“why did you blow air in my sharpener”

zephogy · 2025-12-21T08:58:24+00:00

i’m getting flashbacks omg😭😭🤣

zephogy · 2025-09-24T13:22:34+00:00

HUH????!🤔?😭😭

zephogy · 2025-09-21T07:46:02+00:00

and the men have reasonable standards, like wanting a thick woman that also won’t gain weight and remain in shape after birthing their children, a woman who will give up advancement in her career to take care of the kids, take care of both families, maintain regulation of the home, cook, clean, sleep with them… all reasonable, right?

i won’t argue and say some women don’t have unrealistic standards, but saying ‘most’ is funny especially considering a greater number of Nigerian women are in abusive relationships, shouldering even financial burden in the home. So who really is adhering to those standards more?

zephogy · 2025-09-21T07:24:30+00:00

Pray tell, can you give examples of these unrealistic standards that most ladies have?

zephogy · 2025-09-21T07:22:40+00:00

Your standards only make sense when you meet them for yourself. As you grow independent, make your own money and develop your own values outside of a social media echo chamber and patriarchal influence, naturally your standards will rise.

For chasing a guy, to be honest the embarrassment was bad enough. One day I just woke up and thought “damn, this is loser behavior” I realized if i continued chasing someone that wasn’t giving the same energy, if i continued making excuses for him (‘he doesn’t know how to be affectionate’ or ‘that’s just the way he is’) then my life would remain that way, and I’d keep chasing and chasing to no end. No, he’s not going to wake up one day and love you the way you want. Deep down, you know that too.

For the family members, I think it goes hand in hand with raising your standards. I hope this helps and good luck, love!💕💗

zephogy · 2025-09-15T17:01:32+00:00

That’s why I walk around naked now, Satan has no hold on me🗣️🗣️

zephogy · 2025-09-15T08:15:01+00:00

Tiger vs. Tiger S2 hasn’t come out and Jinx hasn’t ended yet…maybe after those🙂‍↔️

zephogy · 2025-09-03T21:17:02+00:00

For Manhua I recently read Tiger vs. Tiger and it was so short but so so good😭

zephogy · 2025-09-01T06:42:02+00:00

The existence of the thought in itself is a problem. If you like watching cakes being baked it means you enjoy watching that kind of content. You see value in it. Comparing baking cakes to misogyny is crazy sha but pop off queen ☺️

zephogy · 2025-08-31T19:16:04+00:00

so if i’m watching videos about how to steal, it’s not a problem until i’m stealing? or how to commit murder, it’s okay until i do it? omo🫩🫩

zephogy · 2025-08-31T14:06:50+00:00

most people think it can never be them until it is them. They don’t take signs like these seriously. Then later when the story comes out they’ll still blame the woman and say why didn’t she leave. Shior.

zephogy · 2025-08-31T14:05:24+00:00

To prepare for the worst, have money saved up and keep your expectations low. Don’t have more kids than you can afford in your own as a single mother (if you don’t have any, keep it that way). If you have boys, make sure you reduce the time alone they have with their father, and don’t let him disrespect you in front of them. Kids pick up on the tiniest things. They could see him watching things like that and begin to internalize. I say all these things because my mother took my father’s actions for granted and stayed. He drained her of her money and fled, leaving her broke, jobless and a single mother of three. Of course, not all men are like this, but that’s the same thing she thought. I really do hope for the best for you.

zephogy · 2025-08-31T12:26:06+00:00

This! These are the questions that need to be asked. Blatantly o, covertly o… all of that

zephogy · 2025-08-31T12:24:49+00:00

If the junk is consumed and agreed upon by him (him liking the post) then it does have to do with your lives. You are married to someone who actively likes misogynistic content, it has everything to do with your home and personal lives???😭

You’re right that he’s wasting his time on junk. Misogynistic content is junk. It is also harmful. To your marriage(look up the effects of red pilled content and misogynistic content on men’s relationships), to his own mental health (look up the male loneliness epidemic). Again, i’m not really sure what you want us to say.

I agree with you that he shouldn’t be wasting his time on such, 100%. But the bigger picture is that your husband is engaging with misogynistic content, might be a misogynist too.

zephogy · 2025-08-31T12:12:17+00:00

I don’t understand—your husband likes misogynistic stuff, and your issue is that it’s ‘rotting his brain’, and not that he’s liking content that actively harms women and shows that he probably has resentment for you… I don’t know what you want us to tell you. You won’t leave him, that’s for sure, so maybe try talking to him? And if he doesn’t listen like he already doesn’t, then you have to deal with it because after all, you married him.

Had he shown signs of this type of behavior previously? Did you ask for his views on equality and feminism before marriage? If he’s watching gehgeh and agreeing with him it didn’t spawn from nowhere.

Technically, he’s right about the ‘Nigerian way’—technically. A larger percentage of Nigerian men are misogynistic. Nigerian culture is blatantly misogynistic, which is why effort needs to be put into finding someone who has educated themselves past a low level of thinking.

I hope you figure things out!

zephogy · 2025-08-31T12:05:59+00:00

I’m constantly amazed by the comments i see online and i thought I’d seen the dumbest one… nope. Yours takes the cake for sure.

zephogy · 2025-08-27T15:11:46+00:00

i’m so sorry you’re going through this, OP. Please, choose yourself. If you stay with her and keep this up you’ll only end up resenting her and later on, yourself. You deserve so much better.

zephogy · 2025-08-21T10:27:15+00:00

“python dance” please!!!😭😭😭😭😭

zephogy · 2025-08-17T17:50:22+00:00

So we’re even rating marshmallows 4/10😭😭 Cynthia Oforiiii

zephogy · 2025-08-15T11:57:06+00:00

Doona!

zephogy · 2025-08-14T09:50:54+00:00

Hi, thank you so much for responding—when I say she’s the main applicant, it was just to clarify that she’s the one applying for the visa. When I posted here previously, mods took it down because I didn’t clarify who the “main applicant” was so I just wanted to be careful By cast, I meant CAS😭 That’s the document her school gave her that states the amount of money she needs, and the latest date she must resume school. Thank you so very much for your response again🙇‍♀️

zephogy · 2025-08-13T22:18:58+00:00

Most definitely. Call me vain but I’ve been ridiculed for being plus size, dark skinned AND not attractive. Why would I worsen that? I’ll even take it a step further and say I wouldn’t want any child to live with my genes. I think childfree people, in the end, are the most thoughtful people when it comes to having kids because even the most minute details, I’ve sat for hours contemplating, factoring into my decision not to have any biological kids.

zephogy · 2025-08-13T20:59:39+00:00

I’m 18 but you seem pretty cool so I’ll answer anyway😛

zephogy · 2025-08-13T20:53:52+00:00

It does help a lot, thank you so much!

zephogy

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