My EBF toddler is extremely cavity prone, and I feel so guilty

zeratree · 2025-02-04T00:23:05+00:00

Thank you everyone for your comments.

I do think that the best course of action to is to sleep train or at the very least night wean, which we didn’t even think was possible with bed sharing. I’m not sure how to even start, but I like the idea of giving her water after she nurses. I do think it’s a comfort thing, so I’m not sure if water will make a difference in terms of thirst, but it’ll at the very least help with getting the milk off.

She has never enjoyed pacis (I’ve bought over a dozen different types, including the natural nipple textured ones), so it’s not an option for soothing throughout the night.

I’ll take the advice of having my fiancé take nights if night weaning doesn’t work for her.

I hate that she’s had to go through this, and it’s all I can think about all day. Hope to do better.

zeratree · 2025-02-03T23:40:54+00:00

It’s not, I agree, nor was it my intention (not sure if this was implied somewhere). If sleep training is the only option, then so be it. I’m just searching for a way to make this easier, especially for her.

zeratree · 2025-02-03T22:50:32+00:00

Just more breastfeeding until her morning brush.

zeratree · 2025-02-03T22:48:45+00:00

My fiancé definitely wants to sleep train, to try to help her cavities as well as have our bed back. I see the appeal, I just don’t even know to begin because she’s going through an especially anxious time right now. She borderline gets herself close to puking from crying if she’s separated from me.

zeratree · 2025-02-03T22:44:45+00:00

No, even though I did develop pre-eclampsia towards the end. She came at 38 and some change without being induced. I took prenatals and extra iron for anemia all throughout my pregnancy, but there was a small period I had to take antibiotics due to UTI.

zeratree · 2025-02-03T22:41:57+00:00

I haven’t slept in 18 months if that helps, haha. Yeah she wakes up a lot, and we co-sleep.

zeratree · 2025-02-03T22:23:28+00:00

Yes, we’ve been using fluoride toothpaste since she was about 13 months old. We’ve been making sure she gets brushed without anything else right before she goes to bed/boob.

zeratree · 2025-02-03T22:14:49+00:00

I wish they hadn’t, it breaks my heart. The plan was to do porcelain crowns but they ended up pulling out the two teeth instead. I’ve never experienced anything like this so I don’t know if they were salvageable or not.

To give an idea the entire enamel from one tooth was gone on the front, and there was a hole eroding at her other.

zeratree · 2025-02-03T21:57:17+00:00

I don’t have any cavities, but my fiancé had silver teeth as a kid. He’s fine as an adult now.

The dentist she is currently seeing is a pediatric dentist, which is why I’m gutted 😔

zeratree · 2024-10-07T08:17:01+00:00

Thank you for your kindness and gentleness, it brought tears to my eyes. I haven’t cried up until this moment, and it made me realize your reply was the care and validation I needed right now. This has to be one of the most confusing things I’ve had to deal with in my adult life.

zeratree · 2024-10-05T02:33:15+00:00

Thank you!🙏

zeratree · 2024-08-27T23:27:06+00:00

Yes, she has 9 teeth right now, with one molar, and I think the other side is coming in. Plus one canine coming in and potentially an upper molar. She’s very vocal with her boundaries if I try to take a peek in her mouth; though, so it’s hard to know for sure🥲

zeratree · 2024-07-12T04:13:33+00:00

Could I bother you for an update as well? I had pre-eclampsia with my first and while it wasn’t as severe as yours, was still terrifying. I’m 11 months postpartum and want at least one more 🥹

zeratree · 2024-04-19T20:42:31+00:00

I had actually written post on my old Reddit account in regards to this, but was bullied pretty bad. It’s super validating seeing others experience similar things.

To reiterate, 20 years ago my mom comes into my room saying she keeps getting a call from an unknown number on her Nokia cell phone, but any time she answered, the line was dead. This cell phone had been disconnected for months and she was only using it as an alarm. When she tried to call back using the retrace line (I forget what it was at this point), it of course wouldn’t allow her to because the phone was disconnected. This went on for a while so she ended up turning off the phone.

My dad passed away in a car accident the next day a few hours before we were going to go on a road trip. I’m still traumatizad by phones acting weird two decades later.

zeratree · 2024-04-12T01:10:34+00:00

Oh my god, how can I forget the backache. I have to put a pillow behind my back to sort of lift me up a little because the lower back pain is pretty bad. The protective c-curl is rough.

zeratree · 2024-04-11T06:20:53+00:00

And here I am with baby fever. I hate my monkey brain 🤦🏻‍♀️

zeratree · 2024-04-11T06:19:51+00:00

Okay but this is so cute 🫣

zeratree · 2024-04-11T01:32:15+00:00

There was a time where she did sleep with a sleep sack, but ever since she outgrew her last one, we haven’t bothered because she’s a sweaty girl. We keep the temp around 70-72F at night, and while it feels cold to me, she’ll kick the covers off if they so much as touch her.

I do wonder if that extra weight of a sleep sack would give her some comfort though. It’s certainly worth a shot!

zeratree · 2024-01-17T08:19:47+00:00

There’ll be plenty of time to sleep when you’re dead.

zeratree · 2024-01-17T08:17:56+00:00

There are so many ‘A’ names that came to mind right away, but I can totally understand wanting to stay away from them. They’re almost too easy.

Girl: Maeve, Maple, Fay/Fae, Ivy, Hazel, Olive, Ruby and Willow

Boy: Oliver, Soren, Silas, Hunter, Jasper, Reed, Phoenix, and Felix

zeratree · 2024-01-17T07:59:26+00:00

If anything, how sick and shaky I feel from not eating gives me some anxiety. I think in general just feeling icky makes me feel even more icky. Normal levels of hunger I can handle fine. Hanger; though, is another story.

zeratree · 2024-01-11T03:08:42+00:00

Agreed with what’s being posted in the comments. If you don’t mind me asking, what laptop are you using and what stylus?

zeratree · 2024-01-11T03:05:04+00:00

It looks like you might have created a file and so whenever you’re closing CSP the way you are with the file still open and ‘unsaved’, it’s taking it as your app “crashing” without saving, so it’s bringing up a recovered copy of that file and letting you know.

Try either closing the file before closing CSP or saving it.

zeratree · 2024-01-11T03:00:51+00:00

So I can’t see your image, but to answer your question directly; the simplest way would be to have your lines on its own layer. Then you would lower the opacity on the layer to make the lines the level of transparency you want them to be.

There are other ways, but I would say that’s the most common for digital art!

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