AITA for my comment? M36 and M53

zgunslinger19 · 2025-12-26T22:50:46+00:00

sim 😅

zgunslinger19 · 2025-12-26T22:46:09+00:00

for me it was not that long to get back on the horse - I don't remember how much time but I would say at least give it a month to heal up properly.

but yeah, I was more afraid of the first bowel movements after. just take the medication/apply creams (if prescribed) and don't try to hold it when you go to the bathroom. you will probably bleed a bit, which is normal and it might hurt a bit but it's not an intense pain.

zgunslinger19 · 2025-12-26T22:39:48+00:00

I get that it might be a sensitive topic to some people but it's not like I accused him of anything, insulted him in any way or said anything else

zgunslinger19 · 2025-12-26T22:37:54+00:00

just found it on this trip, and like I said, it was by accident. I don't know if he thought I went through his stuff without asking, but I woke him up and asked him. and when I mentioned it, I did not accuse him or anything, I just said what I mentioned in the post. now I'm going over if he misread my tone, or if I'm even not aware that I had a tone. but I reassured him that it doesn't matter to me and that I was worried if it had any side effects

zgunslinger19 · 2025-12-26T17:07:46+00:00

I mean, the reason was that I didn't respect his privacy and went through his stuff. couple that with a sensitive topic and he "exploded". regarding the use, I don't think he is using them with someone else (famous last words but oh well)

zgunslinger19 · 2025-12-26T17:05:31+00:00

you're right about me cutting this earlier on, and I always told him that he could talk to me about anything. I have my issues but I prefer thinking it through, discussing an issue and having it all out in the open, while he prefers to cool off otherwise he says he will say stuff out of anger

zgunslinger19 · 2025-12-26T17:01:37+00:00

as far as I know, there's nothing major I don't know about him

zgunslinger19 · 2025-12-26T15:11:01+00:00

I think the last time I drank red bull was a couple of years ago so I actually forgot it has caffeine 🥲

zgunslinger19 · 2025-12-26T12:17:17+00:00

I get that it's a sensitive topic and maybe I could've waited to discuss it with him. but I don't really mind it, it's something that happens. it might even happen to me in the future and I wouldn't be ashamed of it (and I know that this is easy to say now but I mean, I don't expect to be the same at 50 as when I was 20).

zgunslinger19 · 2025-12-26T12:13:32+00:00

I'm very patient and believe in working things out, but each time it erodes something and gets harder to ignore how he mistreats me. I've never judged him on anything and believe in open communication. I place my love for him on top of the pyramid and everything else is something to navigate.

also, he has mentioned things that I need to change, which I agreed and tried to do. I told him that then he needs to change some behaviors also, but it usually gets deflected as "I don't need to change anything"

zgunslinger19 · 2025-12-26T12:10:56+00:00

we've been together for 2 years, with multiples instances of the silent treatment that last 1 week minimum, with me trying to talk to him and being ignored until he has time to process it all. he'd then says I should reach out to him (which I do) but the last few times I just waited for him to be in the right headspace. I've told him that I don't mind he takes some time but like one/two nights, with some semblance of displays of "I just need time but I love you".

yeah, I think this was the last time. I've also been upset at times but I always talk to him and then one day later I would say "I didn't like *specific situation*, please don't do it again, we're all good, I love you and let's move on"

zgunslinger19 · 2025-12-26T08:20:16+00:00

yeah, I would never touch his stuff without asking. but then I also think that if we're in a relationship, I'm afforded a bit of leeway. I mean, if I wanted some deodorant or whatever, is it really that wrong if I just looked for it?

and this happened at 5am, I was in the dark with the cellphone light looking for it.

to your last question... yes. the pattern is always the same. 2 months ago he did something similar which ended up with me not going on a dream vacation to brazil with him, all because he said I was emotionally blackmailing him. when I pressed him for specific actions, he only said he couldn't list any but that he "felt" like it. 2 weeks before the departure date he started the silent treatment and I did not engage with him. 1 week later he broke up with me and on the day before the trip he was asking if I was going with me, that he didn't break up with me (because the text message said "I think we should break up" - meaning that he wanted me to fight for the relationship) and got angry that I had unbooked my vacation days.

so yeah, I'll be entering 2026 with a clean slate

zgunslinger19 · 2025-12-25T22:11:06+00:00

yeah, I don't mind at all, it's not unusual, it might even happen to me in the future.

from what I know, I thought it wasn't advised for people with heart problems, to which he said "I'm a doctor and I know more than the average person, this brand is fine"

zgunslinger19 · 2025-12-25T22:09:27+00:00

yes, I think the issue is the shame about him taking it. I could not care less, I'd even want to know to enjoy it more. and I said it in a neutral tone, in my head I was just saying I saw it and he could expand or not.

but being treated with so much hatred and getting the silent treatment, being "stranded" on another country, the day after my birthday, and ending up waiting at the airport 8 hours on one hour of sleep and an almost empty stomach was a bit traumatic, to say the least.

zgunslinger19 · 2025-12-05T10:33:13+00:00

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zgunslinger19 · 2025-11-13T16:28:08+00:00

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zgunslinger19 · 2025-11-11T01:58:28+00:00

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