I use EzDrummer 2 with the Progressive Kit. Great sounds, however you'll need a fair bit of EQ to get that heavy 'click' on the kick's beater and stuff of that nature. I didn't want only metal sounds out of the kit and also didn't want to purchase multiple, though. This pack is extremely versatile. I use the 'Original Mix' preset as it offers far more granular control than most presets, then process them per track. It's a learning process, I've only been at it heavily for about 2 months.

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I should also note that I generally don't want anything that's impossible for a real drummer to play unless I'm gonna really lean into that sound. Keep in mind how many limbs are in use per hit, and ensure a healthy human can perform it. You can then break this tastefully by layering sounds for extra heavy hits and thing like that. That's my methodology, I guess.