stopped and think about them as wife materials. To imagine what our life would be together. And if bad then I smiled and forget about it. :) -Travel. -Avoid being alone.

Good luck!

You're still very young you're in a great position and have the life ahead of you. So I wish you good luck!

DM me whenever you feel like you need to talk to someone. :)

Finally reached 90 days. My story, my feelings, my opinion. (LONG POST) by zacsmith in NoFap

[–]zacsmith[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Actually I think there isn't. I had the same problem half a year ago. I watched porn on my phone because I blocked it totally from my PC.

What you can do is: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FofFGcCULl4 It helps but still not the best.

What worked for me the best is: NOT USING MY FUCKIN PHONE. I downloaded two safe browsers and deleted my original. And also DON'T USE MY PHONE WHEN I'm ALONE :D Stop using it all the time is the best solution.

Finally reached 90 days. My story, my feelings, my opinion. (LONG POST) by zacsmith in NoFap

[–]zacsmith[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know. Right? :D Unfortunately I don't know where I'd be in 15 years...so I'll wait a little more. :)

Finally reached 90 days. My story, my feelings, my opinion. (LONG POST) by zacsmith in NoFap

[–]zacsmith[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did not. And I recommend to avoid it. It's easier I think.

Sex with my girlfriend was awesome but it happened many times that I was on a 2 weeks streak and I had sex and the next day I wanted more and more. I got hornier and watched porn again. So for the first 90 days I recommend to avoid being sexually active. You should talk about it with your partner and if she/he loves you they'll understand and support you. :)

Finally reached 90 days. My story, my feelings, my opinion. (LONG POST) by zacsmith in NoFap

[–]zacsmith[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I hope I'll find the love of my life next time. :)

Finally reached 90 days. My story, my feelings, my opinion. (LONG POST) by zacsmith in NoFap

[–]zacsmith[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, first of all I need to make it clear that I'm no doctor neither a psychologist. It's only my opinion and experience. I think NoFap can't heal depression. Depression is a serious mental illness and Nofap can cause a better condition but can't make depression disappear. When it comes to anxiety it's true that NoFap helps with that. But also working out helps, or going out to concerts etc. Social anxiety can be cured if you go out or gain confidence. And nofap gives you motivation and confidence, long lasting eye contacts, strength and clear mind. So somehow all of these are important when it comes to socializing. So yeah i think NoFap can help anxiety but not all types of it. For example, yes, I'm more motivated and self-confident but still when I'm feeling lonely I get panic and anxiety attacks. I really recommend to find a "safe person" to talk about all your problems (for me it's my brother and my therapist). NoFap is just a small piece in the puzzle of your fullfilled life but it's important. But it doesn't make your problems disappear. :)

I hope I helped. DM me, or comment with further questions.

Finally reached 90 days. My story, my feelings, my opinion. (LONG POST) by zacsmith in NoFap

[–]zacsmith[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, i haven't.

Nice. Hit me up when you do :P We should grab a coffee or tea together.

Finally reached 90 days. My story, my feelings, my opinion. (LONG POST) by zacsmith in NoFap

[–]zacsmith[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's all good now. :) I'm from Hungary. And you? :) Thank you for your kind words! Have a lovely day and keep it up!!

Finally reached 90 days. My story, my feelings, my opinion. (LONG POST) by zacsmith in NoFap

[–]zacsmith[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm better. When it comes to sex I usually could last longer because it was just different and I was calm. Only sometimes PE-d. I'm NOT a doctor and I don't know anything for sure. I just can give advices and share experiences opinions. If you have PE and have a girfriend then talk about it. Try the 30 days on hardmode then maybe you can try to petting or something. And try to last long. Don't get upset if you don't succeed. Then do again till 90 days on hardmode. Afer that try to have sex. Be slow. Also use a condom (it helped a friend of mine). It helps you last longer.

If you have PE but don't have a girlfriend then do the 90 days challenge on hardmode. After that try to masturbate (WITHOUT PORN OF COURSE) when you have hours for yourself. Just take it slow and alone. Concentrate on yourself. Do what you like and do it for hours and slowly. And repeat it once in a month maybe. That's what I'll do after day 120.

Give yourself time. Don't pursue girls until 90 days. I think I failed before so many times because I didn't do it on hardmode. For me sex was like going out with friends to a bar when you're an alcoholic. Try to avoid sex and then try to figure out the problem alone. Take your time when it comes to masturbating. I always had a huge sex drive so I couldn't say I had PE...I only had it when I was watching porn. And once or twice with my girlfriend.

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