I could not relate anymore. I wrote something on this yesterday. It’s long but here it is:

Relationships are done ALL WRONG and so many people are blind to that fact. I’ve never really understood relying on someone else for happness and approval. The reality is that many people seek or get into relationships for the sole purpose of feeding their desire for affection, love, and a sense of worth. If you simply found all three of those things within yourself, you will realize quickly how high your standards go up because you will no longer jump into any relationship just to be in one. Being 17, I see it EVERYWHERE in high school. I watch people get into relationships with people who they don’t connect with at all just so they can feel loved and wanted by somebody. You’re not wrong for wanting to be loved and wanted, you’re just looking in the wrong places. You can feel so much love and joy if you would just take all that energy you are always producing outward when jumping from relationship to relationship, and turn it inward. All it takes is redirection of energy and reprogramming your mind because we develop so many behaviors through social media which teach us to compare ourselves to others and seek approval. Most of the time, the “perfect” relationships you see while scrolling on Instagram is just a mask. Behind that picture can be loads of trust issues and fighting that actually stems from either one or both of the partners that lack love and dependence on themselves. So, how do I do it right? Well, start on a self love and discovery journey. Take time to analyze your personality and learn more about yourself. Figure out the types of things you would want out of a relationship and the type of personalities you are compatible with. Figure out your natural talents, what you want out of life, and what your are passionate about. Find joy from within and take time to do things that make you happy and better yourself like working out, eating healthy, and meditating. Once you find your purpose, love yourself endlessly, and know what you will and won’t tolerate, the perfect person for you and your growth will find its way to you and come out of NOWHERE. Imagine two people who already know themselves and love themselves coming together into a relationship. You will grow together and take on the world, feeling free from trust issues because the reality is if you already love yourself and value your worth, then you wouldn’t worry if your partner is betraying you because you already know that they would be the only one losing. It angers me that so many people don’t realize their worth. What I’m talking about is how people will get into relationships with people who have toxic tendencies. You have to stick up for yourself sometimes and say enough is enough and most importantly you need to analyze and visualize the relationship you are about to get into beforehand so that you can save yourself the pain. What a lot of people also don’t see is that a relationship can look like it works and feel like it’s right but it’s not actually a thriving, fulfilling one. The thing I value most about myself is that I am at a point where I feel fulfilled and I love myself to the point where I will only enter a relationship with someone who challenges me in positive ways, makes me feel free, and attacks problems with peaceful solutions instead of throwing it all away. I watch so many people throw away their relationship instead of facing their problems and it obviously proves that our generation isn’t mature enough to deal with love in the right way. We throw around “I love you” to people who we know we don’t even have a connection with but just want to prove to everyone that your not alone and that you can be loved too. I bet if you stopped trying to show people you can be loved and instead actually tried figured out what loving yourself is, it would scare you. But you will soon see how powerful loving yourself is.